Wishing everyone a happy mother's day. My mom gave me a card... it was really nice. Jeramie (husband) informed me he bought a vintage accordion but he likes it so much that he kept it for himself. He bought a card from the kids to me while he was with me at the store and was like "you want to just read it so we can put it back... I just looked at him. He bought it and then I opened it this morning and it said you used to be hip but now you look like $*** love the new look. Then he signs the kids and his name to it. I haven't showed that it bothered me at all. Just smiled and tried to have the best day I could... basically taken care of the kids and slept most of the day because I was up with the kids all night because he couldn't handle both kids at one time. God he sucks. Not a ***** fest just needed a release. No response needed.
I know you said no response needed, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry you had such a terrible Mother's Day and I'm sorry your husband was so, well, awful about giving you a nice card and appreciating you as his wife and his children's mom. He needs a little kick!
Paige, I too know you said no response needed but just wanted to pass along a happy mother's day to you and sorry that he was an arse to you!
Happy Mothers Day! I know you said no response but I couldn't help sending you a note to say that and to say your a great mom! Hugs!! :hug99:
[SIZE=10pt]I'm so sorry dear :hug99: I know if your kiddos could have bought/made you something they would have!! You're a great mommy and THEY know it! Happy Mother's Day!! April [/SIZE]
Sorry...couldn't NOT post how sorry I am that this happened to you on Mother's day though I'm sure this is not foreign behavior for him. Please talk to him and possibly a marriage counselor. That is not acceptable behavior.
QUOTE(fourznuff @ May 12 2008, 05:09 AM) [snapback]767965[/snapback] Good thing Father's Day is after Mother's Day! -Kimberly I agree. Make sure you return in kind. So sorry
Wow...what does he expect ? For the first two months after my twins were born I looked like a wino who just crawled out from under a bridge. I didn't have time to put on makeup or worry about my hair. There's not much time to spend on yourself in the beginning. I'm sorry, but he sounds dumb.
Well.. Father's Day is coming up real soon and you'll just have to remember that what goes around-- comes around. Be out of town that day.. I would! Sorry and that is pretty much unacceptable. Happy Mothers Day..
Paige, My sister's husband had a similar sense of humor and did similar things (if anything) for her first Mother's Day and her birthday, etc. She thought she was doing the right thing by saying nothing, but after several holidays of disappointment she finally told him like it was. Now she gets treated the way she deserves. I have to believe that he didn't mean to hurt you. :hug99: By the way, you have posted pics of yourself and you are beautiful!
That is abusive, imo. No person should have to put up with that. Never mind someone with brand new babies! It is him, not you. Remember that. I second Serranoboys that he probably does things like that frequently and you have grown used to it. You shouldn't have to. And save that card for later. It may end up earning you more money.
Thank you all for your response and support. He walked in after I posted the message and saw I was upset. He just handed me Arden and walked out. I was thinking oh great now he is going to say I have postpartum depression or something. He later approached me and asked if I was upset because of my niece (bad day with psycho mother) I said no and he was like did I upset you and I let it rip... yeah you are mean, wtf is going through your head... your mom might find it acceptable behavior for your dad to destroy everyday that doesn't focus on him but it is unacceptable for me. I am done with you ruining my days. He was like how did I ruin your day... umm lets start with the beautiful "well you are not gaining weight... you just have a lot of loose skin... like you are melting." (Then my mom chiming in with the hip statement - wtf) Then the lovely card experience.. "I was really tired when I picked that out... I knew when you read it out loud this morning I messed up" Yep you did!!! Then the accordion thing when you bought it for mothers day and decided to keep it for yourself was plain rude and mean. You are a DICK! Then he was like fine ruin the surprise I am getting your pickups installed in your guitar... Today is Mothers day everything else is an after thought you didn't do anything, not even take pictures of the kids and I... You ruined my 1st mothers day. He said he was sorry followed by blame shifting and lame excuses... I am over it. Grrrrr on an awesome good note my little man and I hung out all this morning (Arden is bonding with dad) and he flipped stomach to back 6 times in a row... I got it on video and then he flipped back to stomach 2x. He did so awesome. Arden was standing up on her elbows (90 degree) and looking at me and smiling for a super long time last night cooing and talking away. That was a great mommy days present they could ever give! Well thanks again and hope everyone is having a good day thus far!
QUOTE(5girlies @ May 12 2008, 07:01 AM) [snapback]768100[/snapback] Paige, My sister's husband had a similar sense of humor and did similar things (if anything) for her first Mother's Day and her birthday, etc. She thought she was doing the right thing by saying nothing, but after several holidays of disappointment she finally told him like it was. Now she gets treated the way she deserves. I have to believe that he didn't mean to hurt you. :hug99: By the way, you have posted pics of yourself and you are beautiful! Thank you.
