sad but true! HELP!

okay ladies...this is not a good topic but i need help! i think i may need professional help but thought i would try you guys first! okay....here it is:

I am 17 weeks pregnant with fraternal twins...i have two other children 5 and 3.....i have only been with my boyfriend for 6 months....i am recently divorced(about a year and a half ago)...im 24.....im a very attractive person.....im a very very loving mother. i love my girls wiht all my heart.....but for some reason i have changed for the worse! i want an abortion! BAD BAD BAD I KNOW! i have been thinking about this for several weeks now. and i cant belive the thoughts that go through my head! its craziness! i think alot of it has to do with the fact that my boyfriend is the love of my life! i love him more than anything besides my girls of course! and i am afraid it is no more than a physical thing now and with my body changing i am freaked out that he is going to leave me or cheat on me due to my physical changes! and i am really wanting to prevent that. and i know if that would ever happen he isnt worth staying with or losing my two precious twins over but i cant do it by myself. and i tried to talk to him about adoption, simply because i cant stand the thought of them inducing my labor and vacuuming out my children, and he siad never! but never really gave a response about the abortion part. which really frightens me. this is not me ladies! not me at all....i hate to say this and i should burn in hell for it but im afraid they will ruin my life! my happy perfect life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and i understand all of you probably want to punch me square between the eyes....but i just need information! i need some sort of advice! please dont hate me for feeling like this, please just understand that i am a mother in a rough spot in her life seeking advice!

 

You're not a horrible person and you're not the only one worried that twins (or any child) will ruin the life you've created for yourself. You have a lot of options and there is support out there if you need help figuring out how to move forward. If nothing else, call Planned Parenthood and ask them if they have a pregnancy counselor you can talk to. She can help you think through how twins will change your life, and will help you explore all of the options available to you.

You mention that you're worried that your boyfriend will cheat on you or leave you because your body isn't as attractive while you're pregnant. You know this as much as anyone, but I'll repeat it so you see it in wriring from someone else: if your boyfriend doesn't love you while you're huge and pregnant, he's not the one for you.

Only you know what's best in your situation... but please remember that there are many many many people out there who would jump at the opportunity to adopt your twins if you can't raise them.

Good luck!

 

Honey, please relax. You're body is coursing with hormones and please don't let them take over the rational part of you that I can see in your post. You said yourself that if he cheats or leaves, then he isn't worth it. Why do you think that he would do that? It seems as if you've thought of every excuse as to why you don't want theses babies, but then you've countered those excuses with rational reasons why you should. I do agree with you that you need to talk to a professional. There's nothing wrong with that. I had to have counseling with my second pregnancy. I knew she was a girl and I had been sexually abused as a child. I would have flashbacks of those things happening to my little girl. Horrible dreams that made me afraid to go to sleep. I didn't want to be constantly worrying about who was watching my baby or doing god knows what to her. The counselor I went to was wonderful. I am still very cautious about who my girls are left with when I have to be away, but the love I have from the both of them is well worth the struggle I had with my demons while I was pregnant. Please sit and talk with someone!! I also know that there are MANY MANY families that go through hell to adopt a baby or to even get pregnant in the first place. Many of those are on this board. If your boyfriend is totally against adoption, but abortion is okay to him, maybe he needs to go to counseling with you. Sending you lots of LOVE and UNDERSTANDING!!


Edit: Sorry guys, I'm a perfectionist when it comes to punctuation.

 

I'm not sure if this will help or not, but I totally agree with the previous women.

1. If he can't love you while pregnant, then he doesn't love you the way you deserve.
2. You've been through a LOT in a short period of time. Lots of changes. Give yourself some time to adjust WITHOUT imput from "people who love you". Join a women's group, go see a therapist, or even just go on a mom-only weekend retreat. Do something that gives you TIME to think about where you are and how you got there. Then you can start to see where you are going.
3. With my previous pregnancy, I had lots of the worst symptoms. When I ended up having to quit the job I LOVED and had waited for 5 years to get at 18 weeks pregnant while also entirely giving up my social life, I went through a phase where I hated being pregnant and wondered if I'd made the wrong decision. Thankfully, my DH recognized that I was having a hard time adjusting to all the changes coupled with the hormones. He and my OB ganged up on me until I agreed to join an online support group for women on bed rest. Just having people who understood made it so much better. Thankfully, after I felt like I had some control and understanding of what was going on, the thoughts of "what if" went away.

