Please help--end of my rope

I feel guilty and awful, but I need to put it out there and get help--I'm miserable having twins. They are either always crying simultaneously or they tag-team it, so when they are awake there is never silence. And there's rarely a time when they are both sleeping, so I can barely find time to eat or go to the bathroom. I'm so envious of my friends who have one baby. They really seem to be able to enjoy him/her and have a little time to deal with life's necessities as well.

My babies are 3 mo, premies born at 28.6 wks (their due date was Nov. 3). They never seem to be awake and happy, I don't know what to do. I feel like a terrible mother, I am hating this. They both are having some kind of pain when eating as well. On Pepsid, but doesn't seem to help. They don't finish their bottles because they end up screaming (once again).

I want to enjoy them but I don't know how. It's just a massive effort to keep them quiet and not crying. Any advice? I feel bad for them, they are so cute and deserve to be happy!!!!

I know this sounds too dramatic, but I'm feeling really lousy right now. Thanks for any advice you have!

 

i was told take pictues because thats all the memories you will have.. its so true.. the time passes faster than you think..

i would say put them in a stroller and take them for a walk.. when they fall asleep let em sleep in the carseat, in the stroller..

or put them in a carseat together.. this is doable good luck..

 

It will get better, it takes time, it is hard. is there anyone who you can have come help even for a hour so you can get a breather?
also I would talkto the Dr about reflux, switching meds and/or formula.

 

My mother comes and feeds one at the 1 pm feeding about twice a week. I'm alone the rest of the time. My husband does the lion's share over the weekend (but he is feeling the same way as I do when he's with them).

I keep trying to take the "this too shall pass" attitude, but it feels like it never will and I'm just so unhappy.

 

Relax. You are normal. Completely normal. We have all gone thru that stage. It is so difficult to adjust to. I often thought the same thing about parents of singletons, esp. because I never had a singleton, so it was only guesstimating on my part.
How are they sleeping? If mine were sleeping well, they were a "little" better.
It will get easier. You will get into a routine and then there will be new challenges and you will tackle those, too.
Those singleton mothers are adjusting, too. But of course it doesn't look too hard to us. :lol: Every single singleton mother I've encountered since I've had the kids are "I don't know how you do it." They aren't being sarcastic. ANY struggle they have they multiply times 2 in their minds and it's nuts. Heck, we don't know how we do it either, but we do. So will you. Hang in there, hun. Around 4m, your life will get easier.

 

Good grief, that does sound awful! :hug99:

First of all, since their due date was only about 2 weeks ago, developmentally they are 2 week olds. They are probably going to be sleepy and not very responsive for the next 6 weeks. 2 months seems to be the "waking up" point for babies. Just be patient, soon they will be interacting with you more.

2nd, it does sound like reflux pain. Have you talked to your doctor about being on different meds? It sounds like the Pepsid is either not working, or needs to be upped. If they're strong enough to sit in a swing after eating, it may help ease their symptoms. Being upright for 45 minutes after eating really helps a lot.

3rd, you are not a bad mom! Preemies are hard to deal with. For anyone. Period. It's hard to enjoy twins for the first few months even when they're full term. It sounds like you are stressed out (and rightly so). You've been through a lot. :hug99: Hang in there, this is the survival stage. It will get better soon.

 

4 months? Do you know if that's the same for premies? I hope so b/c I don't know if I can handle much more of this. What do you do when they just won't stop crying, want their pacifiers but won't take them, it's too cold and rainy to go for a walk and they are both crying at once? The car seat doesn't help, the swing and bouncy seat occassionally.

I know that so many others have been through this and survived, but when I'm in the thick of it, I feel like I just can't do it, want to walk out of the house and just keep going...

And I hate the way I sound. Like a whiny, weak, pathetic person. This isn't who I am, or at least who I was...

 

You will make it I promise. My girls went through a stage from 6 weeks to about 11 weeks were they were just horrible. They cried alot. Every afternoon they cried. It took me, my dh , and all of our older to kids to get through this period. It will happen. I would talk to the ped about a different reflux medicine. You are a great mother. If you weren't then you would probably care less if they cried and you sure wouldn't be posting on here about your troubles. Maybe if you are feeling diffrent then you usually do then you could talk to your dr. It could be some kind of ppd or something. Good luck and the time that they are newborns does fly by so try to remember to step back and take a deep breath and cherish your little bundles. Oh yeah and until things clear up with the babies do as little as possible around your house(like cleaning or cooking).

