Other twin moms in public

Okay, we just spent a day at the mall, with all of the attention that brings (DH and I really aren't the type who enjoy chatting with strangers, so we're not into this whole twin attention thing). But the thing is, we saw two other twin moms while we were there, and I really felt the urge to at least say hi and maybe compare notes on strollers. I didn't, because I felt weird being annoyed when strangers asked all the "are they twins" questions and then becoming that idiot myself (of course, I wouldn't start with "are they twins"!).

So, my question is, if you were approached by another twin mom in public, would that be just another annoying conversation you had to deal with, or would you like the contact and chance to chat?

(For the record, neither woman was in a rush -- one was sitting and waiting for a table at a restaurant, the other was obviously just window shopping.)

Kim

 

Okay, we just spent a day at the mall, with all of the attention that brings (DH and I really aren't the type who enjoy chatting with strangers, so we're not into this whole twin attention thing). But the thing is, we saw two other twin moms while we were there, and I really felt the urge to at least say hi and maybe compare notes on strollers. I didn't, because I felt weird being annoyed when strangers asked all the "are they twins" questions and then becoming that idiot myself (of course, I wouldn't start with "are they twins"!).

So, my question is, if you were approached by another twin mom in public, would that be just another annoying conversation you had to deal with, or would you like the contact and chance to chat?

(For the record, neither woman was in a rush -- one was sitting and waiting for a table at a restaurant, the other was obviously just window shopping.)

Kim

 

If it were me, I would have liked another twin mom to come up to me. One did the other day (she didn't have her twins with her though) and it was nice to have a little chat.

 

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So, my question is, if you were approached by another twin mom in public, would that be just another annoying conversation you had to deal with, or would you like the contact and chance to chat?

NO! I talk to other twin moms in public all the time (but I am a chatty person like that) and I find that they are also usually very willing to chat about their stroller etc. (I did field research this way!)

Stroller talk is a good way to go!

 

I enjoy other twin moms talking to me and comparing notes. Like you I'm not a fan of the small talk with people i don't know but it's refreshing to talk to someone who knows what you are going through.

 

Oh, I'm not a big about chatting with strangers, but I'll make a beeline for any twin moms I see. When other twin moms come and talk to me, I'm always happy to talk with them.

 

I was at Walmart the other day getting my oil changed. I went inside the waiting room and there was a daddy by himself with his 6-month old twin girls. I didn't say anything to him because one was sleeping, but I thought it was great seeing a man out by himself with all those babies (he also had a toddler). If they were awake, I would've talked to him. I don't mind it when people come up to me and talk about their twins. Most of the time, it is older women who tell me they had twins 30 years ago and how things are different and easier now!

 

I would love to go up to one but I get so iritated by the constant stares, comments, and strangers all the time that I dont bug them

 

I love talking to other twin moms. I would definently say hi!

 

We went to the mall before Xmas and at least 8 twin moms came up to us. It was amazing. One woman's twins were already 18 years old. Ours were only 3 weeks at the time. Everybody just said ... hang in there, it will get better ...

 

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So, my question is, if you were approached by another twin mom in public, would that be just another annoying conversation you had to deal with, or would you like the contact and chance to chat?


I love talking to other twin moms! They get it!!!

 

I love talking to other twin moms and I am always saying hello to them. If they don't want to stop and chat we all kind of keep moving. I always say hello though and see where it goes from there.

 

I feel bad.. but, yes, I tend to talk to other twin moms. You never know if they are TS mommies!

 

Count me in!! I love talking to other twin mommies! I was at the pedi's last week and a new twin mommie came in with her 3 week old boys and she was asking me all kinds of questions on how to cope by herself as DH was going back to work etc. It was really nice.

Also, I find that most of the people that approach us at the mall are other twin mommies, ladies that are a twin or people who know twins! I love it because it makes you feel like part of an exclusive club (which we are!) and that only other twin mommies know exactly how you feel!

 

I am only self conscious if I don't have my babies with me. If they are not there, I feel like everyone else who has a cousin's sister's husband's father with twins lol

 

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I am only self conscious if I don't have my babies with me. If they are not there, I feel like everyone else who has a cousin's sister's husband's father with twins lol


ditto!!!
but I love talking to other twin moms (and dads!)

 

Ditto - if it's a mom of twins I don't mind chatting!

 

Maybe it is a NYC thing? I know that there are soo many twins in my neighborhood, that it seems to be only those without twins are the ones interested in talking. I know that about six weeks or so ago, we had a warm snap and it seemed like EVERYONE was out walking the neighborhood that Saturday.

I saw 4 sets of twins under 6 months and a few sets of toddlers. One of the toddlers' parents didn't acknowledge me even as we had to negotiate our side by sides in the toy shop. Another set were being carried in thier Baby Bjorns and I asked, "how old are your twins." the Mother looked harried as she answered "six weeks" I stated, looking into my stroller, "ours are 3 and a half months." She glanced into the stroller and said, "oh, but they're big." and walked off. I thought it was funny. The only nice conversations I struck up were with twin dads. One was coming towards me in a Jane powertwin I had my eye on and he was visibly checking out my Mountain Buggy (which we still have fitted with the double bassinet). It wasn't until he got closer that I recognized him as the person we bought our double decker stroller from (I love Craigslist). When I had picked up the stroller, his girls were asleep and I didn't bring the twins, so we had a nice conversation about strollers. Another dad lives on the next block and has the same stroller we have, so I always notice him or his wife, usually as they are turning the corner or have just past me. I had a nice conversation with him about his twin girls when mine were home (I was on my way to work). Other than that, the only twin moms I converse with are the ones that I knew before I had the twins (from my daughter's school).

I think it is funny how uninterested other twim moms have seemed to me. I am a normally chatty person, but I can see getting the twin chat burnout.

Cat

 

I'm not a particularly chatty person, but I always talk to other twin moms! I have actually made two friends that way. (I live in a smallish town.) What's funny is that in several cases, I have noticed them because they had the same stroller I have (Mountain Buggy Urban Double). I've always felt that other twin moms (and dads) are happy to talk and compare notes.

Strangely, the only time I feel people have been sort of distant (not everyone, but more than I would have expected) is at the local twins' club. Maybe because everyone has twins, that is no longer something noteworthy, so it gets cliquey just like any group does.

 

I am not chatty to strangers either but I usually make eye contact with the other twin moms and if they look amicable, I do approach them. I think it just depends on the situation.

 

I love to talk to other twin moms, and will sometimes approach them. But I have to admit, that I have been snubbed a few times by even twin moms and so I am much more apprehensive now. They have to make eye contact and smile before I even THINK about talking to them.

But I love when other twin moms approach me. It rarely happens now as they assume B&H are NOT twins.