Best of luck,

Dominique
15 weeks pregnant with twins
mother of Claire Abbegail, forever 17 days old.

 

Hey sweetie,

That's a brave post. I'm hearing two things in it: "it is no more than a physical thing now" and "my two precious twins". Aging, weight gain ... so many things can change our looks, not just pregnancy, and I know you know deep down that you need someone who loves you for what's on the inside as well as the wrapping in order to go the distance. Please seek some kind of professional counselling before you make this decision. Whatever turns out to be right for you will be right, but it's got to come from that place inside you that's centered and wise and calm, not in desperation over a guy that could turn out to be a bit of a lothario. Deep breaths, okay? I'm glad everyone's being so supportive here, and feel sure I am not alone in saying you could could PM one of us if you needed to talk more.

Hugs,
M

 

THANX TO ALL FOR ADVICE. SADLY TO SAY, TODAY I HAVE DONE NOTHING BUT CRY IN MY BEDROOM AND HOPE AND PARY THAT I START BLEEDING! I HAVE DONE ALOT OF RESEARCH ON ABORTION AT MY STAGE AND ITS AWFUL! WHY AM I GOING THROUGH THIS? WHY DO I HATE IT SO MUCH? I GUESS I JUST FELT LIKE THINGS WERE SO GREAT WITH MY BOYFRIEND(THAT REALLY LOVES ME SO MUCH) AND MY TWO GIRLS AND WE GOT A NEW PLACE TOGETHER AND EVERYTHING SEEMED TO BE SO PERFECT UNTIL THAT SECOND LINE SHOWED UP! AT THAT POINT WHEN I FOUND OUT I WANTED TO KEEP IT SO BAD BUT I STILL SCHEDULED AN APPOINTMENT TO GET THE OPERATION DONE. WELL WHEN I TOLD HIM HE WAS ANIT-ABORTION. HIS LAST GIRLFRIEND HAD ONE AND HE SAID HE WAS SO UPSET ABOUT IT. SO I DECIDED NOT TOO. I DONT BLAME HIM FOR ANYTHING I AM GOING THROUGH. I NKOW HE LOVES ME REGARDLESS OF WHAT I LOOK LIKE. BUT I AM QUITE BIG ALREADY AT ONLY 17 WEEKS THAT IM SCARED OF WHAT I WILL LOOK LIKE AFTER THEY COME. AND I CANT BELIEVE I AM BEING THAT SELFISH. I LOVE MY BABIES ALREADY! IM JUST TOO WEAK TO DEAL WITH MY PROBLEMS AND I CANT TAKE STRESS. I AGREE WITH YOU ALL THAT I DO NEED TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP AND GET SOME ANSWERS ON WHY I AM FEELING THIS WAY! BECAUSE TO ME IT IS ALL PHYSICAL! I DONT WANT MY BODY TO CHANGE! I LOVE THIS GUY SO MUCH MY HEART HURTS TO THINK ABOUT US SPLITTING FOR ANY REASON! AND HE TRIES HIS HARDEST TO REASSURE ME EVERYDAY HOW BEAUTIFUL I AM AND HOW HE LOVES ME FOR WHO I AM AND THE SIGHT OF ME BEARING HIS TWINS(WHICH WAS A BIG SHOCK....NO HISTORY IN OUR FAMILIES) MAKES HIM SEE MORE BEAUTY IN ME. AND HE IS TRYING HIS HARDEST BUT I JUST CANT SEEM TO GET OVER THESE FEELINGS! I JUST WANT TO REMAIN THE GIRL THAT MADE HIM DROOL....MADE HIS HEAD TURN....YA KNOW? AND I AM JUST AFRAID IT WILL BE RUINED AND SO WILL MY LIFE!

 

But you're only 24! If you stay healthy, eat well and keep active as long as you are able, there's no reason to think you should lose your beautiful figure because of this pg. Hey, I'm 36 and I don't plan on losing mine! How is your body after your two girls? Shouldn't that be an indication and reassurance of how your figure will snap back?
M

 

It sounds like you really do want these babies, but are frightened and going through lots of changes. It's okay! :hug99: I think we all felt scared about different things while we were pregnant.

