Referring to my boys as colors and not their names

Ok, so I may be over reacting but I find this to be very rude. Today we were at mil's house and my bil who has never met our boys came into town and another bil who has met them before. The one said he can't tell them apart (the are frat) so he started calling them by what they were wearing. Jake was in blue, Josh in red. So for the rest of the evening, he would say "hey, do you want to hold blue or red", or "red's crying, I don't want to hold him" We had to leave for 15 minutes and when we came back they were like "blue was ok, but red cried they entire time you were gone". I said it's not that hard to figure out you have a 50/50 chance of getting it right. He said it was too hard and calling them by colors was easier.


These are grown men in their late 50's. I just hate it when people don't take the time to even try to tell them apart. It's not that hard. Jake is 1lb heavier, has less hair and big chubby checks. Josh has full wavy hair and is smaller. Maybe it's because I'm with them every day I can easily tell them apart, but still. Or just take a mental note: Jake is in blue, Josh in red.

I told my DH I did not think it was funny and he said their old and it's hard for them. Oh please :angry:

My sister has id girls who are now 22. I remember when they were little everyone including family would ask "now who are you" and it really upset them.

I'm glad they live out of state so I don't have to deal with them on a regular basis.

Here's a recent pic-can you tell them apart ( Jake is on the right)
Jake & Josh

 

Of all the nicknames my family and friends have come up with for my girls, none have bothered me.

However, if they were referring to them as "pink" and "purple" (our choice colors for them for a while), I definitely would have been upset!! I don't blame you a bit. I personally don't think it's funny either.

 

Ok, I am not even looking at your boys and I can tell them apart! Josh is in red and Jake in blue!!
That would make me mental!

 

You can tell they are Frats.

Sorry you had to deal with those stupid comments.

 

That is how my son refers to his sisters. For a while, we thought he could tell them apart - now, if he can, he won't let it show. "Mommy, the yellow baby hit me." "Mommy, the pink baby is spitting." Drives me nuts, but...I don't know how to tell a 4yo how to tell his ID sisters apart. In your case though - I can tell them apart!! They should make the effort - even if they get it wrong.

 

Next time referr to them as Uncle Green and Uncle Black or whatever colour THEY are wearing.

 

Annoying!
I can definitely tell them apart. Sorry Uncle was being a jerk.

 

QUOTE(heathertwins @ Jun 12 2008, 10:35 PM) [snapback]824368[/snapback]
Next time referr to them as Uncle Green and Uncle Black or whatever colour THEY are wearing.

:laughing: I love it!!

I just noticed you edited to add the pic. I can certainly tell they are frat. Mine are also as frat as can be and people constantly have a hard time with their names. It's obviously not because they can't tell them apart, but because they don't remember which name belongs to which child.

 

How annoying! They look different to me but one thing I've noticed is that some people tend to be very good at telling my babies apart and some are very bad. Usually they just ask. I've never had anyone give my children nicknames like that. It would have really annoyed me too. Sorry you had to deal with that.

 

Wow that is totally inconsiderate considering they do look different. The old comment is a bunch of bs too! Sorry that you had to deal with that!

 

QUOTE(heathertwins @ Jun 12 2008, 10:35 PM) [snapback]824368[/snapback]
Next time referr to them as Uncle Green and Uncle Black or whatever colour THEY are wearing.



:rofl: I love it!

 

I must be the odd one out!! We asked my niece which baby was crying and she called out 'the pink one' and I thought it was funny. If one baby has been crankier than the other I often joke to DH that we're 'gonna have to sell the blue one, too noisy' LOL.
But I guess if they were saying it constantly all night it might get on my nerves. Sorry they upset you.

 

Gotta say first they are so cute and you can tell the difference. If you ever have that problem just change their outfits a lot to really confuse them

 

QUOTE(belinda07 @ Jun 13 2008, 06:23 AM) [snapback]824663[/snapback]
I must be the odd one out!! We asked my niece which baby was crying and she called out 'the pink one' and I thought it was funny. If one baby has been crankier than the other I often joke to DH that we're 'gonna have to sell the blue one, too noisy' LOL.
But I guess if they were saying it constantly all night it might get on my nerves. Sorry they upset you.



It doesn't really bother us either. My big ones (only 4 and 2) can't tell them apart yet, so they'll either say "the pink one is crying" or "which one is Sarah?" to which I reply "the pink one is Sarah." It's just easier for us sometimes

 

QUOTE(heathertwins @ Jun 12 2008, 09:35 PM) [snapback]824368[/snapback]
Next time referr to them as Uncle Green and Uncle Black or whatever colour THEY are wearing.

I love it! Perfect response!

 

That is SO rude! I like the idea about referring to them by the colors they are wearing

 

When the babies were brand new and for the first couple months my three year old would refer to them as the pink baby and the blue baby (even if they weren’t wearing that color) but he was 34 months at the time so it was cute to hear him do it. Grown men doing it on purpose because they are lazy is infuriating for sure.
I don’t know if it will help but my BIL never comes around and hasn’t seen the babies since the first of the year so a couple weeks ago my husband talked me into going to the BIL birthday party. When we walked in carrying the babies in their seats the BIL turned to the people at the table and said “this is my brother his wife my nephew J.T. and then the babies one is Audrey and the other one is Blake but don’t ask me witch is witch because I cant tell them apart” I looked at him and said “well besides the fact that one is a girl with brown hair with a pink blanket and the other one is a boy with blond hair I can totally see where you would have that problem, I mean since they are twins and all.”
Unfortunately even family members do and say stupid things and think it is funny.

 

That would drive me crazy too! I have the same issue with MIL's boyfriend. He NEVER calls the girls by their name and says that he cannot tell them apart. I know that they are probably ID and look very alike, but Izzy has 4 very noticeable hemangiomas (red bumps) on the top of her head, Olivia does not have any. All you have to do is look at the top of their head. He still calls them this one or that one or the other one. It drives me nuts!!!!!

 

I am a twin, and that stuff never bothered me. What did bother me was being compared.... "Lisa, you have a little bit longer face", etc. That is RUDE. :angry:


Nobody can tell our girls apart, but Chloe has less hair. She is often referred to as the bald one. Still, they are young and at this point I'm not bothered by it.

 

QUOTE(heathertwins @ Jun 12 2008, 10:35 PM) [snapback]824368[/snapback]
Next time referr to them as Uncle Green and Uncle Black or whatever colour THEY are wearing.



lol. I love it!!!!!!!!!1

 

Thanks ladies,
I just feel they should at least try to figure out who is who and if they get it wrong at least they tried. The next time we see them, I'll make sure to dress them the same :winking0009:

My one bil has grey hair and I think that is what I'll call him the next time I see him. "Hey Grey how's it going". :blbl:

 

First I have to say they are so darn cute! You can definately tell them apart!

 

Maybe next time you should dress them alike .. then see what they do. I have a thread started about our preschool not being able to tell my boys apart and after over a year it IS a little annoying. They've even resorted to putting a sticker/tape on ones back. Sometimes with their names written on it.
I love the idea of calling the uncles by the color they are wearing (or by their hair color) !

 

The color thing would bug me. My husband refers to our sons as TUBIE and NON TUBIE! Deven is TUBIE because he was on Life Support and a Ventilator for 2 weeks and Ethen was not. Now the kids are calling them that! I do like the calling the uncles the color tho lol