Please help!

My babies are so miserable lately. I don't know what to do. They are a little over 8 months now. They have been sleeping thru the night since they were 4 months old. I did sleep training (HSHHC) and it worked well. This whole week is horrible. My DS is crying during naps so he is only getting 30 minutes for each. Now it's effecting DD. Today they had a good morning nap. This afternoon, he cried for 30 minutes and then woke her up and she never got to go back to sleep. So I gave them their bottle at round 5:00...he started to fall asleep and she was rubbing her eyes. I put them to bed, not a problem. Now it's an hour and 36 minutes later and they have been hysterical since 5:30. What do I do? I can't take it!!!!!! Do I let them cry it out? I know the answer but it's never been this horrible before. I keep going back and forth thinking I put them down too early and should take them out but the other side says I need to do this so they fall asleep on there own. What's going on here?

I need some advice on this one like never before!!!

Thanks!

 

Are they teething or hitting another developmental milestone like crawling or pulling up? This can cause lots of chaos on a sleep schedule. I would probably have done the same thing about putting them down at 5p. Mine went down at 5:30 at that age so if they missed their nap then 5 would be a nice compromise. I think they are just overtired and now they are having a hard time putting themselves to sleep. I would let them carry on and take it from there. They just might settle soon. Sorry not much advice. Hang in there. They sound very tired. :love0028:

 

I agree with Rachel, I would put them down a little earlier if they aren't getting some good naps in. Even a 1/2 hour might make a difference. My girls messed with their nap schedule at 9, 10.5 and 12 months. I decided to stick with the HSHHC routine and continued to put them down at 9 and 1. I would leave them in their cribs for an hour to rest. They usually just chatted or played, sometimes fussed and cried just a little, but they never had a meltdown so I know they needed the down time.

Eventually their naps fell into a routine again, so it was always just a phase for us. I did try adjusting the times a little bit (1/2 hour either way) and that seemed to help.

 

QUOTE(DATJMom @ Jun 7 2008, 06:44 PM) [snapback]815556[/snapback]
Are they teething or hitting another developmental milestone like crawling or pulling up? This can cause lots of chaos on a sleep schedule. I would probably have done the same thing about putting them down at 5p. Mine went down at 5:30 at that age so if they missed their nap then 5 would be a nice compromise. I think they are just overtired and now they are having a hard time putting themselves to sleep. I would let them carry on and take it from there. They just might settle soon. Sorry not much advice. Hang in there. They sound very tired. :love0028:


Yes, she's pulling up and he has just mastered the crawling. They are starting to settle I think. It's not as severe but I can hear them hiccupping (you know when you've cried yourself to a ridiculous mess where you can barely breath).

It just makes my skin crawl and they've done so well for so long. My dad thinks they are going to bed too early so then I sit there and second guess what I'm doing. It helps to know that so many moms put there babies to bed early too. Thank you!!

 

Glad they are starting to settle. I loved the 5:30 bedtime. Yes, it did mean early mornings but for me it meant child-free evenings. :a_smil09:

 

QUOTE(DATJMom @ Jun 7 2008, 06:52 PM) [snapback]815563[/snapback]
Glad they are starting to settle. I loved the 5:30 bedtime. Yes, it did mean early mornings but for me it meant child-free evenings. :a_smil09:


Oh I hear yah on that one...love the evenings of quietness. But I lied...they are not settling. They are still at it.

 

Ugh! Sorry <_<

 

QUOTE(DATJMom @ Jun 7 2008, 07:02 PM) [snapback]815574[/snapback]
Ugh! Sorry <_<


Okay, we are good...all is quiet. Thank you for your advice. Even my 3 1/2 y/o went to bed at 7:15 pm (now god has answered my prayers). I just noticed how close our kids are in age. I should be PM'ing you in the future.

Thanks again!
Kelley

 

Mine are 6.5 months (born 36 weeks) and their naps are a bit out of wack too. Mine were going to bed at 7:30 - 8:00 pm now we are up to 6:30 pm. A few bumps and I'm not out of the woods yet, but I think it is really helping. They still get a AM bottle at about 5:30 - 6 AM then chat or slightly doze and I don't go get them up until 7 AM. Don't second guess yourself, you are with those babies all the time so you know what is the best thing for them. If you make any changes don't expect the results to always be sudden. Give it 1-2 weeks then reassess. Keep a little journal so you can see the progress. I agree with the above comments too about keeping 9 am and 1 pm their nap times. I remember also reading in HSHHC to get them up at 7 Am to start the day.....

if they are teething they often feel pain more in the evenings. I don't let the pain get out of control, so if I know they are actively teething I give them a maintenance dose every 6 hours otherwise the pain gets soooo bad that when I give the tylenol it isn't enough to control the pain. One hand in the mouth it is every 6 hours, two hands in the mouth is every 4 hours on the dot. Plus I give them a dry cloth to munch on and then apply the teething gel to a dry gum surface. -- again every 4 hours. I only have one twin who really has painful teething issues. The other one has 5 teeth at 6 months with little pain.

Heather

 

QUOTE(iluvpugs @ Jun 7 2008, 11:16 PM) [snapback]815585[/snapback]
Okay, we are good...all is quiet. Thank you for your advice. Even my 3 1/2 y/o went to bed at 7:15 pm (now god has answered my prayers). I just noticed how close our kids are in age. I should be PM'ing you in the future.

Thanks again!
Kelley


PM away. This "kid" stuff is hard work. I hope your night stays nice and quiet :lazy: