SERIOUSLY!

My twins are four months old on the 18th. They don't sleep through the night yet. They are both up at least twice throughout the night and ready to start their day at 6am. They go to bed for the night between 7-8 Pm. They are bottle and breast fed throughout the day. Both have reflux. DS has it worse. They were both full term and no NICU time. I feel like I am drowning. I also have a 2.5 year old boy who is active active active.
When is this twin thing supposed to get easier?????
Any tips for getting them to sleep through the night?
I followed HSHHC for my son and I am a true believer in CIO. However, last Friday I let DS CIO for 30minutes and he ended up in the emergency room (whole other story). So, as you can imagine I am terrified to let anyone CIO now.

 

Just want to say that it does get easier! I feel for you as I have a little guy,too which adds lots of fun to everyday!

I don't know when it got easier I just suddenly realized it was. I was drowning at that point to in reflux, milk protein allergies, and so on! You can do it!!!! I am too tired to type anything worthwhile but wanted to let you know you are not alone!!

 

I could have posted this at the 3 month mark. It's coming soon for you!!! We noticed a big improvement at 4 months, and another big improvement in sleeping in just the last week and a half. Both babies have gone 12 hours at night (not consistently, but on more than one occassion). We did have to use CIO with DD at bedtime though, she is a huge sleep fighter. After 4 weeks of modififed CIO we went full on, she cried for 20 minutes and then went to sleep, now she fusses for maybe 5 and out she goes.

Hang in there, it's coming :hug99:

 

First off, :hug99: It's tough with the twins and a 2.5 year old. :hug99:

As to when it got easier, it started getting easier for me when they were about 5-6 months. That's when they could sit and be happy with a few toys around them. My ds had reflux really bad and that didn't improve until he was 8/9 months old. I'm not sure how bad your ds reflux is, I hope it isn't too bad. Is he on meds? I have no tips on how to get them to sleep through the night. I just fed them every three hours during the day, and left it all up to them on when they woke up to eat at night. They moved their sleeping to longer periods of time on their own. I do believe they dont' recommend CIO until they are at least 6 months, but I could be wrong on that one. Why did you end up at the ER? You don't have to answer that. I remember it being at it's worst from 3 months to 5 months, and you have your older son, so extra :hug99: to you. I hope things improve for them sleepwise and you get some rest.

 

Mine also will be 4mo on the 18th!
And I have been having the same problems. I KNOW one of my girls could sleep thru the night but between me moving her and her sister's screaming, poor thing doesnt get to sleep! She has slept thru a couple times but lately my girls have been up 6-8x a night! I was happy the other night when I only had to get up twice!

I just started doing CIO on Sunday, I thought we were improving but last night proved to be awful and I am refraining from saying aything about tonight till tomorrow!

No advice, just letting you know you're not alone! Must be something with the date! ardon:

 

YOU CAN DO IT!
I promise! It gets easier! Every 3 months until they are 1. Then they get mobile...a whole other can of worms. But at least you get sleep! 3 months, 6 months, 9 months, 1 year. Believe it or not, the day will come when you will wish you had these days back...I wish I could go back for just a day! They grow so fast!

Do WHATEVER you have to to get through today and tonight. Bad habits can be broken later (and sometimes they break themselves) sleep in swings, co-sleep, use TV. Come on - it's survival mode!

 

First off I don't have a toddler.. the girls are our only children. Here is when things got easier and how.

-At 3 months the girls went from eating every 3 hours around the clock to every 4 hours around the clock so we were only getting up at 12am and 4am (much better than 11pm, 2am, and 5am)

-At 4 1/2 months they dropped the 4am feeding and slept from 12:30 or 1 am until 6 or 7 am. This was huge! 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep is heaven.

-At 5 months they started taking a nap in the morning consistently.

-At 7 months their second and third naps became really consistent too

-At 8 months they slept thru the night from 8 pm until 6 or 7 am. This meant DH and I got alone time each night.

