Rewards

I started PTing Emilie Tuesday evening and she stayed dry all the evening. She did great yesterday and stayed dry all day long, only had a poop accident, which I expect at this point. Today has not been as great. She's had 3 pee accidents and has told me after she peed that she had to go pee pee on the potty (yesterday she told me a few times before she had to go). As of right now I am not doing rewards with her, but I'm thinking I may need to start. But how do I do rewards if I'm only PTing her and not Trevor. Does he get a reward too? If not, how do you explain to him that he does not get a treat when she does. :umm:


TIA!

 

I did a sticker chart and only Alina, the one PTing, got one. I'd tell Madison she'd get one too if she went on the potty, but she didn't (and still doesn't) care about it and didn't really care that she wasn't getting stickers. I also had a "Good Job" stamper and if either of them sat on the potty and tried for a reasonable amount of time, they got to put a stamp on their chart. That appeased Madison during the first few days. Alina trained within a few days and stopped asking for stickers after a week or so. We are still working on the poop though.

 

Yep, I tried to use rewards I knew Hannah didn't want to reward Sarah, like stickers. Hannah really didn't care about those, but sarah thought they were great.

 

We did stickers too...and eventually Jake just went and didn't care if he got a sticker or not. Now, Peyton is 3 1/2 and could care less about ANYTHING when we try to get him to go.

 

Mine have not had a problem with that concept. I suppose you could say we are PT'ing them both, because they do both get treats if they go on the potty -- but for the most part Sarah chooses not to go on the potty, so she gets no treats. She actually seems to really enjoy watching Amy eat her M&Ms... (That may have something to do with the fact that every once in a while, Amy is in the mood to share. )

Anyway, I don't think there's a problem with only one of them getting rewards, if only one of them is using the potty -- unless you are actively preventing Trevor from using the potty if he wants to.

 

I did the stickers and chart with one as well. Allison is always curious and sometimes wants a sticker, but as soon as I tell her she has to pee in the potty it is promptly not talked about again--she refuses to pee in the potty.

 

I'll admit, that's how I got Nick to start going when I started with Alex. He wanted the treat, too. So, I would give him one m&m just for sitting on the potty, 2 if he went. It was great, and they both learned together.

 

I give a skittle for pee pee, and a little Halloween size bag of M&M's (with about 2/3 of the M&M's dumped out) for poop. Lily always shares an M&M or 2 with Grace, so Grace gets really excited when Lily poops on the potty.

But I do not give Grace any candy myself. I do talk up that she'd get a skittle or her own M&M's if she went on the potty. At first, she'd throw a tantrum, now she is starting to come around and will at least sit on the potty sometimes. I do give her a sticker for trying (she's never actually produced anything in the potty).

I think one of the daycare teachers feels bad for Grace and gives her a skittle when Lily gets one. I can't prove it, I just know I replace skittles way too often for just Lily having them.

ETA: Oh, I also do not give a skittle if Lily doesn't ask. I would like to wean the reward off, although I'm okay with it being in play to try to get Grace interested in potty training.

 

Thank you for your input Ladies. So far, I have not had to reward Emilie, but I may have to to get her to poop on the potty. Now Trevor is going to be a different story I'm thinking. Anyway, thanks again.

 

It was hard at first to only reward the one who went in the potty. But it did make the other want try harder to go. Now Josh who is pretty much all trained, gets maybe one gummy a day if that. But if Zach gets one for finally using the potty Josh gets one too. Stickers did nothing for my boys. Gummys were the bit hit (and I found some sugar free ones too LOL but they dont know it!).