Putting myself on bedrest...in a sense

I just am feeling really bad right now, that I am struggling with this pregnancy. With my first pregnancies, many years ago, no issues, no bh, no pains, just flew through the time, it was nothing. Now I am just a mess and I feel like I am letting down my husband and everyone around me. Went out tonight to dinner for my brother in law's birthday, the bh started early in the evening, couldn't enjoy meal, just wanted to get out of there, but we didn't take our own car...big mistake. My husband and I decided, well he decided that besides doc appointments I will be basically from now on hanging out at home. He says of course I am not letting him down b/c I am taking care of the babies and the least he can do is shopping and cleaning the house. That doesn't make me feel any better. I don't know. I think of all the women who can work full time, raise other children and so on during their entire pregnancy, and here I am, laid up on the sofa. Just feeling like a wuss I guess. I am so scared with all these bh that I will go into PTL. Scared of the babies coming way too early. Just mentally and physically exhausted. Sorry this is such a downer of a post, just feeling like a let down I guess. I don't know. I go back to my doc on the 19th for an u/s and a check up. Will see what all my doc says then. But after hearing him say last week when I went in b/c of all this that I am " at very high risk" for PTL, I am just scared that it will happen which I know isn't helping my mental state any. I just need these bh to go away and stay away, and so I guess that means staying laying on my side, no matter how stir crazy I get.

Dianna

 

I am sorry you are having such a hard time. It is different to be pregnant with twins than with one, so it is normal to feel symptoms that you didn't the other pregnancy. I didn't have any of the problems that I have now with either of my other two pregnancies, with were singletons. The important thing is to make sure that the babies are healthy and safe. It sounds like you are doing this. If you are really starting to worry you should call your doctor and make sure that everything is alright, you will feel better. It is really hard to not worry, hang in there.

 

Just saw my doc the other day. The bh haven't changed in intensity or anything. If I lay down they go away. When out I can't just lay down, wouldn't that be nice. Since I have been home and laying down, not easy to type laying on my side lol, the bh have stopped. I hate being so emotional but I guess it is part of it all.

Dianna

 

QUOTE(Dianna @ Dec 6 2007, 10:09 PM) [snapback]524211[/snapback]
Just saw my doc the other day. The bh haven't changed in intensity or anything. If I lay down they go away. When out I can't just lay down, wouldn't that be nice. Since I have been home and laying down, not easy to type laying on my side lol, the bh have stopped. I hate being so emotional but I guess it is part of it all.

Dianna


It must be encouraging to know that they are truly BH and not real contractions, even though they don't necessarily feel better. It would be great when you are out to just lay down, I have been out places and just been so uncomfortable and wanting to lay down, it is awful. Don't be so hard on yourself about being emotional. I am the type of person who does not like to cry or show too much extreme emotion around other people and since being pregnant it has been really hard because simple things make me want to cry. Try watching Survivor and the family members come to visit and trying not to bawl your eyes out because it seems so stupid. You really are doing the best thing you can do, hang tight.

 

Just keeping fingers crossed they stay bh.

I started crying at the restaurant tonight. Was ready to come home and was having a major hot flash and felt sick to my stomach. I hate crying in public.

Dianna

 

I am with you there. I hope you feel better soon.

 

QUOTE(nifer @ Dec 6 2007, 10:25 PM) [snapback]524238[/snapback]
I am with you there. I hope you feel better soon.

Thanks

Dianna

 

Diana: sounds like you need some belly support. Babyhugger is what I used and it helps a ton. I used to pick up my belly and hold them in my hands because the weight caused the bh. The entire belly support is something bella band and other things out there don't offer, it just puts more weight on your lower back. So look for a good belly cradle. Otherwise, if you're out and about, use those electric carts as often as possible!

