Panic and worry.

Anyone else go through times of panic and worry about how the heck they are going to take care of two babies at once? I barely slept last night. Freaking out over how it will all work. My husband of course doesn't stress and says he will be here...yes but not 24/7, not like he can quit working. I don't know. Can't even figure out how I am going to hold two and feed them at the same time. Or comfort both at the same time. I hate it when I stress like this as it can't be good for the babies. Just worried I am going to be way overwhelmed. *sigh*


Dianna

 

Yes. I don't think I ever worried, but I was just scared. Dh went to work after two weeks, mom left two weeks later and I had HUGE panic attacks.

I can't tell you not to worry, because if you're like me, you will anyway. BUT, try to do your best to enjoy these days. Enjoy those moments of movement, and the ultrasounds where you can see their precious faces, and the relaxation you get now. It is JOY to have them here, but try and live in this moment for now. :hug99:

 

im still scared as a single mom of three under 3

i worry more about supporting them financially vs physically.. that wasnt so bad..

many hugs

dont worry..

 

I worried just like you.... Please try and relax and just live in the moment don't think ahead it will drive you crazy. Trust me it does work out..... you will be able to feed and comfort both babies. I was a new Mom with twins and I never baby sat and I had no idea how to take care of a baby and I was having two. My twins are now 2 years old and I still worry about the things that happen and how will I handle it.... When I look back over the last two years I really worried for nothing.
Listen there isn't anything that could happen that you could not handle yourself. If they both cry just be there beside them and everything will be fine. Feeding both you will figure out the easiest way and you will see you worried about nothing.

Enjoy the pregnancy and get plenty of rest.

 

I went thru the same thing. DH & I debated for two yrs about even having a 2nd child before we conceived the twins, didn't know if we were cut out for more than one. Ha, what a surprise!

BUT every single day I look at my babies and my heart just overflows with love and gratitude that fate/God gave me more than I thought I could handle. Once I really got the hang of life with twins (3-4 mos?) I just can't imagine having only one of them, two is SOOO much fun in spite of all the challenges.

You will be AMAZED how things will just work out. I never ever thought I could happily be the mom of three but I truly am ecstatic and I bet you will be too. Good luck! :hug99:

 

Yes - except I've been worrying about the financial aspects, not the actual physical side. Very stressful. BUT I wouldn't change it for the world Took me long enough to conceive so I am very happy, just a little nervous about money!

 

Thank you everyone for your encouragement. Funny how I am not worried about money. We are a one income household, but I know my husband will do whatever it takes to take care of the three of us, so one thing I just don't think about. I know it will all work out, being over tired just does not help my emotions, worries or any of it lol

Dianna

 

I just starting worrying about having two at once... I was walking into Target yesterday and saw a Mom holding one 6 month old and I thought I will never have it that easy! I also worry about how to deal with two, feeding, crying, bathing! It's very scary. I wouldn't want it any other way though. In fact, I told dh next time he better be nice or I will drop three eggs!

 

QUOTE(trouble squared @ Nov 30 2007, 11:22 AM) [snapback]515416[/snapback]
I just starting worrying about having two at once... I was walking into Target yesterday and saw a Mom holding one 6 month old and I thought I will never have it that easy! I also worry about how to deal with two, feeding, crying, bathing! It's very scary. I wouldn't want it any other way though. In fact, I told dh next time he better be nice or I will drop three eggs!



I agree, wouldn't' want it any other way. So happy to be having the two boys. But oh so scary.

Dianna

 

QUOTE(Dianna @ Nov 30 2007, 07:14 AM) [snapback]515006[/snapback]
Anyone else go through times of panic and worry about how the heck they are going to take care of two babies at once? I barely slept last night. Freaking out over how it will all work. My husband of course doesn't stress and says he will be here...yes but not 24/7, not like he can quit working. I don't know. Can't even figure out how I am going to hold two and feed them at the same time. Or comfort both at the same time. I hate it when I stress like this as it can't be good for the babies. Just worried I am going to be way overwhelmed. *sigh*
Dianna

I did freak but now I adjust i've started doing one in the boppy and propping up the bottle while i feed the other and when its time to burp switch that way they both get your attention and sometimes you can't comfort both at the same time and it may make you cry or get upset b/c you don't know what to do but sometimes if I know they are fed their diapers changed and I try to burp them and nothing happens I know they are fine and they will cry for a few minutes but then comfort themselves

 

I do plan on getting the boppy pillows, plus as my hubby was trying to comfort me this morning he was saying they can also sit in their carseats or bouncy seats. He is so calm cool and collected about all of this. Seeing him panic just a bit would be nice LOL

Dianna

 

Hi Dianna

Well I have never had twins before (I am 33 weeks with b/g twins right now) but I do know from experience that when I had my first baby, of course all those thoughts are overwhelming. And I had my daughter first then 14 months later, my son was born! Sasha and Bennett are my Irish twins, as people call them! And now I am going to have REAL twins and I have panicked plenty. I will have 4 under the age of 4.....look out Betty Ford Clinic, here I come! :rotflmbo:

What helped me as a NEW mom was joining a local Moms Club......there is a newsletter that comes out once a month and every day there are activities to go and do whether it is a playgroup, meeting up for coffee, a Moms Night Out once a month, etc. Anyway, the playgroups are broken down by age group, so you can be with other moms who are in the same boat as you. I found ENORMOUS support for all kinds of things related to being a new mom.