-Now at 11 month, its all of the above (yes they still take a third nap most days), AND they play!!!

My girls also had reflux and were on meds until 6 months when we were able to wean them off. Its rough juggling just two babies, but then add a toddler to the mix, you need to call in the reserves and see if you can get people to help out. GL and hang in there!

 

It got easier slowly but surely!!! At about 4 months we started having success with naps, so that atleast gave my day some structure and I could plan certain things. Then at 6 months they starting sitting up on their own and the "twin fog" started to lift. Once they could both crawl they were MUCH happier babies. And once they started STTN (at 11 months for us) it was a WORLD of difference.

For getting them to sleep thru the night I would focus on daytime sleep first, get them to take good naps and not be overtired. Get a good bedtime routine going. Use white niose.
How often are they waking?

 

6 and a half months was a big turning point for us. Hope it comes soon for you!

 

At 7 months our whole life got easier we did CIO and they were sleeping thru the night with in 3 days.
It makes a huge difference once you can sleep thru the night.
Its hard but they grow so fast, soak up every minute of them being little.

 

I've got a 2.5 year old as well, and it's been in the last 3 months that things have not only become easier, but enjoyable!!! Before it was all about maintenance and balance and sleeplessness and it was tough tough tough. Now everyone sleeps and they are adooooorabe (of course we still have our days, but they are by far the exception--not the rule). Soon you'll have a happy little family again. The first 6 months were hellish.

Reyna

 

For me, between 4 and 5 months was a HUGE turning point. I did followed HSHHC and did CIO at 4.5 months. After that naps fell into place, they started doing more, and I started to finaly feel human. You are right there!! :hug99:

 

What is it with October 18th babies?!?! LOL! Mine too were born that day! And we are not sleeping all that well. Naps are doing ok...In their swings...but some days are hit or miss. I hear stories of STTN at 8 weeks and think people are nuts and I failed somewhere!!

We are still in the carseats...and every day I say, "Today I will put them in the cribs." But I chicken out...I guess in due time...Let me know what works for you! I'm going to be CIO soon!!!! I think I will have to leave the STATE when I do that!

 

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We are still in the carseats...and every day I say, "Today I will put them in the cribs." But I chicken out...I guess in due time...Let me know what works for you! I'm going to be CIO soon!!!! I think I will have to leave the STATE when I do that!



OMG same here! except ours are in teh swings or bouncers. they do nap during the day in teh cribs now, adn we were gonna put them in the cribs tonight, and then i was like, "how about tomorrow night?" this could go on and on and on...

 

Mine are 3 months and STTN, but I have to admit, one sleeps in the bathroom. I use noise for them to sleep. One sleeps in her crib with classical baby music playing all night while the other sleeps in the bathroom in her bouncy seat with the fan on. When I started that (someone on here suggested it), they started STTN. I do the exact same routine every night and so far, so good. However, when I go to my parents ever once in a while and spend the night, they do not STTN (get up several times) and I attribute that to getting out of their routine. They sleep about 8 hours and they are BF.

 

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Mine are 3 months and STTN, but I have to admit, one sleeps in the bathroom. I use noise for them to sleep. One sleeps in her crib with classical baby music playing all night while the other sleeps in the bathroom in her bouncy seat with the fan on. When I started that (someone on here suggested it), they started STTN. I do the exact same routine every night and so far, so good. However, when I go to my parents ever once in a while and spend the night, they do not STTN (get up several times) and I attribute that to getting out of their routine. They sleep about 8 hours and they are BF.


Lesson learned - don't brag about kids STTN. I posted this and they both woke up twice during the night.

 

We took DS to emergency room because he was all sweaty, yet clammy with blue legs and pale face. Turns out that I freaked out rather than handle it in a calm matter. All tests came back negative. See what sleep dep. can do to a mother!!!!!!
I am going to try some of the things you all suggested. Thanks!!!!!