QUOTE(Kendra77 @ May 12 2008, 05:58 AM) [snapback]768051[/snapback] Wow...what does he expect ? For the first two months after my twins were born I looked like a wino who just crawled out from under a bridge. I didn't have time to put on makeup or worry about my hair. There's not much time to spend on yourself in the beginning. I'm sorry, but he sounds dumb. exactly but I still do straighten my hair everyday and keep up on plucking and so forth... (you know you are a mother of twins when you write brush teeth, fix hair, and take a shower on the daily to do list) I mean, I know I look like *** sporting the jogging shorts and wife beater look but whatever, I am whipping out the boob or being spit up on ever other minute and he isn't around anyways. I have no issues or insecurities with the way I look. I know I need to tone and work out but as everyone is aware I just popped 2 kids out of my stomach and my c-section incision just closed like 4 days ago. I have lost all weight gain during pregnancy plus 14 more lbs... he on the other hand gained more than I did and still is sporting the weight. Believe me I have weight to loose... but he knows he does too.
I'm sorry that happened to you, I don't know that it'll make you feel any better, but if it's ok I'd like to share my story with you. So... Saturday, DH says I need to get you something for mother's day, so I need to go to ..nearest town of any size.. to get it. I said, OK are you going to take us with you? he says well, I guess I could. so the conversation was over we got busy, yada yada yada. so I got to thinking about what he wanted to get me and I knew it was an ipod. He is forever buying things for me that HE wants me to have and I didn't want him to waste his money so I said..."would it hurt your feelings if I told you something to NOT get me for mother's day?" He said no what? I told him that I didn't think I would use an ipod frequently because I spend a lot of time in the car and have no port for one and there isn't any time at home when I don't need to hear what is going on. He said OK, well that's what I was going to get. I said well, I figured but i just didn't want you to waste money on something I wouldn't use. He said ok. nothing else was said, sunday morning comes (my brother and sister in law are over visiting from out of town for their mother) and I get up, first at 4:21 am to 1 screaming child...back to bed at 5 am, roll around listening to him snore, cough, etc. then back up at 6:18 am, for the other child. Up for the day, feed the babies and cook breakfast for everyone, clean up, take care of the babies.... blah blah blah. sunday night comes around and NOTHING. Not even a card. All I got was "I feel bad because I didn't get you a card or anything." I just shrugged my shoulders and didn't say a word, because if i had I probably wouldve cried. The thing that gets me about it all is that his excuse was that he didn't have an opportunity, which is not valid because he had just gone to the grocery store the Saturday night with his brother for beer and could've picked one up then. GRRRRR Sorry so long..... but thanks for letting me vent. feel free to criticize because I may be over reacting.. I tend to do that. Maybe I should give him credit for wanting to buy the ipod......
QUOTE(NC CoastTwins @ May 12 2008, 10:43 AM) [snapback]768501[/snapback] I'm sorry that happened to you, I don't know that it'll make you feel any better, but if it's ok I'd like to share my story with you. So... Saturday, DH says I need to get you something for mother's day, so I need to go to ..nearest town of any size.. to get it. I said, OK are you going to take us with you? he says well, I guess I could. so the conversation was over we got busy, yada yada yada. so I got to thinking about what he wanted to get me and I knew it was an ipod. He is forever buying things for me that HE wants me to have and I didn't want him to waste his money so I said..."would it hurt your feelings if I told you something to NOT get me for mother's day?" He said no what? I told him that I didn't think I would use an ipod frequently because I spend a lot of time in the car and have no port for one and there isn't any time at home when I don't need to hear what is going on. He said OK, well that's what I was going to get. I said well, I figured but i just didn't want you to waste money on something I wouldn't use. He said ok. nothing else was said, sunday morning comes (my brother and sister in law are over visiting from out of town for their mother) and I get up, first at 4:21 am to 1 screaming child...back to bed at 5 am, roll around listening to him snore, cough, etc. then back up at 6:18 am, for the other child. Up for the day, feed the babies and cook breakfast for everyone, clean up, take care of the babies.... blah blah blah. sunday night comes around and NOTHING. Not even a card. All I got was "I feel bad because I didn't get you a card or anything." I just shrugged my shoulders and didn't say a word, because if i had I probably wouldve cried. The thing that gets me about it all is that his excuse was that he didn't have an opportunity, which is not valid because he had just gone to the grocery store the Saturday night with his brother for beer and could've picked one up then. GRRRRR Sorry so long..... but thanks for letting me vent. feel free to criticize because I may be over reacting.. I tend to do that. Maybe I should give him credit for wanting to buy the ipod...... nope you have validity... no over reaction there. Sorry he messed up your special day! wanting and doing are to different things. Mine used the excuse that he had no time.... ( I am staying with my mom.. she is helping with the kids because he "can't help because he has to work" and he comes from Houston on the weekends... so he has all week to sleep and go to work and chill and do whatever he want so that was a load of BS. They messed up and were thoughtless suck it up and fix it. Mine does the buy what he wants not what I want too. ie pickups for guitar...
I am so sorry, I am glad you told him how you felt and I hope he makes up for it big time! Or else I think fathers day should be father gets to hang with the kids all day long (quality time) while you go shopping for yourself and maybe a nice card with something a little rude written in it! Sorry, but pay backs are **** What an idiot! Maybe you should show him this thread so we can all tell him about himself! You are a great mom and you deserve better then that! Some men just suck!
I am so happy you enjoyed your babies and their milestones!!! Your DH should be much nicer to you today. I'm sorry he did not treat you the way you deserved. ;-(