I'm not a doctor, but could you be having some depression from hormones? It sounds like you feel like your emotions are out of control, and there are definitely things that can help even while you're pregnant. Could you talk to your OB at your next appointment about perhaps seeing someone about it? Or even give her a call.

Huge congratulations. Twins are wonderful!!

I'm sure you know about the option of adoption if you don't feel like you can take care of these little guys right now. But that doesn't sound like the case in your situation.

This is a great support group, seriously!! The people here are so kind and encouraging. It really helped me during my pregnancy.

Hang in there!!!!! :love0028:

 

I can say I know where you are coming from. ...Kinda.

My husband is active military, which I’m so proud of him for. While he was stationed in Iraq, I decided I was going to get healthy and drop all my previous baby weight and be a real knock out when he came home. After struggling for 15 months I did it! I lost 67lbs. I finally felt SEXY! .... Flash forward 2 months. I knew I was pregnant. I was like you; I was upset about loosing my body all over again to a baby. Come to find out I was actually loosing it to TWO! I had feelings of anger, and failure. I was selfish in wanting to keep my slimmer self. Well after a 3 month marathon of throwing up due to god-awful morning sickness, I hadn’t gained any weight, In-fact I lost almost 33lbs. Now, well I’m much rounder and looking already like I’m 9months along instead of 4.5! I can tell you with much honesty, I still look in the mirror and feel a little let down. My over grown stomach, new stretch marks, and no clothes that fit, all of that takes the back seat when I feel my babies kick. When I’m lying down to go to bed and they are kicking and rolling. I know in my heart, it’s worth it. And after they are born I will have a whole new goal. I lost the weight once; I surely can do it again!

Good luck, Chin up and see someone who can help you through this. HUGS!

 

My body after my girls was GREAT! very think....flat belly....no stretch marks at all......perfect! but im so scared of stretch marks and not bouncing back. it makes me cry everyday looking at my belly! i really do think i am depressed and i see my DR next friday so i will be sure to mention this to him and see if i can talk with someone. it just sux cuz i have been depressed now since oct last year when i tried to kill myself and i got off my meds which were lexapro-10mg...not really anything! more the hospital's policy to make me leave with a prescription. lol. didnt really need it so i got off it and now it seems as those extreme thoughts are coming back and its not good! thank you all! you guys have made me cry but they have been tears of happiness cuz i have some sort of hope that this can be normal but extreme feelings. thank you ladies so much!!!!!

 

QUOTE(madhouse101 @ Aug 1 2008, 07:08 PM) [snapback]908781[/snapback]
i really do think i am depressed and i see my DR next friday so i will be sure to mention this to him and see if i can talk with someone. it just sux cuz i have been depressed now since oct last year when i tried to kill myself and i got off my meds which were lexapro-10mg...not really anything! more the hospital's policy to make me leave with a prescription. lol. didnt really need it so i got off it and now it seems as those extreme thoughts are coming back and its not good!


If you are having "extreme thoughts" you might want to make a call to your OB today instead of waiting until next week. I am sure they would want to know about it.

 

QUOTE(madhouse101 @ Aug 1 2008, 03:08 PM) [snapback]908781[/snapback]
My body after my girls was GREAT! very think....flat belly....no stretch marks at all......perfect! but im so scared of stretch marks and not bouncing back. it makes me cry everyday looking at my belly! i really do think i am depressed and i see my DR next friday so i will be sure to mention this to him and see if i can talk with someone. it just sux cuz i have been depressed now since oct last year when i tried to kill myself and i got off my meds which were lexapro-10mg...not really anything! more the hospital's policy to make me leave with a prescription. lol. didnt really need it so i got off it and now it seems as those extreme thoughts are coming back and its not good! thank you all! you guys have made me cry but they have been tears of happiness cuz i have some sort of hope that this can be normal but extreme feelings. thank you ladies so much!!!!!

I really think you need to call your Dr. NOW!! Please do not wait until your appt. next Friday. If those "extreme thoughts" are coming back you need to call ASAP!!!

 

I am so sorry you are going through such a hard time ~ I have to agree that you should call your dr. today & just let them know how you are feeling about things. That is what they are there for.

