Question for moms of b/g twins

Is your boy more physical when playing? Charlie is very physical - head butting, knocking Kate over, etc. and I want to know if this is normal behavior for a boy. Our oldest is a very active little girl, but she never got physical like that when playing.
The only thing I feel comfortable doing at this age is telling him no and moving him from the situation. Any other suggestions?

 

Is your boy more physical when playing? Charlie is very physical - head butting, knocking Kate over, etc. and I want to know if this is normal behavior for a boy. Our oldest is a very active little girl, but she never got physical like that when playing.
The only thing I feel comfortable doing at this age is telling him no and moving him from the situation. Any other suggestions?

 

Ben is VERY physical. He does not hit or push out of anger, but he does do it out of silliness or when he is acting goofy. He also gets really excited and will throw his body around. Unfortunately, Hannah is often on the receiving end.

I say lots of "gentle"s throughout the day, and he is good at apologizing when he has been too rough. Since it isn't intentional, I don't punish. But I feel like I am on him constantly to "simmer down."

 

Yes, our son is def. ALL BOY...we don't discourage him being active like a boy, but we try to teach him how to be gentle, especially with his sister. He will sometimes try to wrestle her or sit on her. She is pretty tough when she wants to be, but he still needs to learn to treat her like a lady. He is also very mellow at times and will sit down with a book all by himelf and just look at his book forever.
We correct him when he is intentially mean to his sister or anyone, by pushing them over or stealing their toys or hitting.

He has been learning how to give his sister hugs and kisses and like to do that often. They have also just learned to hold hands, which is so cute! I think these things will teach him how to be loving toward his sister and not just see her as a life-size toy.

Your twins are still young, so I think that getting his attention IN the situation (ie: hold him still, hold his hands so he does not hit) an telling him over and over "be gentle" "we don't hit" "gentle" then SHOW him HOW to be gentle will help him understand. If he continues, you can remove him from the sitution. I think that teaching him HOW to behave instead of just taking him away from it and tell him no is important. Because at this age he does not understand how he is supposed to behave, he is just doing what feels natural and he is really going to be starting to learn his physical boundries. This is totally normal....no worries!! Just stay consistant and he'll eventually pick up on how to be gentle.
I know with my dd, she quickly learned how to retaliate, too...so we had to teach her to be nice and gentle, as well! She also learned she could scream at him, and that worked too...lol.

HTH

 

Same Here--
Henry is so active compared to Lilly. I hear this from many parents of b/g twins too, so I would not worry!

 

Yep, Ryan can be the more physical one. Of course Sofia has learned to give as good as she gets.

 

It's the same way here. In the beginning, Gabe was more physical when he was upset... often biting, pulling hair or pushing. Now that we managed to get through that phase, he's just very active and physical at times in a non-aggressive way. He's 5 lbs heavier, an inch taller and quite a bit stronger than Natalie... so even when he doesn't mean to, he sometimes knocks her over or rolls on her. Natalie has toughened up, though. She used to cry every time he bumped her... but now she's great at just moving on and not getting upset. The funny thing is, though, that Gabe is much more sensitive than Natalie. He cries easier and is more clingy to me.

 

It think it is normal for twins regardless of the gender. I mean who else but twins trips etc have a playmate/punching bag the same age 24/7?

 

Yes, my son is rougher than my daughter. He pulls her hair, throws himself around, pushes her more, etc..

He doesn't yet really listen to No and Gentle, but I keep at it.

 

Blake is the more agressive one, but I will say Katelyn is not far behind. They both have their fair share of moments!

 

Matthew is definately more physical. He is ALL boy. Even though Mia is bigger than him, he has no problem pushing her around. I'm secretly hoping that one day she will physically stand up for herself. He's the climber,the leader,the biter,the hitter, you name it. He's also very agile. He attempts to do headstands---yes, headstands--- isn't that odd for a 2y.o.???

Crystal

 

Antonio is much more physical if they are standing together and he wants to get by he will grab her and push her out of his way...but thats normal..not just b/c he's a boy but b/c he's a baby and its not like he knows to say excuse me i need to get by sis...ofcourse when i catch him doing that i stop him and tell him no...hopefully he will start grasping the noooooooo and he'll learn that isnt a good thing.

 

Okay, I'm in the definite minority here! My daughter is the more physical of the two! Andrew is all boy, but she outweighs him by about 3 pounds and is a few inches taller! Yeek! That is starting to change, somewhat, though. She has always taken the lead from the very beginning when she broke my water on the day they were born. She was head down in my cervix while he was lying transverse way up high. She is still trying to boss him 4 years later!

 

Alex is more physical/aggressive, but he also is a very thoughtful and sweet guy. He will act out when frustrated/tired, so I tend to remind him to be gentle or do something else when needed (I show him what to do instead or just distract him with something...he's too little to understand concepts yet). I don't have any good advice, but good luck

 

Joshua is extremely physical and until lately Katie would do nothing. Now she fights back a bit more. I just try and tell him to "not hurt Sissy" and "be nice to your Sissy and give her hugs"

 

yup...my boy is definitely more aggressive than my girls... Avielle is learning to push back ... but lately Judah has gotten really aggressive... I do curb behavior such as pushing, shoving or hurting the girls intentionally...and I discipline over throwing certain toys or just continuing to throw after I've told him to stop. I would never discourage certain rough boy behaviors..until it turns into being just plain mean to others or dangerous to himself... Avielle, ironically, can at times be more active than he is..she runs and jumps and climbs more than he does... but isn't malicious towards either of the other two kids at all...

 

P.S. to be fair I must add that Judah is a lot more affectionate than the girls... he is much more demonstrative with his love...giving me kisses and hugs all the time...He will hug the girls but most of the time refuses to kiss them... but not much new about that...

 

Yes, Connor is more physical than Heather. He likes the physical play with DH more, too. And he's more daring. It's probably normal. (Not to say is not normaly for a girl to be more physical, but I won't worry about it.)

 

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Originally posted by Susanna+3:
P.S. to be fair I must add that Judah is a lot more affectionate than the girls... he is much more demonstrative with his love...giving me kisses and hugs all the time...He will hug the girls but most of the time refuses to kiss them... but not much new about that...


That is exactly how Joshua is. He is much more loving than Katie.

 

My boy very agressive and all boy but he doesnt not get agresive with my girl twinsunless she really bothering him.... 9-10 he left her have her way