Okay it's my Turn

Okay, lots of venting going on here today, I'm throwing in my rant as well, why do people keep calling me to ask if I'm in labor?? I'm not even talking about people like my mom, MIL, and close friends who call me all the time anyway, I"m talking about family members who have never in their life called me before!!! ARGH!!!!!! I know it's an exciting time and people want to know what's going on but if I have to tell one more person (that I'm not really close to) that no, I'm not in labor, I have a doctor's appt tommorrow to see what's going on, I'm going to scream. I mean you didn't even send me a flipping Christmas card and now you have the right to call and frustrate me! And don't get me started on the "well call me at 3 a.m. b/c I want to come to the hosptial to see the babies", again, from close family I would understand, but family I see twice a year??? I really don't want anyone but close family and friends at the hosptial, or even at the house for the first few weeks. I'm gonna have to put my foot down and just tell people I"m not feeling up to it (or have mom and MIL do the dirty work and tell them). I stopped answering my phone today and already 3 voicemails, I can't take it anymore!!

Okay, I feel better, just needed to get that out!

 

I understand your frustration, just continue to not answer the phone and listen to voicemail. There is no law that says you have to answer your phone, let alone these people!

 

Vent away! Hang in there. :hug99:

 

I had to laugh at people who wanted me to call them as soon as I went into labor. Sorry, you're going to be the last thing on my mind!

 

My hospital actually uses welcomenewborn.com and I sent out a few emails/bulletins telling everyone that is what I will be using so make sure I have your email addresses because I will NOT be making phone calls from the hospital.
I am only calling my mom, dad, older sister and best friend, and that is if they are not already there in the waiting room. Yet some friends and family still insist I call them after I deliver.... um I think my hands are going to be pretty full and not to mention I hate the phone.

As for the not answering the phone advice, normally I would advise the same thing... but if I even shut the ringer off to take a nap, I have family members who will go down the list of numbers.... call my home, call my cell, call my sister's cell, etc. and that is even more frustrating.

If you find a solution, please let me know too!!
Good luck!!!

 

Oh geez - I went "past due" with DS, and it was so frustrating. I would change your voice message to say "no, i'm not in labor or having the babies right now. and if i were, i wouldn't be answering the phone - you will hear when the babies come. now i'm napping."

ugh.

jenny

 

QUOTE(cohlee @ Sep 18 2007, 02:56 PM) [snapback]413309[/snapback]
My hospital actually uses welcomenewborn.com and I sent out a few emails/bulletins telling everyone that is what I will be using so make sure I have your email addresses because I will NOT be making phone calls from the hospital.


I have told people the same thing, check the blog, any updates will be there, but do they, nope, or if they do, they call anyway. Since I posted this, 3 more phone calls, I answered one (it was my work), and they didn't need anything, just wanted to know if the babies had come

I think I'm so touchy about this b/c I have the same feelings, I sure as heck want to know when the babies are going to come too, but I don't have too much control, so I guess it's not worth worrying about!

 

Ugh...SO now how you feel! Any time I call someone and don't leave a message, they call me back in a panic. I swear, if one more person asks if I'm in labor (fully knowing I'm having a c-section in two days!), I may be the first person to ever manage to reach through the phone lines and punch someone.

My favorite...
My MIL asked me Sunday if we would call her first and make sure we did it from the OR. Are you KIDDING me? Yeah, because the first thing I want to do after having my uterus ripped open and set on my stomach is to talk to my mother-in-law.

 

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Oh geez - I went "past due" with DS, and it was so frustrating. I would change your voice message to say "no, i'm not in labor or having the babies right now. and if i were, i wouldn't be answering the phone - you will hear when the babies come. now i'm napping."

ugh.

jenny



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My favorite...
My MIL asked me Sunday if we would call her first and make sure we did it from the OR. Are you KIDDING me? Yeah, because the first thing I want to do after having my uterus ripped open and set on my stomach is to talk to my mother-in-law.


