Question about pediatrician

When looking for a pediatrician, should you ask them how they feel about attached parenting such as "letting them cry it out" or "holding them too much will spoil them?" I feel like most pediatricians will lean towards letting the babies cry it out.

I have been reading Dr. Sears' "The Baby Book" and he said that those are the type of questions that you should not ask your pediatrician, but stick with the medical aspect.

Any thoughts???

 

We did talk to our pedi about cry it out and ways to help them sleep. I was also reading Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child and my pedi agreed with the book for the most part.
But I think most peds would respect your decision to use attachment parenting if that's what you want.

I guess the medical aspects and agreeing on that are the most important things though. For example, our peds office respectfully asks that parents who are anti-vax find other peds.

 

I stuck to the medical stuff, but did end up going to my Pedi about some sleeping issues we had early on. He was very helpful without pushing any one idea on us. Gave me the tools & suggestions to make the decisions that were right for us.
Most of the time I just went with my gut instinct :good:

Good luck!

 

I never asked my Doctors, and I actually don't know their views. I could care less what their opinion is because I am going to parent the way I want. I just wanted a good reliable doctor.

 

I agree with Dr. Sears. Those are parenting choices and your dr. will give you a generic answer for them. I would focus on things like "Do you have emergency care hours or at least hours on Sat and holidays?" and "What are your opinions on vaccines?". I chose a dr. who was very familiar with multiples. She loves them and snags any set that walks into the practice. She actually requested to be our dr. and I was thrilled. I actually did my inquiries from the phone and narrowed it down to two by the end. I suddenly thought I was going to have to have the boys and their pedi is in the same building as my OB. I went downstairs and met the dr. and didn't even call the other place again.

 

QUOTE(TandC @ Jun 1 2009, 11:59 AM) [snapback]1336274[/snapback]
I never asked my Doctors, and I actually don't know their views. I could care less what their opinion is because I am going to parent the way I want. I just wanted a good reliable doctor.

This is how I feel also. I chose my pediatrician based on location and the ability to get same day appointments (my pedi leaves a good majority of their slots open so that you can get in same day which is important when your infant is spiking a fever). I also love that mine has a "clinic" on MWF from 8-9 where you are seen first come first serve. That way, if your kid starts coughing and it isn't an emergency but you want to be seen, you can go in. My son's doctor has offered me behavior/sleep advice and when he told me to CIO at 6months, I nearly fired him. I AP so I didn't do CIO. Luckily, I gained my sanity and realized he was just offering his opinion and did my own thing.

 

QUOTE(tamaras @ Jun 1 2009, 11:58 AM) [snapback]1336272[/snapback]
I stuck to the medical stuff, but did end up going to my Pedi about some sleeping issues we had early on. He was very helpful without pushing any one idea on us. Gave me the tools & suggestions to make the decisions that were right for us.
Most of the time I just went with my gut instinct :good:

Good luck!


Ditto here too. We met with her before "selecting" her practice just to get a feel for her. But, honestly, it never occurred to me to ask questions about specific parenting issues. I guess I was looking to see if she was a doctor who seemed concerned about us, patient and knowledgable. We definitely got the sense that she wouldn't push ideology on us, which is really what was important. She was all these things, and more!!! I loooooooove our pediatrician! So much so, that now even though we've moved about 15 miles away, I'm still going to take our new little ones to her practice - and she even specialized in twins and has a set of twins herself!

 

I just used the same pediatrician's office that took care of me as a child.

I figure I turned out okay and so did my sister.

 

QUOTE(TandC @ Jun 1 2009, 11:59 AM) [snapback]1336274[/snapback]
I never asked my Doctors, and I actually don't know their views. I could care less what their opinion is because I am going to parent the way I want. I just wanted a good reliable doctor.


This is pretty much it for me too. :good: I have since found out that my doctor is pretty laid back and doesn't push anything on me, which is nice. I would definately lean towards choosing one for medical reasons, because the other things like sleeping/attached parenting are easy to let in one ear and out the other.

 

QUOTE(TandC @ Jun 1 2009, 11:59 AM) [snapback]1336274[/snapback]
I never asked my Doctors, and I actually don't know their views. I could care less what their opinion is because I am going to parent the way I want. I just wanted a good reliable doctor.

Same here. We went off a few friends recommendation. I liked knowing people who went to him and liked him. :good:

 

When I interviewed my chosen pediatrician, he told me that there two types of questions that I might ask him. The first type relates to medical issues, and he said he would answer those sorts of questions without hesitation and that generally there are clear wrong or right answers to those questions. The second type relates to parenting issues, and he said he would also answer those questions but that I should keep in mind that there are no right or wrong answers to those questions and that his answers amounted to nothing more than his personal opinion. When he said that, I pretty much knew he was the pediatrician for me.