Raging Hormones?

Just wondering if husbands (or boyfriends) can get raging hormones during pregnancy. I seem all chilled out all the time, my husaband seems to be down my neck ALL the time.....very frustrating! If I ask him just a simple question he goes off the edge! Do any of you have this problem....I am running out of patience with it, and its making me feel anxious...

Juli

 

Just wondering if husbands (or boyfriends) can get raging hormones during pregnancy. I seem all chilled out all the time, my husaband seems to be down my neck ALL the time.....very frustrating! If I ask him just a simple question he goes off the edge! Do any of you have this problem....I am running out of patience with it, and its making me feel anxious...

Juli

 

OH YES I swear my DH has more pg hormones than I do. I mean I could swear he was pregnant. He sleeps all the time, more than I do. He eats more than I do. Gained more weight than I have and is MOODY. I've determined he's the pregnant one and I'm just carrying them.
Hopefully it will get better soon...

 

My husband has been great through the whole process...but he can get a little testy. Just give him some chocolate cake Haha!

 

My husband usually gets like that when he's worring about something. i don't believe that is hormones, i believe that is caused by stress. it may not be on your end. it would most likely come from out side the home, like work or friends that tease or things like that. try to find out how his days are at work and find out what people are telling him. not like in a grilling session but just like i would be talking to you and ask how his day went. when my husband gets like that i try to keep our daughter occupied with something so that she isn't making it worse and after we put her to bed we sit and talk about his day. he does feel better and seems more sensible and isn't on edge. men have pressures outside the home as well and even though we are the ones carrying the babies, we need to try to comfort our hubbies and boyfriends at times too.
it can also have to do with feeling like he is losing grip on what he has now. like maybe no kids, no worries about diapers, daycare, or lack of sleep, but he will adjust to the change. Just remember it takes a real man to be a daddy!

good luck and lots of love!
meshell

 

Ditto to pp; I think having twins is also incredibly hard on the dads. These are our first, and i know my DH is thrilled (now that i'm showing and he's seen them in u/s and had time to get used to the idea), but- it's also stressful because it's the end of an era, he's worried about what it will mean in our lives, he's worried about me being only focused on the babies and not him, he's worried that I'll be super-connected to them and he won't, he's worried about suddenly feeling like he has to be 'the breadwinner'.....as well as all kinds of other external stuff that might be going on.

I agree a good way to address is it to have a conversation (with no TV, ballgame or any other distraction), and say something like "i've been noticing that you seem very stressed (or anxious, or whatever word will let him hear that you are NOT accusing him and really want to have a conversation about it.

I know that sometimes since i'm so caught up in all that's going on in my body i occasionally forget how it's impacting him (especially since i wasn't able to do almost anything around the house for the four straight months that i puked!

Good luck