You guys crack me up, that's why I love this site, we are all going through the same thing!!

 

Definitely screen calls. If you don't have caller ID listen to voicemail or you can listen "live" on an old answering machine, which is what I do. There are so many phone solicitors who call, even though we are on the "Do Not Call List" that I have found we have to do this. Also, I've heard many people say that they just leave a message on the machine/voicemail with the latest updates on the impending delivery/arrival. Maybe this will help?

I'm not even as far along as you are and have already begun avoiding people that are way too focused on my pg and the novelty of it all. I figure, this is just temporary avoidance. I have to save my sanity .

 

This happened to me too. DH even got annoyed because his friends didnt call to talk to him anymore they just wanted to know if the babies had come yet. I do not recremend having your cell phone on during labor.. I have this thing about answering my phone.. I was getting pissed off at people when it would ring during a contraction...

You are so close.. Hang in there!! You will be able to call people and tell them about your babies soon!!!

 

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My favorite...
My MIL asked me Sunday if we would call her first and make sure we did it from the OR. Are you KIDDING me? Yeah, because the first thing I want to do after having my uterus ripped open and set on my stomach is to talk to my mother-in-law.



LMAO too funny!

 

my MIL is slightly less annoying -- she has just asked me to e-mail her everyday with a progress report. if i don't? she e-mails me with 'how are you feeling?'

 

QUOTE(AshleyLD @ Sep 18 2007, 06:26 PM) [snapback]413599[/snapback]
I have this thing about answering my phone.. I was getting pissed off at people when it would ring during a contraction...


hahahaha, I do the same thing!! Thats so funny!

 

I feel you all on this one, Everyone wants me to call when I go into labor so when I found out I was having a c section the only people I told was my mom, grandmother and boyfriends mom. But all of the sudden I keep getting phone calls from everyone talking about they will be there <_< Good luck only one person is allowed in the OR and recovery room so they basically won't get to see the babies until I want them to But if they want to wait..... More power to them.

 

QUOTE(4lilmonkeys @ Sep 18 2007, 04:02 PM) [snapback]413445[/snapback]
Ugh...SO now how you feel! Any time I call someone and don't leave a message, they call me back in a panic. I swear, if one more person asks if I'm in labor (fully knowing I'm having a c-section in two days!), I may be the first person to ever manage to reach through the phone lines and punch someone.

My favorite...
My MIL asked me Sunday if we would call her first and make sure we did it from the OR. Are you KIDDING me? Yeah, because the first thing I want to do after having my uterus ripped open and set on my stomach is to talk to my mother-in-law.



LOL-I would feel the same way-Back off MIL!

 

If I don't answer the phone, panic sets in and people start looking for me and when I do answer the phone people go "Oh my god I was so nervous waiting to see if you were there!" Then if I call them they say "Are you ok? What's the matter? Did you have the babies yet?"
I guess people are just excited, but I do get what you all mean!

 

Have you considered leaving a message on your voicemail??... something along the lines of "we're unable to answer the phone right now, but rest assurred the twins have not been born yet..in fact we are now going for the guinness book of world records on longet twin gestation....and are shooting for 45 weeks....If you need to be called back before then then please indicate what the emergency is and we'll be happy to return your call."

I wouldn't call anyone when you go into labor!

I've actually had friends call me right after they had their child....I was honored, but totally felt they were nuts for making any phone calls!!! And I truly hope they don't expect me to return the favor come November....LOL! I don't call anyone from the hospital...1. b/c the phone bill there is outrageous even for local calls (and I'm cheap!! LOL!) 2. b/c I have better things to do than to satisfy their curiosity. I just have this personal policy.... I think birth and pp recovery are personal...unless it were a sister of mine I would never visit a friend in the hospital who just had her baby. And I would also not call either... Not unless it were someone who had no support system who needed that kind of help.