Pregnant again..

HI - So - the girls are 19mos now and I just found out we're having another. I guess we weren't too careful b/c through IVF and all - we didn't think we could do it "by ourselves." I think the girls are so hard and I'm starting to feel nauseous in the morning ((15 weeks of it w/ the twins). I'm completely freaking out. The girls will be 26 mos when the baby comes - I'm just scared and nervous of whether I can handle 3 - I know a lot of you do - I'm just not feeling that tough lately. Someone tell me it will be okay....I know it's a blessing - absolutely - I'm just terrified.

 

It will definately be okay! I just found out that I was pregnant and I have 11 month old twins. It was very unexpected. I was using b/c until the end of november and then we were just going to be careful after that, but I guess that we were not careful enough! Sometimes, I start to freak out about it, but then I realize that alot of people do it just fine and it will be great. I am now actually looking forward to the experience of just having one baby! I think that you get a little cheated out of the newborn bonding with twins. Even though I have loved having twins, it will be nice to focus on one newborn (assuming that we are just having one!).
Melanie

 

Honestly, I think the morning sickness might be harder than having 3. At least that's my experience. But hopefully it won't be as bad with one as it was with twins (varies for everyone, I'm sure). I love 2 year olds. It's about my favorite age, and I think you'll be surprised at what good helpers they can be then. You'll be great and soon you won't remember why you thought it was a scary thing!!!

 

My twins were difficult, still can be at times, and I got pregnant spontaniously (after 7 years infertility and IVF) when my twins had just turned 2. Evan is a great baby! The twins really enjoy him and although I have to watch them, because they do not know what they can or cannot do with/to him, it has really worked out! I agree with Dielle, if you can handle the morning sickness three should not be a terribly big deal most of the time. You will have moments though! I hope you have an easy pregnancy! Take it easy as much as possible.

 

Congratulations. I dont have any advice to give though.

 

Congrats! It is definitely going to be okay! My twins were two when I gave birth to my son three months ago. AND my daughter is five! Life is crazy and hectic but UNBELIEVABLE!!!! I think to holidays in the future when all my "grown" kids are home with their own families - gonna be amazing!

 

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Honestly, I think the morning sickness might be harder than having 3. At least that's my experience. But hopefully it won't be as bad with one as it was with twins (varies for everyone, I'm sure). I love 2 year olds. It's about my favorite age, and I think you'll be surprised at what good helpers they can be then. You'll be great and soon you won't remember why you thought it was a scary thing!!!

I totally agree with the morning sickness comment. I found out I was pregnant with our surprise baby #7 when the twins were 5 months old. You will definitely be able to handle it. Some days will be harder than others...but my constant stabilizing thought is...I couldn't imagine life without one of them! CONGRATS!!!

 

I'm right there with you! (IVF twins after 4 years of trying). Our twins will be 27ish months when this one is born. I have to say I have been sick it feels like half the pregnancy with bad morning sickness (didn't have much with the twins) 2 colds and 2 bouts with a stomach flu. Although it wasn't planned, I think the age difference is pretty decent, and we'll get through it!

Congrats!

 

I'm so glad I found this thread. I am 17 weeks pregnant with a surprise after having twins via IVF. My twins will be 30 months old when their little brother is born. Like others, I didn't think getting pregnant on our own was possible (we went through 5 IUIs and 3 IVFs) so this was a little bit of a shock. I'm so happy to see so many others say that it's not only possible but will be a lot of fun. That's so reassuring because like Aimee, I was a little terrified.
Congratulations and best of luck!
Michelle

 

Congrats!!
My twins will be 13 months old when I have this little miracle baby! I have to be careful not to think too much about it because I do tend to get overwhelmed. But I look at the positive things! In 3 years we'll be done with the baby stuff, (diapers, bottles...etc).
The best thing so far has been that this pregnancy has gone by REALLY fast!!! I felt like I was pregnant forever with the twins!! These two keep me so busy that I can't really sit and focus on being pregnant :lol:
My morning sickness was awful but I took unisom and it worked WONDERS!!
You'll do great momma!!!

Brigette

 

If it makes you feel any better, I'm in the exact same situation!

 

Congratulations!

 

I know EXACTLY how you feel. Your story sounds like mine. Our twins were from IVF and we didn't think we would be able to have any on our own and somehow, I got pregnant. I am having my c-section this Wednesday. My twins are 21 months old. I get really nervous thinking about having twin toddlers and a newborn but I will get through it and so will you. It's a lot to handle but you are already a mother of twins so you clearly know how to take care of more than one baby at at time. Congrats!

 

I also don't have any advice, but wnated to say CONGRATS!

 

I'm in the trenches now and it is certainly doable. My boys were 21 months old when baby arrived, and although it's been tough, the boys have handled things really well and enjoy "helping" me with baby.

 

No Advice, just hope you are feeling better soon.

Congrats.

 

It seems to happen a lot here. I got pregnant when my twins were 11 months old. They were 21 months old when Garrett was born. People ask me all the time if they are triplets..because they are all the same size 3 yrs later. I was in a foriegn country with a husband deployed when after her was born. I have to say I wouldn't do it differently ever. I love the closeness..the age difference and the way they interact with each other. Its scary right now..but its been the best time for my family. Of course there are ups and downs in ever situation...but I am happy with the way ours turned out.

GOOD luck.


Brandy

 

Congratulations to you all!

 

My two will be 16 months old when the next one is born. Again IVF plus IUIs so we didn't really think it would happen naturally but we were preventing it either. I still find the thought of three a bit overwhelming but I think with your two a bit older it will be a better situation.

I still have many days where I say to myself "what was I thinking?!!" but I'm sure if we can handle twins we can handle anything. With the morning sickness I highly recommend getting some meds as soon as you can. I had terrible morning sickness with the twins but I didn't have two kids to also worry about. so get some meds to make it more comfortable. Try to have someone come in at least once a week to give you a break so you can nap. Esp in the first trimester. A singleton pg is SOoooooo much easier and less painful symptoms on your body but it hard to chase after two kids when you are so tired.

The second trimester is much better.

Heather

 

I freak out every so often. I know we can get through it, I had to have a babysitter/helper come in to help me out. The house is a mess when she's not here, but its to be expected. Keep your head up...I just wish their was a group, or a place where I can meet others in the same situation in my community so we could all support each other.