Refusal Of A Pelvic Exam

I just wanted to ask about the pelvic exams.

I know that most if not all physician want to do a pelvic exam.

But I refused because of previous miscarriages.

The doctor made me feel like I was either sleeping around or he needed to do it now.

I told him not to do it. Because I am married and my children may be of different ethnic backgrounds but I have a husband.

He made it seem like I was sleeping around.

He said we can wait til later. But I told him I had just had a pelvic exam after my miscarriage in Dec 08.

I told him he could request it from the doctor I was at there.

Has anyone else had to deal with a doctor making you fee lbad about a decision you make concerning your body.

 

I am sorry that your Dr made you feel bad! I never refused pelvic exams in the beginning, but once I was put in the hospital on bedrest my regular OB told me to refuse them unless absolutely necessary. I didn't let anyone in between my legs during that time. When the Dr's at the hospital would bring it up, I told them where I stood on the subject and they said it was perfectly fine.

 

I don't recall ever having a pelvic exam that early? Either way, I'm sorry he made you feel so bad. :hug: :hug: :hug:

 

I'm sorry your doctor made you feel bad. That's not right :angry: It seems like too often these days doctors just want us to follow them blindly and get angry if we voice concerns. Stick with what you feel comfortable with and if necessary, switch doctors! :hug:

 

So sorry he made you feel bad. It is your decision and you should stick to your gut feeling about this!

 

Some doctors are jerks and if he's pissing you off now, maybe you should switch? I dont think you should be made to feel bad about something that concerns your body.

 

I honeslty can't remember if I had a pelvic exam at that point or not - my kids have fried my brain

But this Dr obviously upset you a great deal and I would seriously consider the advice of finding a new one. There are a lot more vists with twins than a singleton and I'm thinking this is not someone you are going to want to keep seeing. I'm confused what the ethnicities of your children and even if you were sleeping around (not saying you wre, mind you) have to do with having the pelvic exam. If your Dr brought these things up (?) I would consider not only finding a new Dr but reporting him/her to the medical board.

 

I'm 36 weeks and haven't had one. I would DEFINATELY find a new doctor. I had one doctor like that and I wasn't comfortable which is what you need right now.

hEATHER

 

I left my old OB doctor because of the way he spoke to me at my last appt with him (2+ years ago). Basically, the year before I had done some genetic testing (my DH carries some genetic traits that if I had would be harmful) because we were going to maybe start trying to have a baby. When I went for my next annual, I asked for a refill on my BCP and he started yelling at me that he thought I was going to start trying for a baby. I was like, yes that was the plan but I had inside information (from my CEO) that my division was going to be shut down in the next 6 months and didn't know if I would have a job or health insurance so it wasn't good timing. He continued to give me a hard time because I was 31 and in his opinion running out of time.
I left there feeling horrible but I knew it was the right decision, my life was very stressful at the time. Never went back and switched practices. Little did he know that at 33 I would get pregnant and with twins no less!

If he's making you feel uncomfortable, I would look at switching if possible because you definitely want to have strong trust in your relationship with your doc.

 

After finding out I was preggie the only pelvic I had was at the beginning to take a sample of cervical cells because of my cervical cancer scares. Not even a full exam. After that, I did not have one until my 8th month.

Kuddos for you for standing up for your care. Some women just go with it to keep the peace making themselves miserable. Pregnancy is a wonderful time and you shouldnt dread going to the docs. Doctors are not gods and do not have the final say on alot of things to do with your own body. If there is more than one doctor in the practice when you make your appointments, ask to not have him be your provider that visit. Its your right to ask to not be treated by a certain doc if they make you uncomfortable and feel unsecure. You might have to explain it to the nursing staff. If hes the only doc, I would suggest finding another OB you are comfortable with. These people are going to deliver your children. You need to be ok with them since you are putting your children in their care as well untill after they are born.

Good luck :hug:

 

I had a pelvic exam early on, and I wished I hadn't.. they say it's a standard test, but the likelihood that you'll have an abnormal pap during pregnancy is higher, but the likelihood that they'll do anything about it during pregnancy is pretty low. So.. there's really no point! Especially if you have had regular exams and good medical care leading up to it. Also, I ended up with some bleeding afterward from the test, and that just caused more concern than it was worth. If your doctor can't respect your concerns, I'd say dump him. There's plenty of doctors out there who will listen and take care of you! Not worth the stress.