 

I'm so glad you feel hope after sharing with us ... and I'm also glad you felt you could share the fact that you were diagnosed with depression. It seems like a missing piece of the puzzle, my love. Get yourself on that phone like everyone's saying, don't wait. The sooner you get some professional help the sooner you can get these dark, upsetting and irrational feelings far away from you and start making decisions and moving forward from your true place of peace. It sounds to us like you've got SO MUCH going for you, every reason to turn this into a blessed celebration if you want to! You're going to be fine and your body is going to be beautiful as always, so try not to be sad in the meantime. Go do it!!

Keep us updated,
Molly :hug99:

 

i dont feel those extreme feelings as in killing myself! i have learned from that experience that my life is too important. the feelings i am talking about are the depressed feelings. which never led to my attempt. some family matter lead to that. i dont feel that i am going to harm myself or anyone else for that matter within the next week. lol....just feeling extremely DOWN! and just need people to talk to. my family works ALL THE TIME cant seem to talk to them til its conveient for them and just not that close with his yet. so thanx once again! my day is actually getting better i have been smiling and got out to do some grocery shopping so its getting better. just still have the thought of "what it will be like if i dont keep them" in the back of my mind. and its eating at me but i am going to go out with the girls tonight and grab something to eat and a movie and see how things are then! i might just need to get out of this cave called home for once. i feel like i am trapped here!!!!!!

 

I ditto calling planned parenthood, they can help you sort out your options and refer you to a counsler if you need one. At minimum mention all this to your ob with a call TODAY

 

QUOTE(madhouse101 @ Aug 1 2008, 04:53 PM) [snapback]908959[/snapback]
just feeling extremely DOWN! and just need people to talk to.

I still think you should call before your appt. next Friday. :hug99:

 

I think you should call your Dr as well, but I wanted you to know I bounced back faster with the twins then I did with my singleton 10 years ago… my DH even says I looked better at 10w pp then I did before our “surprise” pregnancy showed its face… my dh and I had to give a speech at my older sons school graduation when I was 7 w pp (we were co PA prez) and I got more compliments that day then my wedding day … I am not trying to ring my own bell but during my husband’s part of the speech he mentioned I had give birth to twins 7 weeks ago and I am not exaggerating when I say the crowd gasped… and then laughed at the gasps (it was funny)… I am not trying to brag…I just want you to know… I was told by so many mom that day how it wasn’t fair how hot I looked 7 w pp when there last child was born 7 years ago… so… don’t think you will be “ruined” as I thought I would be… just because you are having twins or any child… in my case… it just wasn’t so… I think I’m even hotter having two 3 m on my lap in my bikini… so please call your dr even if its just to humor us ladies :love0028: ...

 

There are some medications that you can take while pregnant for depression. I
am sure there are other women who are depressed while pregnant.

You don't need to suffer and beat yourself up. I am sorry you are feeling so bad :hug99:

Please see a doctor and a therapist soon. You need to talk about all your feelings.

I hope you start to feel better about the situation. You have gotten so much
good information from the other posters.

Please let us know how you are doing.

 

hi hun
first try to take a deep breath,
i know what you are feeling, i have 2 boys at home 2yrs & 4 yrs and am 14week with twins,
im was so scared, until i read post on here and what other moms of kids do, what i see in here is they add to your life not case problems, no matter what choice you make it is for the rest of your life,

as for your bf, any man that would think of cheating on his pregant gf is scum, your nerous,
talk to him, there is a twin big sister program on here, i would check that out, they give you someone to talk to that has been there , my big sister is awesome, lets say because of her i know sleep at night. i would do that before you do anything,

what did you feel when you found out you where pregant?
angela

 

