on bed rest, all alone any advice?

I am 30 1/2 weeks along in my very first pregnancy, with identical girls. i found out early on that i was having twins and everyone including doctors kept telling me to stick to my normal routine. well at 27 wks i had an ultrasound and they realized my cervix was short, then doc checked and could fit a fingetip, then during the nst we found i was contracting every 5 minutes. i had no idea.. so after lots of pills and finally magnesium they sent me to a hospital 2 hours away from anyone i know. i spent thanksgiving here and went home for two weeks.. then this last monday i had the runs and a worse than usual back ache, went to the OB n what do u know, more contractions.. so i got a shot this time that didnt stop them, then more magnesium (i have come to realize that magnesium is the worst thing i have ever had to endure..so far i guess). so my doctors sent me back here to Green Bay from Iron Mountain by ambulance-also for the second time... but last time i was here and until today this trip i have not been alone. my boyfriend has to work and same for my mom so they left earlier this afternoon... i have been so depressed since. i feel all alone, i am not aloud out of my room, cant sleep well or for very long, the food is aweful, i just dont like being alone. i have cable, phone, a laptop, food and meds brought to me--its a great hospital i just cant seem to cope with being alone and scared that something might happen while no one is here.. anyone else have this problem or any ideas for me to keep my mind occupied? maybe an anxiety med i can ask for?...

 

:hug: Bedrest is so hard, especially when you have to be in the hospital. Just remember that it is what is best for your babies right now! Everyday you can keep those babies in, is 3 days they don't have to be in the NICU!!

When I was in the hospital I kept a blog which not only killed some time but also kept everyone updated so I didn't have to repeat the same story over and over again. It also helped me a lot to have a daily schedule of what I was going to do that day. That way my days still had structure, I was somewhat still in control, and I had things to look forward to.

Other things I did to pass the time:
-Twinstuff!!
-Read reviews on Baby stuff and updated my registry (even bought some things)
-Magazines (I couldn't focus enough to read a book)
-Digital Scrapbooking (TS has a scrapbooking forum)
-Myspace, Facebook etc...
-Gave myself manicures

Try and stay positive for those baby girls!! You can do this!! :hug:

 

thank u kyrstyn for ur help. .... i think this is the beginning of a long hospital stay.... no one else has any advice?

 

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thank u kyrstyn for ur help. .... i think this is the beginning of a long hospital stay....

It seems like forever when you are in the hospital. I did 4 weeks in the hospital, and there are many women on here that did far more than that. I can promise you that it is all worth it in the end. Just keep your head up and keep reminding yourself why you are there, for your babies! :hug:

 

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that sounds so hard ((hug))

 

I'm sorry you are so far away from home - must be scary! Is there maybe a volunteer group in the hospital? Or do you belong to a church and would like some visitors from a local group? I know that it's hard to talk to strangers in this kind of situation, but often, it's just good to see a friendly face. They can also come and just bring you stuff - magazines, crafts supplies, etc. The nurses should know...
I hope your boyfriend and mom can come visit you soon!!

 

I was in the hospital on bedrest for 49 days, but I was fortunate it was in the city where I live so my husband could visit every day. My hospital had pet therapy once or twice a week where volunteers brought dogs in for patients to pet. Sounds weird but was kind of neat, maybe your hospital has this? My hospital was Baptist-affiliated, and even though I am not Baptst it was still nice for the chaplain to come visit me during the day when everyone was at work. My doctor let me take Ambian so I could sleep better. Not every night, but nights where I was really tired I would ask for it. Can you take sleeping medication?

All my friends with kids just kept telling me that I should view that time as a vacation, because never again would I have so much free time to read, watch TV, play on the computer and just do nothing. Now that mine are 15 months, I would love a few days back in the hospital to "relax"! I'm sorry I don't have more advice, but this experience will make you a stronger person. I can't believe I managed to make it but I did!

 

How about trying to get some really good reading material??? I just finished reading "Eat, Pray, Love" and it was such a nice book about self discovery and based on the author's true experience. "A New Earth" or "The Secret" is good for reflection/meditation type reading if you are into that. Judy Blume adult novels are fun and easy reading. Maybe someone else here can offer some good titles? Journal writing is good too - I started a journal for my DS before he was born and now I still periodically write to him....I offer advice and words of wisdom...I talk about what he did that day, etc. So when he's grown I will give it to him. Plus if something ever happened to me, he would have my thoughts all on paper.

Keep posting here and we'll try to help you get through.

How are you feeling today?

 

Hey there!

I was never on hospital bedrest, but I've heard of this site through others, you should definitely check it out. I'm sure it would nice to be able to chat with others in similar situations:

http://www.sidelines.org/

Hang in there momma, it will be over before you know it! Will they let a volunteer wheel you around the hospital once a day just for a change of scenery? At least there is the internet, I can't imagine being on hospital bedrest without it! How did those ladies pre-internet survive!?!?!

Hugs,
Jennifer

 

well i slept most of the day today. my mom and my honey called 4 times each to check up on me. that made me feel alittle better. they are coming to visit for saturday and i have my boyfriend bringing me some of my james patterson books i havent gotten to. and some manicure things... i doubt i will feel up to that cause it seems theres no point but i figure it might make me not feel so fat and ugly... i am now 171 lbs.. ive never been over 135 in my life so that stings alittle bit... thanks for the help.. its just nice to have someone to talk to who understands.

 

i will definately try that website, only prob is i dont think this puter will let me do live chats.. atleast it wont let me on the one on this website. The internet has been a total lifesaver i really dont know what i would do without it.. as for the volunteers thats a great idea too, i asked if i couold go and walk the 20 feet to where the new babies are and they turned me down, but i am definately going to mention the weelchair thing to my doc tomarrow when she comes to see me. shell be letting me know if i can go home tomarrow, monday or not ttill i have these girls. im assuming they are going to keep me here till i deliver becuase i am still contracting... not constantly or painfully. they showed up on the nst stripthis morning and last night but not this afternoon. i have another coming up in 1/2 an hour here... keep ur fingers crossed 4 me hey?