Over pampering my twins?

I am one of the lucky ones that have a lot of help at home and a VERY supportive hubby. He shares half the load of taking care of the twins (maybe more coz he takes care of my DS which is heavier and crankier, lol)
Now my concern is, my sister told me my kids are "too pampered". In a way, she is correct... We still swaddle at naptime... (i know they are almost 10 mos..,but that is the only way they will sleep long for naps!!!) they still need to be rocked to sleep at naptime too... At bedtime it is a different story.. They can self soothe and go to sleep basically on their own, we have a good routine down so they know its sleep time. But we just can't do it at naptime! How do I break this habit? Do you think we are overpampering the twins?!

 

My most concern is my DS... We can let him cry it out, but he has a bad habit of scratching his head fiercely when upset, so he will end up with scratches all over his head, ears and even has a bald spot already due to this habit! That's why it's difficult to just let him be.,, :-(

 

If you are happy with what you are doing, forget about what others say. I see nothing at all wrong with swaddling, rocking to sleep, etc. if it works for you! :hug: I could sure be accused of "overpampering" my three boys at time - but when it comes to cuddles and love, I don't think you can go overboard! Enjoy this time while they are small! :wub:

 

I agree!!! Snuggle, cuddle, love, enjoy.

 

I rocked my girls to sleep till they were three (opposite here they were fine at nap time). At five I go in every night and lay down with them till they are a sleep. We cosleeped for a long time. I just couldn't CIO. Also I have been a single mom for almost the entire time and it affected how we slept.

 

It sounds to me like things are going so well for your family. Great job! I would agree with doing whatever is right for you and trying not to pay attention to what other people are saying about over pampering.

So many people I talk to who have twins that are older say that the first year for them was such a blur. It's so easy to race from one job to the next that it is sometimes hard to ENJOY having our babies. So you slow down and rock them during the day- sounds like you get a great chance to enjoy the heck out of them.

 

Don't mess with success! If the kids are happy and healthy, you're doing your job, no matter anyone has to say about it. Just curious.. does your sister have twins? If she doesn't, then she doesn't know how tough life can be with two screaming kiddos who haven't had a good nap!

 

I really don't think you can spoil an infant. I personally did CIO for nap and bedtimes because we just couldn't handle rocking our kids to sleep. But if YOU feel your kids are sleeping fine, why worry about what someone else thinks?

 

totally ditto Jori.

I say if it works do it. If it makes you happy, do it.

I have always 'pampered' my kids - now i have 3 older ones who sleep awesome and are happy children.

I also have a friend who didn't 'pamper' hers. They sleep awesome and are happy.

Its what works for YOUR family and YOUR kids and thats what is important....

 

I agree with others-if it works for you-no need to stop! Love them up while you can! They grow wayyy too quickly!

As for the scratching-would gloves or socks work?!?

 

No you are most certainly not over pampering. You are providing a strong and secure foundation for them to be individuals and have confidence. Now, when you decide you don't want to do these things anymore, you will find a way. So if you are ready to just put them down at nap time, you can try a variety of methods, but whichever one you try you will want to include communicating a similar phrase to them each time, for instance, "It is time to go to sleep. Mommy give kisses and hugs and will see you in a little while. Time for nigh-night." Or whatever you come up with. At this age they understand far more than they can communicate...so if you are consistent and repetitive in your communication with your actions sleep training for naps will be much easier. You may also want to introduce a lovey to keep them company if you have not. This will be their security in place of the rocking. You will not be wrong no matter what you choose momma.