Popularity

Do you worry about the popularity of your twins? No, I don't mean in the vain I hope they win Homecoming Queen/King way. More in the everyone is fascinated by twins kind of way. We have been invited to several things lately and I can't help but wonder if it is because they are twins. I want people to like them for who they are (themselves), not for what they are (twins). KWIM?

 

I just had an issue (with my own sister). My niece’s birthday just came and went and they were having the party at 5:00pm… well the twins go to bed at 6:30 and my sister lives an hour away w/ no traffic (and in LA that is very rare). Well I called her and said that probably just older DS and I were going to come and dh would stay home w/ the twins… well she kept going on about wanting the twins there… I thought oh how sweet… then she called me back to tell me she changed the time to mid day on Saturday… well right when older ds has a game… and his team is missing players so if he skipped it, they wouldn’t have a full team… and she went on about it be no big deal, that me and the twins could come… hmmm … dh said I was reading into it… well in the VERY end I called to tell her just I was going to come… and what does she say… but I really would like the twins to come yadda yadda yadda twins yaada… ummm what about older ds… but my sister is totally that type… she would totally thrive off the “freak show” twins can be when out and about… she wanted them there because what they are not because they are her new nephews <_<

 

I kinda wonder....I mean already they are celibrities at Wal Mart everyone stops me to see them and half or the checkers are keeping track of their progress

 

I also don't want them to expect constant attention. A was seriously upset one day when we went out just the two of us and he didn't get drooled over like normal. I want them to be just normal children.

 

QUOTE(Brown Eyed Gurl @ Sep 30 2008, 11:39 AM) [snapback]1004806[/snapback]
I kinda wonder....I mean already they are celibrities at Wal Mart everyone stops me to see them and half or the checkers are keeping track of their progress


:rotflmbo:

Heee! My DH and I went from being ordinary people that strangers don't really notice, to the people that everyone remembers because of The Twins.

I don't worry about it now, but I don't want them to become, well, self-centered in the long run, wanting to be the center of everyone's attention.

Still, they are special, and it is cool that they are twins, so I don't want to ignore that either. Dunno what my approach will be, but I've definitely talked this over with DH already.

Also, there have been times where I've just had one of them with me, and people still come and smile at the one, so I think sometimes it's hard to tell whether it's just that people like babies, or that people are super fascinated by twins.

 

This issue has never come up with us. I don't think we've been invited to anything that we wouldn't have been invited to before the twins.

 

I know waht you mean--We went from ordinary to extraordinary b/c we had twins. Everyone is in amazement of them and wants a part of them!!!

 

QUOTE(joannabug @ Sep 30 2008, 01:30 PM) [snapback]1005033[/snapback]
:rotflmbo:

Heee! My DH and I went from being ordinary people that strangers don't really notice, to the people that everyone remembers because of The Twins.


Ditto for me and my DH! I think we still would be invited to the same things with or without the twins. It's just we get way MORE attention at events with the twins (so much so, that I feel uncomfortable that it is taking away the attention for the person who the party is actually for). At this point, I don't think the babies care that they get attention in public but how they feel as toddlers will really tell the story. We do have to budget time when we go out because it is inevitable that people will stop us about the babies.
DH is even known as "The Twins Dad" at work....

 

QUOTE(itsnancycozzi @ Sep 30 2008, 12:45 PM) [snapback]1005086[/snapback]
Ditto for me and my DH! I think we still would be invited to the same things with or without the twins. It's just we get way MORE attention at events with the twins (so much so, that I feel uncomfortable that it is taking away the attention for the person who the party is actually for). At this point, I don't think the babies care that they get attention in public but how they feel as toddlers will really tell the story. We do have to budget time when we go out because it is inevitable that people will stop us about the babies.
DH is even known as "The Twins Dad" at work....


hahaha! they lovingly refer to my DH at work as the "deucemaker"!!!

 

We haven't been invited to anything just because they are twins, but they do get a lot of attention when we go out and about.

 

whatever function we go to, the girls are the center of attention. i feel bad for whosever wedding/christening/shower/bday it is!

and as for them expecting to be center of attention in the future... dh and i are sort of attention whores ourselves, so we can't blame the girls being like that on the fact that they're twins

 

It's kind of the opposite for me... a number of my friends have twins/are twins (one close friend had her twins just a few months before us), so ours are "just another set of twins" so I sort of wish they were more special. Of course, they're the most special thing to me and my husband, so that's all that really matters, right? right?

 

QUOTE(Brown Eyed Gurl @ Sep 30 2008, 08:39 AM) [snapback]1004806[/snapback]
I kinda wonder....I mean already they are celibrities at Wal Mart everyone stops me to see them and half or the checkers are keeping track of their progress


:laughing: Us too!!!
The Target & Wal-Mart people know us personally now.....
People are just very curious when it comes to multiples I guess :umm:

 

I totally understand what you mean. And I am concerned over their popularity in the future. Of course, I hadn't even thought of it the way you have- like them expecting too much attention.

I have been concerned in another way. I have identical girls and I worry about their "popularity" with boys, men, strangers, etc. as they grow up because they are twins. The thought of them walking together in the mall at age 14 and getting unwanted (IMO- probably not theirs!) attention kind of makes me sick to think about. My husband HATES getting comments about that kind of stuff from his friends (jokingly) and he now cannot stand all the commercials, etc. depicting identical girls the way that they usually do. Like the "double" pizza commercial- it drives him nuts. BTW- if we didn't have id girls, he would love this stuff!

 

We get the usual "twin comments" when we are out and about, but they get more attention from family members than anything. They are the first grandchildren on both sides (although my sister's baby was born only 2 months after ours) and everybody just eats them up. (The IL's more than my family...) I think we would get a lot of attention from the IL's had it just been one baby, but they just doubled it because it's "neat" that there are two... I don't know, sometimes it's annoying, lol. I love the fact that my babies are loved so much by so many people but sometimes I want someone else to hurry up and have a baby so we will be left alone! I know, it's mean.