Saw Ped yesterday for 9 Month appt and BAD News..

Dear God,
Please help me right now.

I KNEW that they didn't look "good" but I was praying that this was NOT going to be the outcome.

They have grown back or she said "Scar tissue has formed and it isn't your fault etc... This just happens and even on boys who were NOT circumsized.. it happens.."

Here's the deal; my husband is European and he is not circumsized so it was a STUPID move on our part to even do it in the first place.. I was basically on every drug imaginable after my c-section so I was like "go for it." I knew they were early so I didn't give it any thought beforehand cuz I thought we'd take them in to have it done in clinic at a later date.. Turns out they did it IN the NICU.. so whatever.. Nothing I can do about that now.

Anyway, at 8 weeks they had adhesions so the Ped (old Ped don't like her) pulled them back and HOLY Moley was that horrific. They just kept going back and now that I spoke w/ a Ped that I actually like, I understand that it was going to happen no matter what cuz sometimes it just happens no matter what you do!!

So.. here's the SCARY part... IF the Urologist who I take them to (in a week) tells me that if I do not do it-- it will affect the growth of their penises---- then I have NO CHOICE you guys-- but to put them under and do surgery!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My heart is pounding just thinking about this for SOOOO many reasons.. I'm scared for them to have general anesthesia and I'm scared for the pain and recovery for them. I mean, they're 9 months old!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's not like they're 2 days old like the first time. UGH.

I never hear stories about this happening to anyone else but I am sure that it does. The Ped sounded like she sees it often.. too often.

Anyway, I'm scared and sad.

If they tell me that it will work itself out- I'll be sooo happy.

thanks for listening!!

 

Sorry that you are having to deal with this. It would be scary to have to think about anesthesia. Keep us posted after the appt to let us know what they say.

 

Hugs to you--I'm so sorry you are going through this. It is NOT your fault. Please don't blame yourself.

 

:hug99: I know it sounds scary. The dr. sounds confident they'll do well, so that is great news! I hope everything goes well :hug99: .

 

:hug99: Sending good thoughts you and your boys way!

 

Oh, no. I'm so sorry.

If it turns out that they do need the surgeries, you -and they- will make it through! One of mine has gone through anesthesia twice, and it is so very scary, but remember that pediatric anesthesiologists do this for a living, every day. They know what they're doing.

I have a few friends that chose to circumcise their boys at 6 months, instead of at birth, and it wasn't unduly hard on the babies. That's what we had planned to do, if we changed our minds about not circumcising...

I hope it's something that will work itself out, though!

 

I'm sorry you are going through this. My DS had to have general anesthesia at 10 weeks. It was very scary- but as a pp said, pediatric anesthesiologists do this every day. The one who did Connor's surgery was so supportive and helpful- and took great care of Connor. It turned out just fine- as I am sure it will for you if you have to go that route. Hugs! :hug99:

 

I'm so sorry you are going through this! My thoughts and prayers are with you and I am sure everything will turn out OK!

Lots of :hug99:

 

I just wanted you to know I went through circumcised drama with my oldest DS… I did NOT want to do it, but dh is… and everyone under the sun told me I need to… well I cried and they took him away… something in my gut said don’t do it… well they brought him back screaming and said they had to stop half way through because his urethra (sp?) was not centered… well a million specialist later… they were wrong, it turn out the nurse put the bell (they use as a guide) on off center so it LOOKED like his urethra was off center… well now I have a partially circumcised son… now that he is 10 it looks ok… our new ped said you can’t tell it wasn’t completed (as I have limited penis knowledge ardon: )… but when he was a toddler I heard one of my sons friend ask him why his penis was different when I took them to the potty …
We too thought we would have to operate, but in the end we only needed to operate for cosmetic reasons… and I couldn’t bring myself to do that… it has worked out… but I want you to know I was scared to death… and reading your story brought it all back… also as pp said, they do this for a living, and many on TS have gone through surgeries with their babies … I know it doesn’t make it easier… but they have and all has been ok in the end :hug99: …

Elizabeth

 

Lots of hugs to you! I'm so surprised they both had this problem. We had to wait until the boys were 30 days old to get the circs. They made us leave the room. It will be hard to see them in the gowns, but you are doing the right thing for them. Don't feel guilty, as you can't predict scar tissue growth. I hope everything works out for the best!

 

Oh no! I am sorry there are problems. I have no advice but I hope you are able to get some more answers from the urologist next week. There is nothing you can do (or could do) to change it so don't feel guilty.

 

You guys are sooo nice. Thank you. I appreciate the encouragement and you are all sooo right that they will be fine under anesthesia. It isn't like the "old days" when I was a kid. Ha.

I "knew" in my heart, that I should not have circumcised them. I just knew. I didn't want to and DH isn't so.. I guess I caved under the pressure of "it's just what WE do here.." Ugh.

And as far as them BOTH having it.. they are as identical as identical can be. There is not one thing that one has that the other does not.. this is no different. In this case tho, I wish it was.

I know it's stupid to say it cuz there's nothing I can do, but IF I had it to do over, I wouldn't... even if this wouldn't have happened. I still wouldn't do it again. I'm furious that they circ'd them at 35 weeks anyway.. that is absurd! Ugh.

Thank you gals.

 

Sending hugs your way.

Dianna

 

My older DS (13) was put under when he was about 3 to have tubes put in his ears. I was warned that he would be uncomfortable and groggy, possibly sick for the rest of the day. I was so scared for my baby to be put under and to then be in pain. We had thought about going to the toy store after to pick out a little consolation gift but weren't sure how he would feel after. He woke up wasn't sick or in pain. We went to the toy store and he walked around for quite a while trying to pick the right thing and then he played as normal for the rest of the day. He was fine. I know that this is not the same thing, but it is a similar situation. You will both be fine, have faith. Keep us posted.

Jen