sex after a vag twin birth-and baby B was breech

OkAY LADIES. Since we are all in the first year forum, you have already been through this or are about to. I delivered my twins vag, baby A was head down and was first, Baby B was breech and was delivered breech(ouch) The dr actuallly reached in and tried to turn her from the inside and when she would not, he pulled her foot first. I did not tear, but had lots of brusing and streching from his arm being where no adult arm should ever be. I was given a 8 week post pard. check up date instead of 6 for a little extra time to heal. My DH brought up sex last night. He is standing firm about getting the green light from the dr. so as not to hurt me and make sure all is well, but he wanted to just make out a bit. However, i am now thinking about my poor vagina and is it going to be the same. I do know it DOES go back to almost the size it was(I have 2 older kids) but dont know what to expect after having the twins and the tramatic birth. I was wondering if you ladies would shair with me-or us since we will all be reading this. we have all been there if you have older kids, but since the twins, I feel like a first time mom all over again...really i do so dont laugh! At least im not the only one who is thinking this, Im just the one who is open enough to bring it up. But hey, we are all women..

 

I had a c section so I can't help on the size question. DH and I waited the 6 weeks and intercourse was still very painful. Thankfully he deployed for two months after that and I got to wait another 80 days before having to DTD again.

 

The nurse stated (within dh's ears :angry: ) that after a vaginal delivery, all you have to wait is 2-3 weeks. He claims that I am not the same size there after delivering a 10 lb baby. I did tear with Evan. :hug: I was soooo not into it.

 

Congrats on your babies! Way to go delivering vaginally, especially the breech baby.

I had a vaginal delivery. Pushed 45 minutes with Baby A and 2 hours with Baby B. Baby B was born almost 5 hours after Baby A. Baby B was hard to get out and the dr. had to use the vacuum. I had a 3rd degree tear and an episiotomy. I could hardly walk for a week, the pain was so bad. I remember going to my babies appointment when they were 6 days old and I walked hunched over in pain. I must have looked so ridiculous!

We waited until 6-7 weeks to have sex. It was painful in the beginning. The first time I wouldn't even let DH go all the way in because I was afraid it would hurt too much. Also, I would cramp up after wards. I still cramp up sometimes and it's been 10.5 months. The cramps usually last 15-30 minutes and sometimes I take Motrin to help with the pain. It feel like throbbing in the low part of my pelvis.

 

If you don't have some sort of artificial lubricant, may I suggest you buy some. Use it liberally at first. Liberally.

 

I had my babies vaginally. Jonathan was head first and David was feet first. David was very painful and is head got stuck, so I had to have an episiotomy. DH pounced on me once we were given the green light, 4 weeks. I have to admit, to don't enjoy sex any more. I think that it is hurting my marriage, but I just don't feel it, enjoy it, or want it. It does not feel the same and I am hoping it gets better.

I am sorry that I do not have any words of encouragement. We do use a little lube and that helps.

Jenn

 

I had pretty much the same experience as you, except bigger babies. Both vaginally, baby A head first, baby B breech extraction, 7 lbs 9 oz & 7 lbs 13 oz. Sex was not comfortable at all at first, but now, after 3 years, things are pretty much back the way they should be for both size & pain. Maybe not exactly as they were before, but not bad. Kegel exercises are good for tightening things back up.

 

I had a c-section, and figured I'd bypass any issues... but my doctor said that the horrible pain I was feeling was hormonal! I am breastfeeding... and must say that pretty much until my period started again, when the babies were 11 months sex was painful. UGH! I would say ue lubricant and use more than you think! pretty much for me, its all back to normal now... but I didn't have a vaginal delivery, so not sure how all that works into your equation. good luck! I avoided sex for many many many months b/c it hurt so much!

 

Both my babies were vaginal breech and I recovered amazingly fast with minimal pain (no tearing! yay!) DH and I DTD around 8 weeks PP but now at 12 weeks have not had a 2nd round! I found it did not hurt, though I just find it hard to get into until a few more months pp when I have lost more baby weight and feel somewhat human again. Breastfeeding all day makes me not really want to be touched when I am free of my barnacles, as I like to call them

 

I delivered by c-section and we waited until 6 weeks post-partum to have sex for the first time. I was expecting a terribly painful experience but it was pretty much the same as it had been before. I think the "soreness" if you can even call it that was more from not having sex since I was 23 weeks pregnant b/c I had been told to postpone all sexual activity to keep contractions away. I was just a little self-conscious about my still much larger size, leaking breasts and flabby tummy. Clearly we had no problem getting back into the swing of things because I was pregnant by the time my lo's were 5 months old. (Surprise!) But it did take that long (really longer) for me to be comfortable with how I looked post-baby. I didn't have stretch marks and a flabby pooch when I was married at 21 you know? The only advice I have is to go with what makes you comfortable and speak up, it will get back to how it used to be but communication will help it get there faster.

 

I second that. I had an episiotomy (SP?) and suffered from terrible post-partum hemeroids. DH was very understanding and we waited a full seven weeks. Now, seven months later we still use lots of lubricant, but things are pretty much back to normal.

 

Thank you for posting this question. I have been contemplating but didn't find the courage. I also delivered vaginally. Baby B turned after A came out so doctor reached in, turned him, and pulled him down. That caused two 2nd degree tears.

We tried to have sex once at around 10 weeks I think- the babies sleep in our room so we tried on the couch but it was way too painful.

Now they are almost 6months and we haven't done anything since. We tried the other day, but the babies still sleep in our room and it was too ridiculous having one baby nap on either side of the bed and I started laughing. I finally overcame the giggles and just as I was starting to relax I see a head pop up and then a big smile- and moments later the other baby was awake.

I'm also EBFing and to be honest I have no interest in sex at the moment. I feel bad- the only thing saving me is that DH is just as exhausted so not pressuring me at all, but I do worry it is affecting our relationship. We are both home all day with the babies and then they sleep in our room, and one DS wakes very often during the night, so there is really no opportunity.

And I am so nervous.

So I am no help to you, but glad to commiserate .

 

Vaginal delivery here too. Pretty easy delivery and no tears, so I was lucky. Crazy as it seems, I really wanted to DTD almost immediately. We "waited" 2 1/2 weeks. Didn't use lube and I think it hurt DH. So, then we really waited until a llooooonnnggg while later. All's back to normal.

So really, if you're going to, use lube. And have fun!

 

If you don't want to move the babies in another room and you want to have sex, I would suggest to do it on the floor Might be more comfortable than the couch if you use a few blankets. Have fun