really rough week

I don't even know why I'm posting this... DH's dad died when the girls were 6 weeks old and he had to fly half way across the country to deal with everything. During that week all my friends and some family rallied and helped me take care of the girls... well its 8 months later and we are here again.. his mom had a massive stroke two days ago and basically we are waiting for the inevitable to happen. This is so sad. They didn't think she would make it thru the night.. she did but its not good. DH just left for the airport. He'll be gone at least a week.. he promises he'll be home for Christmas, but I told him he has to do what he has to do. I'm just so sad for him right now.. and me and my girls. But I'm SO thankful that we went to visit for thanksgiving. We were going to put it off, but we made the right decision by going. We have so much video and pictures of the girls with my MIL and I'm so happy that my husband is crazy with the video camera. I'm just so sad that the girls will never know DH's parents... I really don't know why I'm posting this... I guess I just needed to get it out. Thanks for 'listening'. -Leighann

 

Oh, that's such sad news. What a difficult time for your family. :hug99: But what a good thing that you got that Thanksgiving visit in!

Thank you for posting - it's a good reminder to cherish loved ones every day and never take them for granted...

Lots and lots of hugs and sympathy going out to you and your whole family. :love0028:

 

I am so sorry. And I think your posting is the best thing for you to do....even if it doesn't make sense (which yours does), it's good to get it out. Hang in there and, again, my condolences.

 

Leighann-

I'm really sorry that this year has been hard on you and your husband. Just remember that you're lucky that the girls got to spend some time with their grandparents and they will always have memories - on camera of course. With loss comes life and I'm sure that your girls will fill the void that your husband feels with the loss of his parents. All you can do at this point is be there for him and remind him that his parents are always with you and your family in spirit.

Wishing you and your family peace and happiness this holiday season!

Suzanne

 

That is terrible. I'm so sorry. Take care, Liesel

 

I am so sorry. I wish there was something I could say. I'm really glad you and the girls were able to share that special time with her over Thanksgiving.

Thinking about you all.

 

My MIL died of a stroke when I was 8 months pregnant---We were SO glad we had just been there for Christmas. I'm so sorry you and your dh are going through this. Please let us know how it's going....

Reyna

 

:hug99: I'm sorry for your dh, and you, and your kiddos.

 

I'm so sorry -- it's so hard -- DH's mom died a exactly (to the day) a year before the boys were born - and DH's dad died when I was 7 months pregant. I get so choked up evertime I buy a "I love grandma" or "I love grandpa" gift - I know how much they would have loved them. Your family will be in my prayers.....

 

My MIL died of a stroke when I was 8 months pregnant---We were SO glad we had just been there for Christmas. I'm so sorry you and your dh are going through this. Please let us know how it's going....

Reyna


eta: I have no idea how this post got on here twice! Sorry!

 

Oh, Leighann, i'm so sorry. For DH and for you and the girls.
Good for you for telling him to do what he needs to; i'm sure he'll try and be home for christmas to be w/all his girls.

And it is wonderful that you made the visit; you should be deeply proud that you didn't put it off; his mom got to see them and the girls got to be w/her and have pics and video that you can share as they get older.

Your poor DH has had a rough year, and unfortunately most men don't share their emotions the way we tend to, so he'll probably have a hard time. I'm sure nothing will help like seeing his girls and loving wife.

Thinking of you.

 

Oh Leighann, I am so sorry. We are here for you! I am glad you posted. :hug99:

 

I am so sorry for your family. Your husband has incurred incredible loss this year. By all means just keep doing what you are doing, and never wonder why you are posting here! That is what we are all here for. When he gets home, surround him with love from you and the girls. It is good that you guys did all get to visit over Thanksgiving!

Take care,

Missy

 

Thank you everyone. After the travel day from H*** yesterday (we are in the NE and because of the snow there were many delays), DH finally got there at midnight and went straight to the hospital. He called me on his way there last night, but I haven't heard from him since. he said he would only call if something happened because he wanted me to sleep (only got like 4 hours the night before). Well even though the girls have been sttn forever, last night they were up a couple of times and I'm not sure why.. maybe they 'know' something is wrong because daddy isn't home. I don't know, but I didn't mind rocking them one bit last night since I doubt I would have slept anyway.

Its only 9 am there and I'm sure DH and his sibs had a long night at the hospital... Its just so rough and my big stoic DH said last night on the phone "This is so much harder than with my dad." I just started crying because I've only seen him cry like twice since we've been together (9 years) and it just breaks my heart... Thank you again for your thoughts and kind words. -Leighann

 

I'm so sorry this happened. Even though your babies are older, you could still benefit from support from your friends and family. Make sure you send an e-mail because I'm sure they'll want to drop off food etc., while you're on your own.

 

I am so sorry, Leighann. Wish there were something I could say....we lost my FIL almost 9 years ago, and I so regret that he never got to know his grandkids....

Wishing you all strength and peace....

 

:love0028:

 

:hug99: bless your hearts. your family is in our thoughts and prayers.

 

I am sooo sorry to hear that Leighann. That is so tough. I can sympathsize some too. When Em was 3wks old, FIL passed and then right after she turned 1, his brother passed in a motorcycle accident. It was really rough.

I do hope that your DH will make it home for his girl's first Christmas. My thought and prayers are with you.

April

 

Hey Leighann-

I am so sorry for your sad news. You and your family is in my prayers and I hope that your hubby makes it home for Christmas with you and the girls.

 

I'm so sorry your family is going through this right now. :hug99: The men are always supposed to be the "Strong" ones and I know it can be so heartbreaking to see them 'broken and grieving' and feel powerless to help them. I've never seen a man cry so much as when my DH did when we lost our baby girls. Praying for you.

 

:hug99:

So, so sorry to hear this. You're in our thoughts.

 

Leighann, I am so sorry to hear about your DH's mother. Its not easy losing a parent. My DH lost his mother when my oldest was young. I can't imagine how much harder that is with twin infants as well. :hug99: Lots of hugs to you. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

 

L

just want to ditto what CHJH said - call your friends, call in your support system - because you need and deserve it as well.