question about husbands

Just wondering if anyone else can see their husband really stuggling with you being on bedrest. He's wonderful and super helpful, but I can see how over whelmed he is and worry he's going to meltdown.

What did you do to cheer your husband up and let him know how much you appreciate all he's doing for you??? (that doesn't cost money or involved sex.)

 

I asked my friends who came over to each do a chore. I know it probably sounds horrible but my friends were soo willing to help and it also took the burden off of him to have to do everything. I also made sure not to criticize anything he did and thanked him profusely for absolutely everything. I know guys can usually care less about being thanked but it made me feel better at least. Both of our mom's took turns taking care of dinner for us so he didn't have that burden every night.

 

i do thank him all the time and let him know that i love him and appriciate everything he does, but somehow it just doesn't feel like enough.

 

I know what you mean, I can see the stress and wear and tear grow each day. I tell him how lucky my son is to have him as a dad and me to have him as a husband and then we talk about the "guy" time he will have when this is over - read the paper, acutally drink his coffee while it is still hot with no interruptions, etc.
I also have friends and family take care of small tasks as DH is too proud to ask for help and will try to keep people from doing stuff - men are so goofy!

Hang in there, it is hard enough to be on bedrest but then to worry about DH on top of everything else is no fun (though unavoidable).

 

I thank him for everything he does and tell him how much I appreciate all that he's doing. I try to let go of all the minor chores that don't have to be done so DH only has to focus on the major ones. I try to be more affectionate, in a non sexual way, since the doc said no sex. The one thing my husband asked me to do for him was plan meals so he could just come home and cook. In my mind I think that there must be some way I can make it up to him when this is all over.

We've definitely had a few spats where he's told me he doesn't think I appreciate what he's doing. Mostly because he thought I was doing too much and wouldn't listen to him when we would tell me to sit down. Depending on him has been hard for me too. I hate having to burden him.

 

Glad to hear I am not the only one. Everyone is focused on me and my son. Maybe this weekend while my mom is here, I can have him go to the movies or something.