You aren't a wuss, you are being smart and listening to your body and it's limitations. I know it's hard to sit back after doing so much for yourself and others, but remember - you're sitting back is doing something for the babies. Make sure you are getting enough nutrition and protein, getting enough water (1 gallon) each day. Avoid anything that can cause preterm labor. Don't climb stairs. Don't mop the floors or wash the bathtubs and showers. Just do what you can to have a sane pregnancy and don't feel guilty!!
*hugs*

 

I actually have a baby hugger, did not good. Got a new support this week, this new one just makes me have to pee more oftern lol

I do feel like a wuss. Hopefully that feeling will go away.

For scrubbing the tub,a few weeks ago go one of those automatic shower cleaner....wow, it works wonders, just have to push a button each day. I am eating good, and more water than I ever thought possible to drink. So sick of water, but know it is necessary.

Dianna

 

just keep listening to your body. Sometimes my BH come with searing pain in certain areas.. I'm thinking it's where a sharp baby body part is. thankfully they still have plenty of room in there, the best thing you can do is keep on making sure of EVERYTHING. Don't worry about bothering the OB and/or perinatologist. That's what they are there for. don't rule out anything until it's ruled out by a high-risk MFM/perinatologist/OB...

 

Awww I feel for you I do. The braxton hicks can be rather annoying and inconvenient when out in public. I was in woolworths one day with my mum and I was aisle three when I started getting kicked really painfully in the ribs by one of my twins and I became very teary and this woman asked my mum if I was okay she thought I was in labour as I grabbing onto the aisles with one hand tears flowing down my face and obviously my face must have been showing that I was uncomfortable lol. You know what having scared that woman made me laugh because I thought trust me if I was going into labour everybody in the store would have known about it lol.

A good cry is helpful by the way it lets you release pent up emotion that if you keep it inside of you could be more destructive in my opinion as you don't want unwanted emotions building up to a crescendo. Better to let it all go and get it out of your system and feel better then to self destruct at a later date.

I hope you feel better soon. :love0028: :love0028:

 

I totally feel you :hug99: … I feel so worthless, I am on bed rest for another day, and I’ve already been to L&D for too many contraction… and I was bed ridden with my singleton, so it feel inevitable I’m going to be on bed rest permanently sooner or later… it’s almost like I’m letting the team down… yesterday my DS was home all day because the school was closed for parent teacher conferences, and the friend I had lined up to go see a movie with got sick… so my poor son never got out of his PJ’s and just watch xmas movies with me… and the dog… I finally ordered those dog back pack type things for him to carry, loaded down with water bottles so if my DH can run out with him for 20 min, its more of a work out… he use to get a couple mile walk everyday… but I’m gonna stop, I’m turning this sympathy post into my own vent… just wanted you to know a lot of us feel this way… and my DH keeps reminding me I’m not, not doing anything, I’m making 2 human being… he could work all day and still not do anything as great as that…

 

QUOTE(Bernice @ Dec 6 2007, 10:52 PM) [snapback]524268[/snapback]
just keep listening to your body. Sometimes my BH come with searing pain in certain areas.. I'm thinking it's where a sharp baby body part is. thankfully they still have plenty of room in there, the best thing you can do is keep on making sure of EVERYTHING. Don't worry about bothering the OB and/or perinatologist. That's what they are there for. don't rule out anything until it's ruled out by a high-risk MFM/perinatologist/OB...

My ob does take care of high risk, lucky with that. Didn't have to switch to a new doc when I found out it was twins.

Dianna

 

QUOTE(tigerbaby2 @ Dec 7 2007, 04:40 AM) [snapback]524384[/snapback]
Awww I feel for you I do. The braxton hicks can be rather annoying and inconvenient when out in public. I was in woolworths one day with my mum and I was aisle three when I started getting kicked really painfully in the ribs by one of my twins and I became very teary and this woman asked my mum if I was okay she thought I was in labour as I grabbing onto the aisles with one hand tears flowing down my face and obviously my face must have been showing that I was uncomfortable lol. You know what having scared that woman made me laugh because I thought trust me if I was going into labour everybody in the store would have known about it lol.