Missy

 

I am so sorry you're feeling so down. We've all been there. I don't know if your babies enjoy baths, but when mine would get uncontrollably fussy I would give them a quick soak in the kitchen sink. I would lay a washcloth or something on the bottom, fill it a little ways then lay them on their back so the water would cover their ears then lay another wet washcloth over their tummies. It helps so much. It seems to just let them relax and the water over their ears has a magical effect! After they would calm down I could usually get them snuggled in for a nap and catch a breather. I hope that helps you as much as it helps me.

Reyna

 

You sound really overwhelmed, not whiny, weak or pathetic!

When my boys were both crying I would take care of one at a time. There's one of you and two of them. Just because the other was screaming didn't mean he wasn't going to get helped in a second. And that is perfectly ok. I think it helped me most to realize that I was doing the best I could. You are doing the best you can do.

I would also take it 5 minutes at a time, for real. I would say, "I'm not going to freak out and run away screaming for at least 5 more minutes. I can make it 5 more minutes." By the time daddy got home I was all "5 more minutes"ed out, but we had survived.

Also, earplugs. Loud noises bother my ears and 2 screaming babies are LOUD!

How much sleep are you getting a night?

 

You got good advice. Just remember that you can too it! It goes so fast. i was looking at videos last night and I can't believe how small and helpless they were.

You will be feeling better before you know it!

You are a great mom, just overwhelmed!!

 

I am feeling you here on this subject. I was thinking about posting this same topic today. I am about to loose my mind too. My DD fusses all the time. I finually called the ped. Dr. and she has an appt. today. I know I do not have the PPD. I am a VERY happy person until now. I was just praying last night so hard for God to make me happy again and love life again. I feel like too that I could be such a better mother if there was only one of them. (yes I feel blessed to have twins) I have two older children and they were a piece of cake to take care of at this age. Most days I am lucky just to get a bite to eat or pee. And my older two kids need mommy too and I feel like I neglect them sometimes b/c the twins are so needy right now. I keep telling myself that it will get better and pass. I saw another twin mother at the grocery store yesterday and she just looked at me and said it is about to get better really soon. She could just tell I was tired and worn out b/c I did not tell her I was struggling. I have to tell myself too all the time to cherish this time w/ them b/c they are probably my last kids I am going to have and soon I will be looking back wishing they would fit in my arms again. So in conclusion it will get better. Just keep telling yourself that over and over every day.

 

Oh gosh, you poor thing. The first few months are so rough. I remember feeling VERY envious of all of my friends that only had one baby. DH and I always dreamed about how easy it would be caring for one baby instead of two screaming babies!
That being said, this will pass. PP's have offered wonderful advice. This will pass...honestly, I know it doesn't seem like it now and you are at the end of your rope, but it will. :hug99:

 

I hear you. You are not a bad mommy and you have to remember that THIS WILL PASS! I thought I would never survive 4wks-12wks.... and looking back on it it really was a SHORT amount of time. I enjoy my babies everyday now and you will too I can guarantee it!! Just hang in there!!

 

I could have wrote your post when mine were that age. It was incredibily miserable around here when they were little. They always seemed to be crying. They both had colic which lasted about a month and then they just would scream constantly for no reason. It was horrible. I know you feel like a bad mom but you are still there, right? I know what you mean by not having time to use the restroom. I got a kidney stone when they were 7 months and my doc said it was probably b/c I didnt go often enough. Well, I didnt have time! So I feel ya there too!

It does get better, you probably dont want to hear this but mine didnt get better until they turned 1. Now at 20 months old, we are entering terrible two's and honestly, I dont know which one was worse! They have always been "high-demand" children but I am waiting for them to turn 18 :laughing: J/K

Hang in there, it does get easier. Is there anyone around to help you out with them?

 

There are three things that helped me tremendously during the first 12 weeks (mine were full term):

* A sling (we had the Infantino Slingriders, but I'm sure any would do the trick). I could "wear" one baby and tend to the other. The sling always put my fussbucket to sleep. We had two and my husband would wear one, and I'd wear the other. It was a lifesaver.

* Swaddling - more specifically miracle blankets. The tighter the better. At the age yours are, I'd keep them swaddled most of the day and it helped keep to keep them calm and sleep longer!

