question about my boy/girl twins

Hi girls, my boy/girl twins are now 12 weeks old actual/6weeks old adjusted. Whenever we put them together or lay them next to each other they do not even acknowledge each other...I would think there would be some interest in each other as they shared my womb for 8 1/2 months but they just don't seem to even know the other is there! I am assuming this is normal at this age and it will change??

 

I remember wondering if they would ever notice each other and didn't think mine had that twin bond. I believe it was when they were about 3 months old they finally "found" each other". They starting holding hands and smiling etc and they are very bonded with each other. Just give them a little time. Enjoy it now while they aren't stealing each other's toys!!! :blink:

 

I can't remember the exact age that they noticed each other & became really interested in each other, but it's normal & they will notice eventually. My two are inseparable now & are the very best of friends. It is so adorable to see. :wub:

 

Our twins are almost four months old. They barely know that they have feet let alone another person to share their lives with. No worries...they will figure each other out soon enough and it will be amazing to see.

 

I think mine started to notice each other around 4-5 mos maybe? But really they didn't really start to interact till around 6 mos. Even now they don't really do anything together... they smile a little at each other and take toys out of each others hands and roll around together 'wrestling' a little. Don't know at what age they will really start to play together though.

 

That's normal at this early age. I think it was between 3-5 months that they started to notice and try to interact with each other. Now I am at the point where I wish they did not notice each other so much :laughing:

 

My girls first held hands at 3 days old But that was just a fluke. They just started caring about the others existance at 3.5 months. Now they roll towards each other and grab each others hands and arms constantly.

 

Seems normal-my b/g twins are about 5 weeks older. My dd has been looking at her brother intermittently for about 6 weeks. However it was very subtle 6 wks ago and now she grins ear to ear when we sit them up in bumbos. On the otherhand, ds never started looking at her until the past 2 wks and now he won't stop-for some time, DH and I were worried that DS didn't like DD. I do have one of them swoop down to kiss the other on cheek or forhead each am and they both grin ear to ear when I do this with kissy sounds. Don't worry K-its normal.

 

Yep, normal.

Now mine try to see who can stab the other in the eyes the most. Or try to steal the other's suckies the most. Or try to crawl over top of the other while the one on the bottom is screaming. Or..... get the picture?!

It'll come, as a pp said they don't even realize their feet are attached to their body yet, and they may even still think they are part of mommy. I can't remember what age they start to realize they are an individual, maybe 6 months or so??

 

My girls are 8 months (5 1/2 adjusted) and are just very recently starting to interact more often than not. Even with their adjusted age they are older than yours. In my expert opinion (haha) it is totally normal

 

I think that's normal. Mine just started to show interest at each other. Before, we would put them face to face and they would either turn away or start screaming. My daughter started to get interested at about 4 months and my son just started to show interest back at 5 months.

 

Around 5.5 to 6 months for us. They are just now starting to closely examine each others' facial features (and ours) and are stealing toys already. DD will yank the paci out of DS's mouth and put it into her mouth.

 

Mine are just 6 months and they just started to notice each other. I believe it started about 3 weeks ago. They are almost always side by side and 3 weeks ago they just started to stare at one another. It is really cute. Now they pull on each other and laugh but I don't think they realize they are pulling on each other though.

I can't wait until they play with each other (which means they start to annoy one another too, ugh!). They are just starting to sit up but not very well yet.

 

About 4 months mine smiled at each other for the first time, and about the same time they started to grab each others' hands when they tandem nurse. Other than that, they really didn't seem to notice each other until just recently. Now, one will try to grab the other's toy or suck on the other's hand. The biggest thing I noticed was the other night when DD was screaming at the top of her lungs because she was overtired and hungry and I was fumbling to get my EZ2Nurse situated, DS looked at her, then looked at me, then shrieked at the top of his lungs as if to say "Mommy, help her" he did this 3 or 4 times until I picked her up and she stopped crying. We've also noticed that even though we used to always nap them separately, in the past month they have actually started sleeping better if they are in the same room.

I think the early "connection" (synchronizing heart beats, breathing in synch, sleeping together) people talk about with twins is purely biological and happens in identicals because they were much closer in the womb (especially mono/mono twins). With fraternals, its like they had their own little room within the uterus and so they take a little more time to connect but when they do it is a real bond.

Yours are so young still by corrected age that it may take some time before they figure it out because they barely know anything more than your scent and voice and the smell of food until about 8 weeks corrected.

 

Mine were about 6 months old before they started to interact with each other.