scary bedtime issue

This is our second week of CIO. One of our girls is doing great- she is sleeping well in her crib and taking regular naps! Yippie!
Our other girl is having problems. She has been crying until she gets sweaty and backing herself into the corner of her crib and hitting her head on the rails. Tonight I heard her kicking her feet really hard, so I went in to check on her. As soon as I got to her crib she started throwing up. A huge huge amount of throwup. It covered her whole face, her hair, her crib, it was all over! I am terrified of leaving her now because I was afraid something terrible could have happened to her if I had not come in when I did. Has anyone else dealt with this?

 

:hug99: Stacy! I have never had that happen myself, but have seen posts about it. I hope it gets better for you soon!

 

I think if your child is kicking, sweating, and vomiting, you should consider a different approach to sleep. I know CIO is held up as the be-all end-all by many people, but clearly there are kids who cannot handle it. Try reading Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution - there are some helpful ideas in there for helping your kids learn to sleep without CIO.

 

I fortunately have not had that happen but I know I wouldn't be able to deal with that. To me it is less stressfull to have a child that won't sleep or that takes longer to get to sleep than a child that I am worried sick about or that is screaming until they are in obvious distress. I don't blame you for being concerned, that seems a little extreme. Maybe I am wrong but as mommies I don't think we ever want to watch one of our babies go through that so maybe what is working for one baby is just not the approach for the other. DH is always getting on me to just let them CIO but I have not put it into effect yet. If that happened to me I would seek a different method of getting her to sleep. Maybe I'm not the best person to get advice from because mine are 5 months and still up 3-4 times a night :angry: . I'm sure you are ready for some good sleep, hang in there mommy :hug99:

 

Thanks guys. I have never been comfortable with my babies crying. My son slept in my bed until he was 5 because I didn't want him to cry. We tried CIO with the girls out of desperation. Caroline cried a little bit for 3 nights and now goes right to sleep. Anna just can't handle it. I won't let her cry anymore. I read the No Cry Sleep Solution and had no success. Anna just doesn't stay asleep for very long.

 

I am all about toughing it out but being upset until vomiting just doesn't seem like a good idea. I would try just about anything else other than that method again. You may be able to find some of the books at the librbary so you can try different things without having to spend the money on books that may not work. I know that there are several different methods out there that you can try.

Good luck with all of your future efforts.

 

It sounds like CIO is not the way to go with her. What had you been doing to get her to sleep before trying CIO?

 

The only way I can get her to sleep is by nursing. I enjoy nursing and putting her to sleep that way, but she just won't fall asleep until very late and then won't stay asleep. She basically likes to sleep right next to me and take sips all night long. She arches her back and screams when we put her in the crib. We really have tried everything we could think of- rocking, the swing, riding in the car, patting her back, walking- and we have a bedtime routine. CIO was my last choice. I really don't know what to now. CIO just doesn't seem like a safe option for her. Oh, I guess I should also say that my husband only sleeps on the couch b/c he doesn't want to be disturbed.

 

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I think if your child is kicking, sweating, and vomiting, you should consider a different approach to sleep.

I agree. Not everyone should CIO. It's not for everyone! :hug99: I hope you find a way...