* White noise - the louder the better. I'd turn on the vacuum or blow dryer and leave it on for 15 minutes at a shot (maybe even longer on a bad day). It would quiet the babies, and heck if it didn't, at least I couldn't hear them for a while.

I would always chant to myself, there's only one mom and two babies. I also remember how someone had posted about approaching it like you were running an orphange, you deal with the most immediate need and move on to the next, and for some reason that analogy really helped me a lot.

I also agree with other pp that it definetly sounds like reflux. We didn't see great relief until we were on Prevacid.

Good Luck, you will be amazed that in a few short months (I know they seem long now), you will be here offering other women support and much needed advice about how to survive. You can do it!!

Suzi

 

My babies would scream and scream and scream.. But they are getting better now.. I bet you have a little bit longer when their gestational age is 2-3 months..

DD would scream with bottles too. We changed her formula and wow!!! She eats!! Ask your pedi about changing the formula..

Maybe you shoudl talk to your Dr about PPD. It sounds like a case of it!

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Just look at your babies when they are sleeping.. You will fel better!!! Things will get better!

 

Good for you for making it known how you are feeling! You're totally normal, don't feel bad. Also, when it justs gets "that bad", make sure they are safe, and walk away, walk outside, whatever you need to do to relax for just a minute or two. They will cry, and they will be OK. My suggestions...

Can your mom help you more? Tell her flat out you need/want help, and see if she can come over more so you can take a nap or get out of the house.

Do you have two swings that rock and play music, etc? Those were lifesavers for me! They slept in the many many many times!

If you can afford it, hire help! Do NOT be ashamed to hire a nanny, housekeeper, whatever you can afford to make your life easier.

Hang in there and do not give up or anything. It WILL get better! If nothing else, just stay on this board so we can support you...we'll be here for you!

Hugs :itwins: :itwins:

 

I am so sorry that you are in the thick of it right now and I am SOOOOOO glad that I made it through it. You will too, I promise.

It was so hard. I remember DH and I would literally sit on the front porch while they were screaming wondering if there was somewhere we could drop them off for a couple of days while we regrouped. I am not kidding you, we quite honestly were ready to give them away. We have no family in the area and we were both literally panicking.

Both of our babies had reflux and were (still are) very high maintenance babies. They simply would not fall asleep - not even in our arms!

I just remember DH would come home from work every day and I would be sitting there on the couch with two screaming babies in my arms chanting I love you I love you I love you. They screamed so much that I called the ped, sure that something was terribly wrong with them! I cried with them very often and much of our day was spent me sitting on the couch holding them close to me and all of us crying. Then, very gradually, one day DH came home and they were actually sleeping - I was sooo proud of myself. Then, very gradually, one day DH came home and they were awake, but content - again very very proud of myself.

It really really does get better, I promise. Please please do not feel bad if you are not "enjoying the moment" at this age. Yes, you may look back and be sad it went by soooo fast, but, this is only because you will have compeletely blocked out how absolutely awful it was!

You will make it because you have to and whether you are a great mom or not just does not matter. I think it helps to just plain old lower your standards at this point. In other words, as long as no one is bleeding and everyone, including yourself, is alive and accounted for at the end of the day then it was a success.

The one thing that helped me was knowing how truly different having twins is and almost everyone with twinfants is going/has gone through what you are right now and they have come out the other side.

SOME THINGS THAT HELPED US:
ours slept in their swings until 2.5-3mos. old and there was no problem once we transitioned them to cribs so if they are refluxy or not sleeping well I recommend trying the swings

swaddle swaddle swaddle - we used the miracle blankets as well that Suzie mentioned. Google miracle blanket and you will find them. They are $$$ but way way way way worth it.

The only 2 things that calmed my DD down at that age were the sun on her face, literally, I would take her to a window and let the sun shine right in her eyes, and bouncing up and down on an exersize ball.

Get medicine for the reflux. Both of mine are on AXID and it has helped.

The good news is my babies are now 5 months and 3 weeks old and I am having a blast. I am still annoyed with the before nap screaming and the night wakings but it is more of an annoyance than a "I absolutley cannot do this anymore and I am going to die" KWIM?

