On my own for 3 months

DH left Sunday morning for OTS and he will be gone for 3 months. During that time, I get to take care of the babies on my own, sell our house, and supervise the packing when it is time to move in November. Not to mention drive to Alabama with 7 month olds. I can survive this right? lol So far I am doing okay and the babies are keeping me busy but at night it is a little more tough when they are in bed and I am alone with my thoughts.
Any tips or ideas how to make my life easier or get through this?

 

Wow, Traci! You have certainly got a lot on your plate! But YES, you CAN do it!! :hug99:

 

Oh my goodness, you poor thing. That certainly is a lot of responsibility. You can do it. :bow2: :hug99:

 

You CAN do it since somehow we all manage what we have to. You will be in my thoughts. Be sure to accept ANY help anyone offers you!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

 

My DH is gone nearly every week, but we haven't had to sell our house or move. I know a little bit about what you are going through, but just a little. It stinks, but you will be amazed at how strong and organized and in control you can be when you have to be. I got help when I could, and I think when you are having the packing done, that would be the time I know I would want help most myself. I agree - nights can be the worst, but somehow you make it through. I get to talk to my DH almost every night, so I hope you get to do the same. I also spend evening time doing projects, scrapbooks, reading, although in your shoes, I would be making endless lists of packing, things to do for the move... but I am a list person. Mainly I just try to stay busy.

Best of luck - and check back in whenever you feel the need!

 

I agree, you definitely have a lot on your plate! :hug99:

 

Holy cow Traci! I know you'll be just fine, but will you get any help? The whole moving thing is stressful enough without having to do it alone....and with twins! At least with the military they come in and pack you up (at least they did that for us, and it was a huge help), but you've still got loads to do. At least it will keep you busy, right!? Please check in often and tell us how you are!

Reyna

 

I completely sympathize, my DH is in the military, but luckily at home most of the first year. You can do it! Do you have a nice support group that can help you so that you can get out of the house once in a while so that you stay sane? Maybe a cheaper alternative than a babysitter is a mommy's helper so that you can run errands and leave her in the car with the twins to save time and energy? If you have a best friend or a sister or a favorite aunt, or mom who can afford it, can they come help you for a week when you are moving/selling the house? You CAN do it all, but you want to be in good mental health when your DH gets back, LOL!

Hang in there, you can do it, the time will certainly fly with all you have on your plate.
Hugs,
judy

 

I am in your situation in a way...I have been alone for 2 months now, with a total of 3.5 months (except every other weekend) because we are doing construction on our house, so I moved near my family for the summer without my DH We were not allowed to be in the house for the construction...So, every night, I am home alone with them. I do get a sitter for a few hours a week and my family helps out, but I am doing the vast majority on my own. It does get tough at night, because I HAVE to be the one...

I just know that it will pass and that I have to do it. No choice. You can do it, too! Just know that this too shall pass and that you are totally capable of doing it...I think about all the women who do it by themselves for life. Hang in there - you are stronger than you know.

jen

 

Thanks for the support. My best friend offered to help out but she has kids of her own and her DH will be leaving soon for a 15 month deployment. She will watch the babies when I have appointments and offered to watch them while I supervise the movers. That will be a big help.
Our family lives in different states but when they visit sometimes I feel like it is even more work. I don't feel comfortable leaving the babies with anyone yet so that is an issue I have. I am hoping I get over that soon because without DH here to take over when I need a break, I might go crazy.
Jen- I think the same way you do, I have to do it. It really isn't a choice for me. I guess I could sit down and cry about it but I would eventually have to get up and go take care of one of the babies. lol DH kept asking me if I was okay with him leaving and all that good stuff before he left and finally I just said, do I have a choice. I know what he meant but I really don't have a choice in the matter. He has to do what he has to do and I have to do what I have to do. I know I will get by but what a thing to have to do.

 

How close to DC are you?? We just moved here and I'm staying home with the girls' -- if we are close and you need anything, let me know -- I can watch your kids while the packers are there or something. I don't know what branch your husband is in, but the AF offers 16 hours (I think) of free PCS child care, so I bet the other services do too. Good luck, you can do it!

Erica

 

Yes you can do this! You are stronger than you think! I wish I were closer to Virginia as I would offer some help to you, have you checked what the military can offer yet?