For all of you moms looking to connect, visit the www.momsclub.org to find a local chapter near you. I found the girls very welcoming and most chapters do SO much to welcome, include and invite new members to join and participate all there is to offer.

SO! I have been a member for 4 years, but now that I am having twins, I have sought out a local TWINS moms club. And our local club is just an impromptu group of girls who get together and the club is evolving. Even though my babies arent here yet, I have emailed the 10 members asking baby gear questions, pregnancy questions, etc. And I found great support in my fellow twin moms too.

In my regular moms club, that I mentioned with the website above, there are 4 other twin moms who have become such great friends of mine even before I conceived our twins.

After about 2 months or so, I remember feeling like I needed to get OUT of the house and get back in the land of the living. So do your research now to find a local twin club or Moms Club and ask them to mail you their newsletter or get their web address so you can familiarize yourself with what they are about and what they offer. Plus it will be something to look forward to when you are ready to get out. THEN when you are ready to get out and connect with other moms....you will have their info all ready!

I felt like I was in such new territory when I had my first baby, my friends either had older children or they were still engrossed in their careers and had not started their family yet. I felt like no one knew what I was feeling, celebrating or even crying about!

So check it out, these friends you make will be the ones you see during the day, socialize with as couples and get through being a NEW mom with! Lots of laughs are guaranteed.

BIG hugs to you and your babies xojillian

 

its hard NOT to worry just remember to ask for help from anyone who will give it to ya IM so grateful to have a nanny coming for a year it literally took years off my life! i was so worried of having 4 kids to myself and NOT having a clue wear to begin! finaces are ok; we had to take a look at what we REALLY need, can get by, and frilous spending- that has helped too; buy,beg,borrow most stuff from other moms or used stores for lots of the things baby will outgrow fast-ie swings,playpens,cribs,bouncers,exersaucers--look for good deals on craiglist or the twin selling site-and grab the good deals now We are having a HUGE baby sale at our used store and if we find a deal we cant pass up well grab 2 high chairs ect now and just put it aside til we need it

 

What are Irish twins?

I did find a local group....just haven't made it to a get together. I really need to do that before I chicken out too much.

Dianna

 

I start to feel overwhelmed when I see a mom with 1 baby - and all I can think is that I'll have 2!! Yikes! My husband is not at all worried - I wish I could be more like him.

It'll all work out. I've been reading lots of books on bringing home twins... I think that's helping me feel a little more comfortable.

 

QUOTE(2+2more! @ Nov 30 2007, 12:15 PM) [snapback]515513[/snapback]
its hard NOT to worry just remember to ask for help from anyone who will give it to ya IM so grateful to have a nanny coming for a year it literally took years off my life! i was so worried of having 4 kids to myself and NOT having a clue wear to begin! finaces are ok; we had to take a look at what we REALLY need, can get by, and frilous spending- that has helped too; buy,beg,borrow most stuff from other moms or used stores for lots of the things baby will outgrow fast-ie swings,playpens,cribs,bouncers,exersaucers--look for good deals on craiglist or the twin selling site-and grab the good deals now We are having a HUGE baby sale at our used store and if we find a deal we cant pass up well grab 2 high chairs ect now and just put it aside til we need it

I am lucky I guess that all my inlaws live around me...They have all already offered help. I know I will have to put aside my stubbornness once the babies get here and accept their help.


Dianna

 

QUOTE(Dianna @ Nov 30 2007, 12:18 PM) [snapback]515520[/snapback]
What are Irish twins?

I did find a local group....just haven't made it to a get together. I really need to do that before I chicken out too much.

Dianna



Hi there, Irish twins.....okay, how do I explain! The joke is that good Irish Catholics use natural family planning.......and tend to have large families with babies that are 2 years or less apart in age......(and my maiden name is COONEY!) My first two babies are 14 months apart, hence the Irish Twins reference, I had two babies in two years, one after the other. I was still b/f and my dd was like 4 months old when we conceived our second baby! Yikes.....and I thought that was hard!

 

QUOTE(Jillianstwins @ Nov 30 2007, 12:39 PM) [snapback]515565[/snapback]
Hi there, Irish twins.....okay, how do I explain! The joke is that good Irish Catholics use natural family planning.......and tend to have large families with babies that are 2 years or less apart in age......(and my maiden name is COONEY!) My first two babies are 14 months apart, hence the Irish Twins reference, I had two babies in two years, one after the other. I was still b/f and my dd was like 4 months old when we conceived our second baby! Yikes.....and I thought that was hard!



Got it Thanks for explaining


Dianna