HTH and big huge hugs,
Amy

 

You've gotten some great advice. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. My DH and I cringe when we think of those early days. It was SO HARD!! We were miserable and there seemed like there was no light at the end of the tunnel. Remember you are not a bad mom for feeling this way. Things are so much harder with two babies. You have twice the amount of work in the same amount of time. Plus it always seems like one baby is being neglected while you care for the other. The guilt, frustration, and lack of sleep can make you feel crazy. The best thing for you to do (besides finding some form of help) is to just do as minimal as possible. I remember just sitting in the living room holding a baby or two and just watching tv all the time because the babies needed so much attention. I set up a pack and play in the living room as a changing station and their crib was in our room about 10 feet away. I basically never left a 20 foot radius and just walked or rocked babies all day long. Do whatever you can to survive. Forget day and night, just sleep whenever you can and eat whenever you can. Just remind yourself that every day is easier than the last and before you know it your twins will be off playing without you while you read TS like I am now. Hang in there!

 

Since I'm in the thick of it too I'll chime in on the "you're not a bad mother" bandwagon. I tell myself everyday to just power through. People say "oh, enjoy it -it goes by so fast" when they see me in the store or something. I want to scream back "OH REALLY? WHEN DOES IT GO FAST...BECAUSE I'D LIKE SOMEON TO STEP ON THE GAS RIGHT ABOUT NOW!". Sometimes when my hubby is home I'll take one to the store with me just to see what it feels like to have just one. Or, when he has one in the living room I'll take the other in the bedroom and snuggle and fantasize that I just have one. So, I think it's normal to envy singleton moms and I know soon I will feel sorry for singleton moms because having twins will be amazing...but for now, it's hard.

I have a refluxer too. She pukes all the time and it's not just spit up. I also have one who is very fussy and fight sleep with all she has. We did the white noise in the room and it helped. They sell white noise machines at target but I just bought "ambient white noise" from itunes and loaded it on my ipod and I play it on repeat on my ipod speaker in their room. We let them sleep in their swings as much as they will. We swaddle tightly and keep them swaddled most of the time.

The newborn stage is so hard and with preemies...it's sooo long!

I also went on zoloft ten days ago and I do feel better. I feel more capable of handling them and I don't get so bothered by the long crying spells.

Lastly, my pediatrician reminded me yesterday that we should lay these girls down in their crib when we are feeling overwhelmed and let them cry. No baby was ever hurt by crying. If they are fed, warm and dry...let them cry and go take a shower or stand on your front porch or something. It may help you regroup...even if just for a minute or so.

I'm sorry it's so hard. I don't think anyone will ever understand unless they've been there. I'm convinced that this is the most mentally challenging thing I've ever done or will ever do. I'm pretty sure I could run a marathon after this...

 

make sure they are fed, changed and fine and go take a nice shower.

 

Not much to add that hasn't already been suggested.
I just wanted to give you some ((((((hugs)))))).

Sorry it's so awful. I am also sorry that I understand exactly how you feel.

 

:hug99: Sounds like you are dealing with the dreaded reflux. Its very common thing with preemies. Mine were born at 32 weeks. We got them on Prevacid, thickened feeds (2 tsp cereal/ounce of formula), and special formula and things dramatically improved around our house. They were much happier and I was much happier. Please give you Ped a call and let them know that they are having a hard time feeding.

 

Whew...I too could have written this post. I love my babies so, so very much. BUT, there were days that I thought I just couldn't do it anymore. I just wanted to leave them screaming in their rooms, get in my car and drive away. I feel guilty every night when I tuck my 2 yr old in because I know I didn't give him the attention he needed that day. I feel guilty when I snap at my husband just because he didn't lower his voice when he came in, not knowing whether the babies were sleeping or not. I feel guilty getting excited about the sitter coming. Then and even now I just do it! You just manage everyday for what it is...it is tough. Its easy to wish that the situation were different and to feel contempt for those single moms that make those crappy comments. However, it does get BETTER. Everyday it gets BETTER. There will be set backs but with each setback there are 2 milestones, things that move you ahead to alittle more sanity! Everyone has made great suggestions on how to comfort them...I used the swing and bouncey seat for mine. If at all possible - if you can manage it financially I'd check on getting a Mother's helper a few days a week. Maybe check with your local parents club, MOMs club or church (churches in the area) for referrals. Having an extra set of hands really helps to take the pressure off. I'd suggest signing up for the Big Sitter program too. I did and although I don't communicate with mine all of the time she has definitely been there the times that I needed her. Again, the the 100th time....it gets BETTER!! Big hugs to you and remember you can do it. Keep telling yourself that and soon all of this will be a blur!

