Our bedtime concern.....

We have five year old twins that have slept in their own bedrooms since they were about 1 year. However, lately, Benjamen and Grace have been asking to sleep in each others rooms together. So, we decided to make Saturday their special night to sleep in the same bed. That one night a week plan worked for a while....then as you probably know as a twin mom....one night turned into two...then there was alot of crying tonight because we wanted them to sleep in their own rooms. I really do not have any concerns about it because they are just happy to have someone in their room so they are not alone at night. I think it is so sweet. However, my hubby says he thinks little boys and little girls should not share a room....only because they are a boy and girl. Really? I am just wondering what your thoughts would be on this matter. Would you let them share a bedroom?

 

As I sit here right now, my 6.5 year old, b/g twins are sleeping over at Grandma's house, in sleeping bags, on the floor of the same room.

I guess to me, it's part of the fun of being a kid. When company comes, Timothy sleeps on a trundle bed in Sarah's room. If they want to sleep over and visit each other, they can, as long as they sleep. If it turns to playtime (it did 2 nights ago) they have to go to their own rooms. When mine wanted to take their comforters off their beds and make "nests" on the floor, I let them. As long as they are sleeping, I really don't care.

Marissa

 

I don't think sharing a bed is a big deal for b/g twins, especially at their age. They each have their own rooms, right? They probably just want some company at night.

 

I don't see the issue at this age. My twins are both boys and have gone through stages where they have wanted the same room, wanted their own room and now like being in the same room. IMO they 1 like the company and 2 I could be off base, but it seems this is an age where they start more overly to figure out how they are different/similar kind of a pair but def different people--does that make sense?

 

I wouldn't worry about that until much later. When they're old enough to want privacy (I have no idea when that happens, but mine are 4.5 and it sure hasn't happened yet), they'll tell you.

 

My two shared a room until last year. Many times they would end up in the same bed. Zack is totally fine sleeping on his own, but Paige would still like to sleep with him. We've kept them separate, but if it was a real issue and they were getting upset about it, I would not have a problem letting them sleep together. I think in another year or so (for my 2) it would be a different story.

 

Thank you for all of your responses. I appreciate all of your opinions. I think the fact that they want to sleep in the same room is sweet and is part of their twin bond. Maybe in few years I should be concerned about it....but right now it is 8:50 and they have been peacefully asleep for nearly an hour in the same bed. Happy nights.

 

Mine will be 5 in September and still share a room. We have no plans to separate them until they ask to be separated.

As a kid, I spent the night with my best friend, who happened to be a boy, until 4th grade. At that point our parents put a stop to it because we were getting closer to puberty. But, no problems up until then.

My DH shared a room with his sister until he was 16 and she was 7. I wouldn't recommend this since it wasn't really by choice (two bedroom apartment. What are you going to do?), but obviously it caused no lasting damage. My mom shared a room with her brother for quite a while, too. People have been doing it for hundreds of years. In fact, separating siblings just because they are not the same sex is a pretty new thing.

 

Wouldn't bother us in the slightest

 

I have 3 boys - 8 yr old twins and a 21 month old. The twins share a room and I would have no problem with it even if one of them was a girl. I am currently expecting a little girl and we have discussed having her and my youngest son share a room once she's no longer an infant. There have been studies that have shown that room sharing can lead to better compromising and relationship skills and that those that shared a room as a child are less likely to get divorced and have happier adult relationships. I shared a room with my older brother when I was little (he's 5 years older) and at one point shared one with him and my younger brother (he's 4 yrs younger). We liked being together because we moved a lot for my father's job and it made us feel like no matter where we were we always had each other. I am still exceptionally close to my brothers even though we are all an hr away from each other now. I think encouraging a close sibling bond is a good thing, and you could use the extra room for a playroom, guest room, or office. or a kids free adult area- how great would that be?