One bossing the other around

Bea has started telling Ainsley what to do. For instance, Bea wants a toy across the room and she says "Ahssie get red car!" so Ainsley goes and gets it for her. There are other things like Bea will tell Ainsley to move because she wants to sit there, stuff like that. I tell Bea "If you want the red car, you go get it." but Ainsley is always happy to go get it and will do it anyway.
So, do I just let them continue this dynamic and one day Ainsley is going to get tired of getting things for Bea, or do I interfere?

 

I see this type of behavior between my boys too. They will also do things to purposely (try to) upset the other; and the one being bothered will not say anything. Lately it has been Ryan making these tall towers out of blocks and Colin repeatedly knocking them over and over and over......but Ryan says nothing. (apparently it bugs me more than him!! ^_^ )

Since they aren't complaining or fussing or whining over the others behavior, I am choosing to stay out of it. There are enough times that I need to step in, so I figure why do it if theres no need? KWIM?

Kinda along the lines of "not sweating the small stuff"....... 8)

 

Generally in those kinds of situations I don't interfere further than telling the one who is 'bossing' to ask nicely. I figure if the other one doesn't mind then why should I? So I just make sure they are saying please/thank you/excuse me.
Also in my experience the child being 'bossed' is going to get fed up sooner or later, and at that point I would make sure to stand up for them if need be.

 

Yeah, I've been kind of wondering the same thing. My bossy girl is Katy. She is also a stealer of toys, a knocker down of block towers, a scribbler on anyone's paper but her own ..... in general a little stinker sometimes to Bella. But to be fair to my dear little Katy, she really is a good, sweet, gentle, loving girl ... she's just exerting her dominance. At any rate, I've been wondering too how much I should interfere. I've elected that I will kind of let them sort things out on their own, and only interfere if someone is truly in distress, or if it gets physical.

 

Faith still bosses Bridget and Garrett around..and they will usually take it. I will say that once the bossed one gets tired of it...they will stand up for themself. Its kind of funny to see Bridget get Faith back..(non-violent) way. Faith will always just be the boss..hehe.

I just tell them to be nice to each other ...and not be mean or bossy. I dont really step in unless its getting rude.

Brandy

 

Jesse is really easy going and doesnt say much to Jayden when he's being bossy, so I usually just let it go unless theres trouble. But like a pp said, I try to let Jayden know not to be rude.