 

Like everyone has already said, it's just a phase and it will pass. I think we've all felt the way you're feeling right now and although you feel guilty for thinking it, it's real, and it's what you feel. I still say to myself "it would be so much easier if there were only one" but there's not and I love both of them far to much to trade them in for the singleton life.

My boys took a huge turn right around 3 months when I stopped bf'ing, took them off Enfamil Lipil w/Iron and started on ProSobee. DH and I couldn't believe the transformation... they went from non-stop criers to entertained little happy babies. Apparently my milk and regular formula made them so gassy that they hated being in their skin. I felt horrible that I had been torturing them for so long, but we figured it out and moved on.

If you're formula feeding, have you experimented with other types?

 

You've received some great advice... I just wanted to chime in to say you're NOT a bad mom, you're doing everything in your power to get through this and it sounds like your babies are very well cared for.
Just to second a couple of things some other people have said:
1) You are ONE person with TWO babies. You cannot– physically, mentally or emotionally– tend to both babies at once. Do what you can, and if one or both babies needs to be left to cry for a minute (or five, or ten), then so be it. If you need to leave them in their cribs crying while you take a breather, DO IT. You'll be a better mom for it. If you need to take several breathers a day (or several an hour) DO IT.
2) All you really need to do, to get through each day, is keep your babies warm, fed and dry, and keep yourself warm, fed and dry. Rest as much as you can, sleep as much as you can, and don't ask to much of yourself.
3) Swaddling was our saviour. We swaddled as tightly as possible whenever the babies went down for a nap, when they went to bed at night, and whenever they were fussy in between. They would often amp up the screeching while they were being swaddled and for a minute or two after, but then would calm right down. Soothers also helped a lot.

Are there any services offered in your community that might help you? I know where we live I was offered a volunteer from the VON (Victorian Order of Nurses) who would come and "hold a baby" for a few hours, a few times a week. Meals on wheel can deliver a hot, healthy meal to your door once a day. Can you hire a mother's helper to come in and rock a screaming baby a few times a week?

Things will get better, you will enjoy your babies more and more as time goes on, and you are not alone in this.
Keep up the good work and keep asking for help as and when you need it!

 

You don't sound dramatic at all! You sound like a mom of twinfants! And twinfants with reflux no less! :crazy: Call and make an appointment right now for the reflux. The meds are obviously not working and need to be changed, whether it's dosage or to a new med. Reflux is MISERABLE! My babies both had it too and stopped eating because it was so awful! What kind of formula are they on?

Gosh, I am sure you have dealt with a ton of emotions since they were born. Having them come so early and all of the anxiety I am sure took a huge toll on you, probably more than you even realize. Do you think that you may have some PPD? If there is any doubt, please call your doctor and let them decide. You are not a whiny, weak, pathetic person. You are most likely doing a much better job than you think you are, and don't give yourself enough credit for how INCREDIBLY hard it can be with infant twins.

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As I read your posts, I got tears in my eyes and had to actually take a few deep breaths because I was brought back to the time when all my boys did was cry. I just wanted to share that you can go to the first year handbook sticky at the top of the First Year Forum page. Then click on 'surviving twinfants'. You may find suggestions there that will help you get through this time. :love0028:

 

I, too, could have written this post. Our girls were colicky and STILL at 4 months (3 corrected) cry A LOT. They kept telling me ... 3 mos. it will be better ... yada yada ... and it HAS gotten better but they are still so darned fussy. I have said over and over that I am not cut out for this and I don't know how I will survive it. We will survive it ... and I'm sure we will look back one day and think ... man, THAT sucked!

