seperation anxiety?

One of my twin boys has already started to make strange... it started a week ago when both his god mother and grandmother picked him up. His little bottom lip came out and started shaking and then a full on red in the face scream. He is very early compared to his twin brother and older brother, he can grab things with out any problem and rolls to the side for a while now. Today they both around lunch started screaming as soon as I tried to put them down anywhere and as soon as I picked them up they stopped. I walked around with them for about 15 minutes but since they are already 13 pounders I couldn't do it any longer at the same time. In the end they settled down and fell asleep on me in the chair. This freaked me out because if this is going to be a trend I don't know how I am going to cope with both of them? Anyone else experience this so early or have any tips?

 

I think that sounds pretty normal to me. Babies just want to be held. It takes time for them to learn independence. As for the separation anxiety, I have seen it happen at various ages on here. Maybe when the Grandmother went to pick him up, she startled him and he got upset.

 

I have started to notice that my girls can get a little upset around strangers - just a couple weeks ago my sister came over and went to pick up Ava from where she was playing on the activity mat and she just started bawling and looked at me as if she was scared. Usually she is very comfortable around other people - it could have just been that she was startled because only a couple days ago we went to my colleague's baby shower and there were about 20 people there and she was smiling and happy the whole time (despite being passed around a few times). Vivian on the other hand started crying about 5 minutes after we got there and I had to leave the room in order to calm her down. So I think the "making strange" phase is starting for us and may be starting for you too. As for the wanting to be held, we went through a phase at around 2-2.5 months where they wanted to be held all the time. I didn't get much else done during that time because I was constantly holding them and rocking in the glider. They will get over that! I wouldn't worry about "spoiling" them by holding them because even though my gals fell asleep in my arms a lot during that time they have no trouble falling asleep for naps and at bedtime now. Occasionally at bedtime I have to rock one for about 5 minutes tops for them to drift off if they start crying and won't settle down. I don't consider that to be a huge burden. Try not to worry and try and enjoy this fleeting stage where they are so needy and dependent!! One last thing - if you are finding it hard to hold them both at the same time because of their weight yet both are crying, you might want to try holding one of them and putting the other in a bouncy seat facing you. If you have a rocker you could hold an interesting toy in your hand and bring it towards your baby as you rock forwards. I do this occasionally when I don't want to hold them both but need to calm them both down. Before I knew it the one in the bouncy seat was giggling and happy and the one on my lap was enjoying herself too. And just yesterday they were both screaming at the top of their lungs and I scooped them up onto my lap and headed over to the rocker (love that thing!) and sang to them. I had to start off singing pretty loud in order to be heard over the screams but within a minute or so they were both calm. It's a delicate balance for sure though! Good luck with your babies and :youcandoit:

 

Sounds normal to me too. I have seen separation anxiety here, at varying ages, come & go around here randomly. Next week he may have no problem with strangers, only for the anxiety to come back in a few months. Hopefully, it will be a short lived phase!

 

My girls were terrible between 3-4 months. If anyone spoke to them, they would cry. Unless it was a very soft whisper. At Thanksgiving they were a nightmare because if anyone tried to help with them, they would just flip out. They got a lot better and now C is having separation anxiety now. It comes in spurts for us

 

Thank you for your tips and support, sometimes you just need to hear that things will get better. I do have a glider but only use it for evening feedings, but I will try it out next time, and I will try putting one in the bouncy chair infront of me too. Great tips =)