Post Pregnancy Emotions

So, I'm two weeks into being a mom and I swear I feel more on edge (emotional) then I did when I was pregnant. Meaning i feel I could cry at the drop of a hat.

We had all our family over for thanksgiving today and everything went great, we couldn't have asked for a better day! As the day wore on I told DH I had to go upstairs to pump and he said OK and I just started crying (no reason) and I continued to sob for about 30 minutes in our bedroom. It's been like that for the last couple of days where out of no where I just start crying for no reason, I blame hormones... is this normal? have y'all been like this too?

 

Hi, Oh my yes! I was this way with my first 13 years ago and now again with these girls. I did finally accept that it's PPD and went on Zoloft. I waited though because I read that the "crash" that happens after having twins is very severe. Your body has way more horomones than a normal pregnancy and the process of getting them all even again is just really hard. I cried in the hospital for 4 days straight...not sure why. Then when I got home I thought I was much better but at about 2 weeks into it I cried for no reason again. I called them little meltdowns.

I do think it's very normal. Keep an eye on it for feelings of dispair or not wanting to take care of your babies or just plain feeling in a funk that you can;t get out of. Then you should talk to your OB about depression.

Congrats and hang in there.

P.S. I'm 35 so in case age has anything to do with it...we're close in age.

 

QUOTE(girls! @ Nov 23 2007, 04:36 AM) [snapback]506142[/snapback]
I do think it's very normal. Keep an eye on it for feelings of dispair or not wanting to take care of your babies or just plain feeling in a funk that you can;t get out of. Then you should talk to your OB about depression.


Totally agree with this. I too was very edgy and anxious. It is very normal but if you are off it doesnt hurt to talk to your OB about it!!

 

It's the same here! It's gotten a little better now, but the first two weeks after the girls were born I was constantly crying! We had our first pedi appointment 3 days after coming home from the hospital and I cried through the whole appointment - the girls are healthy and I just cried and cried in the pedi office, so embarassing! The other new moms in the well infant room must have thought I was crazy! I just got the DVD "The happiest baby on the block" and seeing all the little babies on the DVD made me start crying and when DH asked why I said "Because those babies are just so cute!" through my tears.....

 

I was the same way after I had my boys. Crying, anxiety, ridiculous worries, feeling so much pressure, PLUS I was getting NO sleep and really struggling with breast feeding. Some amount of this is normal, but have your DH monitor you for PPD (just in case) and please, please get your thyroid checked. Undetected thyroid problems account for a lot of post-partum issues - I learned that from experience.

 

Yep, it'll calm down in a couple of weeks. I don't cry very often, but after I had the girls' I cried all the time it felt like. I had two friends at work who were both pregnant and delivered within 6 weeks of me and they were the same way with singletons. We are all in our 30's and breastfeeding, too.

Try to enjoy them while they are small like this - my DH and I have fond memories of the girls' sleeping on our chests while we were in bed watching TV. And take lots of pictures, in a few months you'll forget they were as tiny as they are.

Erica.

 

QUOTE(CHJH @ Nov 23 2007, 02:29 PM) [snapback]506246[/snapback]
I was the same way after I had my boys. Crying, anxiety, ridiculous worries, feeling so much pressure, PLUS I was getting NO sleep and really struggling with breast feeding.


I can relate to this. I had this for a week to a week and a half. The worst was in the hospital (2 days) and the first two days home. The hospital was crazy (way to busy...everyone in and out of your room ALL DAY LONG) plus DH and I getting used to caring for newborn twins...picking up extras of this and that we didn't realize we needed. Sounds pretty normal. Some more sleep might help too :hug99: .

 

Hi - I'm feeling vey weepy lately too. After being up all night with screaming babies last night, I went in to the bathroom an just cried. So many emotions! I decided today that a lot of mine have to do with the expectations I have of myself and how things were going to be after the babies arrived. I know now that I can no longer expect things to be as easy as they were with my daughter. I can't expect them to sleep for 4 to 5 hours at night and I can't expect that the house is going to be as clean as I want it to be. I just have to focus on taking care of them and myself. I'm just not superwoman.

My biggest problem is that I can't nap during the day when they nap...I just can't, I have no idea why. I just need to keep in mind that my life has to change for awhile and it's okay...it's just temporary. Eventually they will get bigger and will sleep longer and eventually I will actually get to sleep at night! But for now, this is just the way it is and I've got to do the best I can with it.

Sorry to ramble...I just needed to vent I guess.

 

I had the same thing, I thought that I had ppd, but it went away during the 3rd week. i think it's just all the pregnancy hormones crashing on top of being a new mom. For me it hit a peak when DH had to go back to work and I knew I would be alone with the babies all day. Once I got through that first week and survived I started to feel less weepy and out of control.

 

I still cry for no reason sometimes... But it was worse the first few weeks... Its hard becoming a mommy.. Let alone a mommy of 2!!! Plus your body is still out of wack...

 

I was a very weepy woman the first few weeks. At this point it sounds more like the baby blues, but just keep an eye on it---and know you are very normal.

Reyna

 

Thanks everyone for your replies, it really helps to know that I am not alone in feeling like crying all the time.

It's just hard one being a first time mom but as the rest of you guys being a mom of twins. It just sucks crying for no reason and at the drop of a hat. I told my DH to watch me for PPD and that at my 6 week appointment I'm going to talk to the doctor just in case. It just didn't help today my mom left to go back home, I probably cried for 2 hours straight and even thinking about it is making my eyes well up and I want her back here again to just be here.

Thanks everyone for being there for me.

 

QUOTE(xavier2001 @ Nov 23 2007, 11:51 PM) [snapback]506596[/snapback]
I had the same thing, I thought that I had ppd, but it went away during the 3rd week. i think it's just all the pregnancy hormones crashing on top of being a new mom. For me it hit a peak when DH had to go back to work and I knew I would be alone with the babies all day. Once I got through that first week and survived I started to feel less weepy and out of control.


Same here - I cried A LOT the first 4-5 weeks, then things got better.
Couldn't stop crying when DH left on a long trip at the two week mark, even though my mom was there.
Cried buckets when mom left after helping for 5 weeks. You will have some bad days, but many good days.
The first 6-8 weeks are really hard with no sleep, crazy hormones, etc. I did not feel "depressed" and didn't have PPD, just cried at the drop of a hat, but my OB kept screening me every visit by asking me questions about how I was doing. Crying is normal, really depressed, hopeless feelings are not. Helpless feelings are normal with twins, ha ha! It is tough, tough, tough at the beginning, but you will have it down pat soon. By 3 months you will feel like you can handle it, by 6 months you will be steaming along, it gets much easier. Hang in there and reach out for support when you need it.