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THANX TO ALL FOR ADVICE. SADLY TO SAY, TODAY I HAVE DONE NOTHING BUT CRY IN MY BEDROOM AND HOPE AND PARY THAT I START BLEEDING! I HAVE DONE ALOT OF RESEARCH ON ABORTION AT MY STAGE AND ITS AWFUL! WHY AM I GOING THROUGH THIS? WHY DO I HATE IT SO MUCH? I GUESS I JUST FELT LIKE THINGS WERE SO GREAT WITH MY BOYFRIEND(THAT REALLY LOVES ME SO MUCH) AND MY TWO GIRLS AND WE GOT A NEW PLACE TOGETHER AND EVERYTHING SEEMED TO BE SO PERFECT UNTIL THAT SECOND LINE SHOWED UP! AT THAT POINT WHEN I FOUND OUT I WANTED TO KEEP IT SO BAD BUT I STILL SCHEDULED AN APPOINTMENT TO GET THE OPERATION DONE. WELL WHEN I TOLD HIM HE WAS ANIT-ABORTION. HIS LAST GIRLFRIEND HAD ONE AND HE SAID HE WAS SO UPSET ABOUT IT. SO I DECIDED NOT TOO. I DONT BLAME HIM FOR ANYTHING I AM GOING THROUGH. I NKOW HE LOVES ME REGARDLESS OF WHAT I LOOK LIKE. BUT I AM QUITE BIG ALREADY AT ONLY 17 WEEKS THAT IM SCARED OF WHAT I WILL LOOK LIKE AFTER THEY COME. AND I CANT BELIEVE I AM BEING THAT SELFISH. I LOVE MY BABIES ALREADY! IM JUST TOO WEAK TO DEAL WITH MY PROBLEMS AND I CANT TAKE STRESS. I AGREE WITH YOU ALL THAT I DO NEED TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP AND GET SOME ANSWERS ON WHY I AM FEELING THIS WAY! BECAUSE TO ME IT IS ALL PHYSICAL! I DONT WANT MY BODY TO CHANGE! I LOVE THIS GUY SO MUCH MY HEART HURTS TO THINK ABOUT US SPLITTING FOR ANY REASON! AND HE TRIES HIS HARDEST TO REASSURE ME EVERYDAY HOW BEAUTIFUL I AM AND HOW HE LOVES ME FOR WHO I AM AND THE SIGHT OF ME BEARING HIS TWINS(WHICH WAS A BIG SHOCK....NO HISTORY IN OUR FAMILIES) MAKES HIM SEE MORE BEAUTY IN ME. AND HE IS TRYING HIS HARDEST BUT I JUST CANT SEEM TO GET OVER THESE FEELINGS! I JUST WANT TO REMAIN THE GIRL THAT MADE HIM DROOL....MADE HIS HEAD TURN....YA KNOW? AND I AM JUST AFRAID IT WILL BE RUINED AND SO WILL MY LIFE!


I envy you. My mom told me once that when a man looks at the women bearing his children she should be the most beautiful person right then. Sounds like you have that. I don't. My dh, as dear as he is, lives in a state of denial about the twins that I don't expect he's going to really snap out of any time soon. It took me a while to realize he's just scared and has every right to be. This will be our first two kids. Anyway, my point is, you sound like you're with a wonderful man, and if your relationship can survive this, it will be able to survive even more down the road. Life's not always going to go smoothly, there are going to be curve balls thrown at you, but some of those curve balls, like this one, will turn out so wonderful! It sounds like you'll at least have someone by your side that will love you no matter what. :hug99: Hang in there!

 

Wow, sorry to hear all about this. I do think you need professional help, I don't think you are crazy, but you need help to go through what you are goigh through. Depression is bad, let alone amplified when pregnant! And yes, there are medications you can take when pregnant (I lined up an 'emergency' plan with my psych) but they take a while to work. My dad is a psychiatrist and many of the medications that might be short-acting and listed as 'harmful' he thinks are safe to take during a short time, until the longer stuff kicks in, for instance. After all, you hear stories all the time about women who drank, did drugs, and all sorts of crap have babies all the time- controlled medication for a short time if you need it will likely not harm your baby, but your state of mind/stress can, especially if it continues after birth. I am SO glad you are seeking help for that, good for you!

I am glad your b/f feels the same way about abortion you do, because IMO you need to do what you would feel more comfortable with. what YOU need to do. If he was a jerk and wanted you to get one despite your feelings, how would you feel if you later split up?