A good cry is helpful by the way it lets you release pent up emotion that if you keep it inside of you could be more destructive in my opinion as you don't want unwanted emotions building up to a crescendo. Better to let it all go and get it out of your system and feel better then to self destruct at a later date.

I hope you feel better soon. :love0028: :love0028:

When we went to the hospital the other week to tour the birthing center, after a long walk from the parking lot and walking around the hospital trying to figure out where we were going we were in the elevator, I was having bh, holding my stomach, a lady got on the elevator and asked if it was time, if I was in labor...all I could do is laugh. When I told her I wasn't due till April she didn't say another word.

Oh I cry enough for five pregnant women lol


Dianna

 

QUOTE(e mauro @ Dec 7 2007, 07:50 AM) [snapback]524441[/snapback]
I totally feel you :hug99: … I feel so worthless, I am on bed rest for another day, and I’ve already been to L&D for too many contraction… and I was bed ridden with my singleton, so it feel inevitable I’m going to be on bed rest permanently sooner or later… it’s almost like I’m letting the team down… yesterday my DS was home all day because the school was closed for parent teacher conferences, and the friend I had lined up to go see a movie with got sick… so my poor son never got out of his PJ’s and just watch xmas movies with me… and the dog… I finally ordered those dog back pack type things for him to carry, loaded down with water bottles so if my DH can run out with him for 20 min, its more of a work out… he use to get a couple mile walk everyday… but I’m gonna stop, I’m turning this sympathy post into my own vent… just wanted you to know a lot of us feel this way… and my DH keeps reminding me I’m not, not doing anything, I’m making 2 human being… he could work all day and still not do anything as great as that…

I am sure your son loved being in pj's all day, kids love that

Sounds like you have a great supportive husband. I am very lucky that I do too. I still feel bad. But I have to get over it. Just hard.

Dianna

 

Diana sounds like its a good thing to just rest I hated too; that my whole world had to change and change fast to accomodate my lack of ability to do much--I would hate to go into PTL too! im not sure what is worst hospital rest or bedrest they feed u in the hospital :lol: --the best thing is knowing your limits-if its only one hour or 2 then your done for the day-

 

Wouldn't want to be stuck in the hospital....that would drive me crazy lol But being brought food is good

Dianna

 

speaking of food: the great thing about bedrest is, is that it saves your calories you do eat and it goes to the babies. Just look online for bedrest exercises so you don't have clots in your legs. Plus, it helps relieve any achey legs you may have from not exercising and walking like you normally do. Although your tummy says STOP, the rest of your body is going: let's get going!!

 

I will look that up. i will still be moving around. Since this is not ordered by a doc I can get up. Just can't get up and do things like cleaning and all that, hubby won't allow it. But I do get up, stretch my legs and so on.

Dianna

 

Did your doctor give you a number per hour to officially worry about? I totally feel your anxiety, I went into L and D at 25 weeks because I was having 8 an hour, but luckily (I guess they're BH) they didn't cause any cervical changes. My Dr still wants me to call with more than 6 an hour IF when I drink a ton of water and lie down they don't go away within ANOTHER hour. So it really helped me to have a protocol of sorts so I knew when I should worry (not that I don't). Fortunately it seems like my contractions have mellowed a bit and I usually don't have more than 3-4 per hour these days. I think stress can worsen them, it did for me, so it's good to take it easy. Definitely talk with your doc about all this so you're doing what you feel comfortable with BIG HUGS

 

I am glad I am not the only one feeling this way. I am on modifed bed rest, and it is just preventing PTL. I have 2 kids, and cannot do hardly anything. I am only 18 weeks, and this has been for the last two weeks. I go on hospital bed rest at 26 weeks, if I make it...I know we just have to hang in there, and know it is just for a season.

 

No, not a number. But if they start causing pain. Or if they don't go away when I lay down. Yesterday I didn't have any until I would get up to go to the bathroom or to grab a bite to eat, but as soon as I lay back down, they are gone and I feel great.

Dianna