You are NOT a bad Mom and you should NOT feel guilty for feeling the way you feel. We decided to get a babysitter for me who comes a few times a week and helps out. I don't leave her b/c the girls are so fussy I can barely handle it on my own ... I don't want to leave some college kid on her own with them ... but at least I know that if there is a double meltdown that I won't be by myself. It is worth the debt we are going to get in for it! Also, it really helped out for me to swallow my pride and ask my friends and family for help. Anytime anyone offered, I would accept. Even if it meant that they just came over and held one baby so that I only had one to deal with. Some strategies that worked for me were bouncing them on an exercise ball. I would swaddle them and lay them on a bed pillow and lean down and pick the whole pillow up so I was holding both of them and just bounce. Things got a lot better when they started taking a paci. I don't know how willing you are to do this, but I was willing to try anything ... if you put a little drop of Mylicon in their mouths (my girls love the way it tastes) it will calm them for a second and while they are smacking their lips, shove the paci in and they will suck for a few minutes then spit it out ... I did this enough times to where they learned that they liked the paci ... you also may have to try different kinds until you find one they like. They say you can give Mylicon up to 12 times a day ... I would only do it maybe 2 or 3 times a day and not a full dose, just a drop. Things like slings, car rides & bouncy seats were useless to us ... the ONLY thing that 1/2 way worked was the side-to-side cradle swing. Something that helped ease my mind was the book The Happiest Baby on the Block. It, at least, mase me feel like it wasn't something I was doing wrong ... that babies just cry and that is how it is.

All I can say is that we have all felt this way. Or at least I have and my husband has and anyone who doesn't have twins will just never understand how hard it is. When people say having a baby is hard I want to laugh in their faces! Also, know that if they are fed, changed, warm and safe (in a crib or strapped in a swing ...) it is OK to leave them and go outside take 5 mins. to eat something or drink a cup of tea (or glass of wine!). Crying won't hurt the baby and they won't remember it when they are older. It will get better and they will start sleeping better so you have some free time and they will start smiling and cooing and you will have moments where you can't imagine your life any other way ... the good and the bad!

 

I also had 2 colic bombs and the first time they cried from noon until 9 pm when they went to bed I called DH at work SOBBING because I didn't know what to do - at my 6 wk PP appt I walked into the OB's office and burst into tears because I was so tired and didn't know what to do! Things really improved once we started letting them sleep in the swings - swaddled up with the A/C on for white noise...we also switched them to soy formula - DD was like a new baby overnight and DS took about a week or so (he's still the higher maintenance toddler) but it does get better...no word of lie - nearly every day I loaded them into the car and went to the mall or WalMart or somewhere just to walk around (it was the hottest part of summer so I didn't really go walking through the neighborhood - but I would do that some days too...and there were days I just laid them in the crib and closed the door for 5 minutes - and amazingly enough sometimes they fell asleep...

its hard - it does go by quickly but it certainly doesn't seem that way when your into hour 3 of crying, changing the 4th outfit of the day because they're covered in puke and poop and you just want to run out the door and never look back!!! he!! even now I have days I tell DH "I don't want to be a mom anymore" when they've been trying....

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You sound like me...My twins were born at 28.6 weeks as well. When they came home from the NICU at 37 weeks, all they did was sleep. Eat, sleep, eat, sleep for about a month since they came home. I was thinking, "Wow, this is easy!" WELL...Did that suddenly change, and FAST! Suddenly, they were awake and crying alllllllllllllllllllllllll the time and I was so miserable and crying all the time. I was always alone, no family helped with them except with the laundry (my mom). My husband works 14+ hour days. I was all alone most of the time. When he got home, I was a royal B to him because I was exhausted. I thought it'll never ever get easier and it was always going to be like this. I was so jealous of my friends with singletons. I would see them being able to clean the house, care for the baby, go shopping, all effortlessly through the day, and looking decent and showered. And there was me: Running all over the house "putting out one fire after another", messy hair all in a ponytail, sweats on, haven't showered in days, exhasuted, cleaning up throw-up all over the place every 30 minutes..well...I'm sure you know what I mean. It took me about 6 weeks to adjust (after the sleeping-eating period), and still, I have my days where I feel miserable. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, though. Along the way, I've dealt with massive reflux from both of them, my DD having to eat out of an NG tube now because of it (getting a G-tube this Friday), DS also refusing bottle, but not as bad and him having to come home on oxygen and a pulse ox. It's been a loooong road. I used to laugh at people when they said it'd get easier. But it's soooo true. I promise you, it is. When things get REALLY bad, just take a deep breath and keep saying it over and over out loud. I always did/do that.

Most twin moms go through this period. But I think in the end, we win lol...It'll be more rewarding in the end. I find that I always hate when moms of singletons complain...They've got it easy!!

Good Luck in finding some pease

 

A HUGE thank you to all for such good advice. I haven't had the chance to post this the past couple of days, but your advice and kind words helped so much.

I don't know what makes me cry more--the agony of this stage or the thought that they are going to grow out of being so little and cute!

I'm so grateful I found you all. THANK YOU!!!!!