Another thing I would mention is, being someone who has been there (depression and anxiety) and a string of unhealthy relationships where I was too dependant on my bf, even a few mentally abusive ones, I really think you are too dependant on your boyfriend. You have gone through a lot, and he is filling that hole that the hardship and divorce you went through left. You are not bad for it, but it is natural- you've been through a lot, have a huge gaping emotional hole because of it, on top of the depression. And people tend to cling in situations like this. But I'm mentioning it to you that no matter how much you love him your description of how that controls your own emotions and how you feel about things is definitely unhealthy. I know, I've been there. LOTS. I have concern that you are losing yourself in him, and using him as your point of stability. I would STRONGLY focus on looking for a good counselor that will help you build up your own confidence, sense of self, etc. so you know you will be OK on your own with your girls no matter what. Also, from my past experience I would strongly recommend making sure to maintain your friendships by spending at least 1 or 2 days a week (or evening) AWAY from your boyfriend, in my past experience those friendships became priceless as a balencing point, and for support when going through a bad patch. Also, no matter how much your BF loves you, your need for reassurance and depression will afffect him too and wear on him (because he loves you) and maintaining those friendships will give him a little time to recooperate.

IMO, I also think you will feel better about things later. But having been through a divorce, it may take you a while because you have scars from that.

 

Finding out you are pregnant can be a shocker by itself and then to find out that there are 2 babies when you weren't even wanting to be pregnant with 1 at the time is a huge shocker. I understand totally why you are freaking out!! I would have totally had an abortion with my ds#1 if my now dh would have agreed - we were young, still in school and living with our parents. Thank God he was against it I cannot imagine life without Tad. You posting the words precious twins tells me that once those babies are here you won't be able to imagine life without them either - and that the guilt of the abortion would eat you up inside. Your body is still perfect - pregnant perfect. and it can be just as perfect as it was 17 weeks ago after you give birth. Your boyfriend sounds like a good guy - he sounds like he is behind you 100%. All I can say is that it won't be easy but it will be oh so worth it.

Take care of yourself - you being strong and healthy during this time that you are pregnant with his babies- the better off you will be to clean up all of that drool!! because he will be drooling!!

:hug99: ,
Heather

 

:angry: OKAY FOR ALL OF YOU OUT THERE WANTING AN UPDATE......AS YOU CAN SEE.....I HAVE NOT GOTTEN AN ABORTION! JUST TO LET YOU KNOW....I WAS SIMPLY WANTING TO SEE HOW MANY PEOPLE HAD THOSE THOUGHTS WHILE PREGNANT! AND I WAS NOT GOING TO TAKE THE INITIATIVE TO ACTUALLY DO THAT! I WAS JUST SIMPLY VENTING TO ALL ABOUT HOW I FEEL LIKE I MY FUTURE WILL BE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT AND HOW AT THAT TIME I REGRETTED LETTING THIS HAPPEN!!!!!!!! ALSO I HAD LOST A FEW FAMILY MEMEBERS THAT WEEK IN A CAR ACCIDENT AND ALSO 1 FRIEND THAT WAS VERY DEAR TO ME IN ANOTHER CAR ACCIDENT 6 MILES AWAY FROM MY HOUSE WHEN THEY WERE ON THEIR WAY TO MY SEX TOY PARTY! SO ALL EMOTHIONS BUILT UP TO WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE! SO THOSE OF YOU WITH RUDE MESSAGES TO ME SENT PRIVATLY CANSCREW OFF! SORRY MY LIFE AND FEELINGS ARENT AS PERFECT AS YOURS! I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM A VERY VERY VERY VERY GOOD MOTHER TO MY TWO CHILDREN! I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF WHILE PREGNANT! I SMILE ALOT! I HAVE THE BEST MAN EVER!!!! AND I DO LIVE THE BEST LIFE! BUT JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE....THERE COMES A TIME WHERE YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS COME CRASHING DOWN ON YOU AND YOU HAVE NOWHERE TO TURN! UNLIKE MANY OF YOU....I HAVE FEW FRIENDS. I MOVED AWAY FROM ALL FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND THE ONES I DO HAVE....I DONT BOTHER WITH MY PROBLEMS! I AM NOW SHORT ONE. SO THANK YOU ALL FOR JUST GIVING ME YOUR ADVICE AND LETTING ME KNOWEVERYTHING WILL BE OK! I GREATLY APPRECIATE IT! MY PRAYERS WERE ANSWERED! FOR THE REST OF YOU....._____OFF! YOUR BELLIES LOOK GREAT! I LOVE BELLIES! AND FOR THE POIST LASTNIGHT....I HAVE STOPPED BLEEDING AND JUST RESTING TODAY! GO THE DR TOMORROW AND I WILL UPDATE YOU THEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!