Right, so, I'm weird. You'll learn this about me eventually so we may as well get it out of the way now. :laughing: Seriously, is (or was) anyone else kind of superstitious about doing things for both babies before they are born? I'm so scared that something will happen, (what with them being mono/di) to one or both of them, that I feel weird setting up cribs and things. But from everything I'm reading here, everyone is saying to set things up early as they could come early or i could be too uncomfortable or on bed rest later. So. How do I talk myself out of this fear of I guess "jinxing" things by setting everything up early? Believe me, logically I *KNOW* this is stupid and pointless. I'm the first one to say "don't worry about things until they happen" but this si my one emotional/mental weak spot with these babies. I'm 18wks and some odd days and I'm hoping it's just nerves and it will pass. Any suggestions on talking some sense to myself?
I think I'm right there with you. I didn't want to take the tags off of anything I got from my baby showers. I knew I was being weird (which is normal for me) so I called my mom and asked if there was any reason I should leave the tags on the gifts. She was like "No. It's yours now! have fun!" And I did have a lot of fun putting away baby clothes and trying to figure out how to fit two cribs and a changing table in such a tiny nursery! My advice is to set up your nursery. I think once you get started you'll have a lot of fun. And you don't want to be where I'm at. My co-sleeper won't be ordered until next week, I could have these guys any day now, and I have no where to put them! Have plenty of clothes though. I just keep telling myself as long as I'm taking care of myself and the babies as best I can that's all I can do. Getting things ready is part of doing what you can for your babies. It will help you get even more excited about having the babies and those good vibes will do a lot of good! Just let someone else do the heavy lifting. :hug99:
OMG YES I am SO superstitious. I was ALWAYS superstitious once I found out I was preg, more so when I found out it was twins, and went over the edge when I found out ours are mono/di as well. My superstition goes even beyond that- if I buy a new piece of Maternity clothing, I don't want to tell people I won't see, etc... I am glad to know I am not the only one who is being overly superstitious about it I know it's silly but it is comforting to know others are having the same human reactions
I think it's normal to have fears I put off quite a bit of things during my pregnancy due to the fact that I think I was still a little in denial that I was having twins!! I waited until the very end & then was kicking myself for not starting sooner. It was SO much fun setting things up & getting everything ready & I wasn't able to really enjoy it due to the fact I was put on bedrest. I had to sit on the sidelines & order DH around (sounds like a lot more fun than it really was - I am a control freak!). Maybe just start with something small & see how you feel? You still have plenty of time, so take it easy & do what you are comfortable doing - HAVE FUN!
I'm a bit there too. But mine are mono mono. I've been asked about a baby shower and I told them wait till after. I used the excuse of we won't know how big they'll be when they come home and we already have enough clothes to make it through 0-3 months stuff. Plus we have all the big things we need already having had two babies already. But I think I'm just afraid to get stuff and then have something go wrong. My mom started buying things and I wanted to question her about it, but held off. I think it's just a weird way our brains have. I'm hoping I get over it sooner than later. I really should have clothes at least out before they come and the bedding washed and such.
Well thank *goodness* for that! I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I've vowed to myself that as soon as we have the sex confirmed I'll start a little at a time! We did buy our cribs already (my DS is 8 so we had to start all over!) because we found two matching ones at a major department store here that was going out of business. They were only £29.00 each! Thanks ladies-I feel so much better knowing it's not just me! XO Becky
I had nothing set up for the twins because I thought if they die it would be too hard to take it all down again. We had a crib etc... all in our basement but nothing set up, no clothes anything. I went into labour at 31 weeks though, so i don't know if i would have started setting stuff up and washing clothes if I had still been pregnant at 38 weeks. Anyhow when they arrived they needed 6 weeks of NICU time and that gave me plenty of time to get it all ready for them. With my daughter, after suffering a late pregnancy loss, I was even worse and when she was born I had only washed about 4 onesies. My husband had to set up the crib etc... when we got home with her 12 hours after her birth. But I loved going shopping with my baby knowing she had been delivered fine, rather than being huge and nervous. Millie
I am totally there with you - I am only 16 weeks, but I feel like I should be doing something or buying something and I won't let myself do it. For those of you who have their twins already, when did you start doing things? TIA!
I was never like this with my first pregnancy. I had everything set up and name decided by 7th month. But this time around with my mono/di twins and the many occasions that occurred when we were told the babies might not make it. I just didnt have the heart to buy or setup anything. Now I am 35 weeks and pretty much in the safe zone and we are struggling to finalize the names, get everything organized. I am still very superstitious and very few people know that we are expecting twins. Well I am one of those crazy people :crazy: , but I am happy that way.
