picking up the twins from DayCare alone

Hi all,

So, lately when I arrive to pick my daughters up from Day Care, they both try to engage me as soon as I enter the room and they see me or hear my voice. My problem is that I usually pick up the baby that's making the most noise in an attempt to get my attention and once I do, the other baby ends up crying until I put the first baby down and pick her up. While I love being so popular, it makes me sad that in greeting one baby, I am upsetting the other. So, I wanted to check in with other working parents. Has this been your experience too? And, if so, have you learned any tips to make pick ups easier? I would love to hear about it if you have.

Thanks in advance!

 

I work full time but I don't pick my kids up at daycare- dh does but when I get home that is the reaction I get- they immediately crawl to me both crying wanting to be picked up, which I do, but it can be tough, so I try to sit down so I can easily hold them both until they settle down. Maybe theres's some place in daycare that you can sit with them for a couple of minutes before you have to pack them all up. Good luck!

 

I know how it feels to always want more arms. We as twin moms will do some rather odd stuff because we feel guilty about neglecting one child or the other. I work full time too, and I used to actually rotate who I carried out to the car and who walked beside me.
If this is a home care situation, and maybe even if it's not, perhaps you could get the caregiver to position the kids together at aprox. your pick up time, so you could interact with both for a few minutes. That might help everyone, including you. My sitter is a twin and she did this for me, so that when I walked in they were together so I could play with them both a few minutes.

At our daycare, I spend a little time talking to each child prior to leaving with them and each is in a seperate classroom, so they're as happy to see each other as to see me. But, mine are older.
Good luck!

 

When mine were in daycare, they were both in the same room. I talked to the teachers, and we picked out a designated "plopping spot", where we would be out of traffic in the room. I would go to that spot, sit down, and be able to hold both of my girls at the same time. Good luck finding a routine that works for you. It can be tough going some days.

 

I'm on my 3rd daycare & have been acting the same since daycare #1. At pick up, I always get on the floor & snuggle with both boys...or pick them BOTH up & hold them (it's easier to sit on the floor, though ...lol). None of the daycares have ever had an issue with me sticking around a few mins...in fact, I usually get a verbal report during that time. I typically always carry Aiden out to the car b/c he'll downright FLIP if he has to go to someone else after seeing me & luckily Conner is usually ok as long as he sees me. I'd just spend a little time with both of them at pick up & hopefully that'll help. I also tend to ask that all their stuff be together that needs to go home when I pick up b/c mine get upset when I have to put them down to gather their things . You'd think they'd realize that I'm going to take BOTH of them home, right ???

 

I used to great them both at the same time before picking anyone up. Usually they were near each other in boucy chairs or on the floor. Then one of the teachers would give me the update on the day while helping me carry one girl to the stroller. So they both got picked up at the same time. I tried to make sure that I didn't always carry the same girl. Now when I pick them up at the sitter's house, one usually runs to me and demands to be picked up (usually A), while the other is too busy playing to great me until she is ready

 

My girls sometimes do the same thing when I am picking them up from the play room. I pick up the first baby and then I ask one of the care-givers to hand me baby #2 and I put her on my other hip so I can give them a hug. Then the care-givers help me load them into my stroller so I can get them to the car safely.

 

Luckily one of the teachers at my kids' day care usually helps me so I they both get to the car at the same time. I usually take the one that is more fussy. I don't know...it's hard. And I feel bad if I don't have help that one of them has to wait in the car or at the day care while I get the other one. What's a twin mom to do?

 

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for your suggestions! It is both so nice and so hard to be wanted by two at the same time. Today, I picked the fussier one up and asked the Day Care worker to hand the second one to me and we three sat in the rocking chair for a bit. That worked well so I will keep doing some variation of this.