Pubic bone/pelvic problem post delivery

Hi everyone, I delivered beautiful boy girl twins on Wednesday. It was a vaginal delivery, with the baby girl being 6 lbs. 12 oz. and the baby boy being 8 pounds. It was my first delivery, and it was pretty traumatic. I have fourth degree tears from my vagina to my rectum, and have also been diagnosed with some type of separated pubic or pelvlic bone that is making me almost in capable of walking. I think the name is pubic synthesis. I am home now, and have to use a walker to get around. I can't carry our pick up the babies, and I can hardly get into or out of bed by myself. My parents are with us now, and we have a lot of help, but I am so terrified about how I am going to care for these babies. I've been told that this could take weeks to months to heal. Has anyone been through anything like this? I'm trying to learn how to nurse and trying to take care of these babies, and feeling so emotional and Traumatized. They will pnly sleep when held. Please help.

 

I've never been through anything like that, but I highly recommend parking yourself in bed with the babies and just nurse and sleep and nurse and sleep. It will help you recover and help you get the hang of nursing. Don't expect anything of yourself other than to take care of the babies, and take as much help as get offered, and ask for me if you need. Good luck!! Hopefully you will recover soon and the whole deliver will be a distant memory. I also had a really traumatic delivery with my twins (though not because of physical issues; my OB was a real b*stard). If you need support, feel free to PM me.

 

Also, say NO to visitors!!!!! I am sure there are many well-meaning people who want to stop by, but just.say. no. It's the one thing I still kick myself over from my older daughter's birth, I can't imagine dealing with it with twins and an extremely difficult delivery. Let everything go to voicemail and put up a message like 'thanks for the congrats, we are so happy you are thinking of us, we will let you know when we are ready for visitors' or something like that. Don't answer your door. It may sound rude, but visitors always seem to show up at the worst time, either when a baby is freaking out or you are just about to go to sleep. Even if you wait a month, the babies will still be tiny and newbornish enough to make people happy.

 

I've never heard of that but it sounds painful, I really do feel for you! I agree with what Miriam said,.. Stay in bed with those babies, prop yourself up with lots of pillows, plenty of water and snacks and nurse and sleep. So glad to hear that your parents are around to help!

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Wow, I can't even imagine. I had a 3rd degree tear with my twins and that was bad enough. I agree with the others that you should REST REST REST. Keep taking your ibuprofen and other pain meds that they probably gave you. I'm guessing you might eventually benefit from some physical therapy related to pelvic issues. Your OB should be able to refer you to someone about postpartum complications.
Found this online, although you've probably already been told these things:

Typical advice usually given to women includes avoiding strenuous exercise, prolonged standing, vacuum cleaning, stretching exercises and squatting. Women are also frequently advised to:
Brace the pelvic floor muscles before performing any activity which might cause pain
Rest the pelvis
Sit down for tasks where possible (e.g. preparing food, ironing, dressing)
Avoid lifting and carrying.
Avoid stepping over things.
Avoid straddle movements especially when weight bearing.
Bend the knees and keep the legs 'glued together' when turning in bed and getting in and out of bed.
Place a pillow between the legs when in bed or resting.
Avoid twisting movements of the body.
If the pain is very severe, using elbow crutches will help take the weight off the pelvis and assist with mobility. Alternatively, for more extreme cases a wheelchair may be considered advisable.