Potty training boot camp update

Last weekend I did potty training boot camp with the girls. Dare I say one dd is day trained!! The other dd however is completely resisting! I know she gets it because she'll ask to use the potty to get out of doing something else, like go to bed. Otherwise, she won't ask to go potty and continues to go in her underwear. :gah:

When I ask her why she doesn't use the potty she usually tries to ignore me or she'll say she doesn't want to. At this point it's a power struggle and I'm at my wits end trying to figure out how to motivate her. I promise her toys that I know she wants and she just doesn't care. The last thing I want to do is back off, that just isn't an option. This is the second time I've tried to potty train her. She even stays dry at night!

Please give me advise on getting a stubborn kid to use the potty!!

TIA

 

I would table the whole thing for about a week. Don't ask her if she wants to go, don't mention that her sister is going, nada. (although I would let her go if she asks unless it is a bedtime stalling tactic) Then, say next Friday, start telling her that as of the next day there will be no more diapers/pull ups during the day except for naptime (if that's how you are doing it). Also tell her that there will be a little treat (whatever you decide) each time she goes pee in the potty. Day 2, she gets a little treat for going in the potty AND having dry panties when she sits down to go. Even if she just had an accident 15 min ago, if she got changed and dry then goes pee with those panties still dry, she'd get a treat. Once she is going pee and staying dry 99% of the time, start stretching how long she needs to wait before getting another treat. She can pee as often as she likes, but no treat if it's been less than 30 min. Then up the time til she's able to hold it for an hour or so. This took 3 days with my super stubborn Kayci who was almost 3.5! :headbang: It took me telling her "I don't care how many times you pee in your clothes, you may no longer wear a diaper except for sleep times." And then it took a few days for her to believe me. I did NOT want to be cleaning up those huge pee puddles every half hour on Thanksgiving, but it worked. Sorry for the novel... :FIFblush:

 

I loved your explanation!! I had also read in a book that they get treats or at least acknowledgements for productive potty time AND for staying dry.... I mean that is the real objective! I love to hear success stories - thanks for sharing!

 

My DD is PT, but she still loves to use pee for a power struggle with me. I have found that if I react in the slightest way to an accident, I am asking for 5 more that same day. She just loves it when I seem frustrated or upset with something she's done. (The girl adores all attention... even negative attention!) Anyway, I would be very matter-of-fact and tell her no more diapers or pullups except when sleeping. If she has an accident, react calmly "Oh, looks like you peed in your panties. I'll help you clean it up." Then put the burden of cleaning it up on her. Show her how to wipe the floor or sop it up with a towel, whatever. You have to fool her into thinking that you could care less about the accidents. Peeing on yourself when mom doesn't care isn't nearly as much fun. I think if you do this in combo with what Meredith wrote, hopefully she'll choose to use the potty.

 

I just potty trained my 27 month old twins and our system was very similiar to the first one described.
I had a very resistent DD too as we had a baby 6 months ago and DD insisted she was still a baby too.
I picked a date and explained that starting on that day there would be NO MORE DIAPERS. BIG GIRLS WEAR UNDERWEAR. then I repeated the phrase "pee goes in the potty " a billion times.

Each time she went potty she got a sticker to put on a piece of paper I had posted on the wall behind her potty that I divided in two columns- one for pee, one for poop. She also got 1 m&m for pee, and 2 m&m's for poop.
I told her the diapers were all gone and that included naps/night time. the first few nights I did put a pull up on, but I called them "special nighttime UNDERWEAR" and repeated " pee goes in the potty".

Luckily with her we didnt have any accidents! but If you stand firm that the diapers are GONE and there are NO MORE and you dont go back She will get it.

I would also SUPER PRAISE the one who is potty training awesome. Gush over the other one and then when your daughter has a small success give her that same gushing attention. High fives, etc.

Another trick a mom told me for girls, give them chapstick while they sit on the potty. they love to put it on and it gives them something to do and a reason to sit