OK, Sooo What Is The Deal On Sex?

I know some recent posts say that their doctors have advised no sex (intercourse) after a certain point. I have never brought this up to my doc nor have anyone ever mentioned it to me.

The reason why I'm exploring this topic is that DH and I had sex yesterday morning. It wasn't anything crazy but we tried different positions and it was full intercourse....at one point I felt like it was hurting a little and I told DH and he eased off a bit but for the rest of the day I felt like the bottom half of my body was going to separate from the top half.

I was achy and felt pressure alot. It felt so bad. Even today I was aching and had to take Tylenol.

So, was it from the intercourse? Or from the physical activity of it? Will this hurt the baby if hubby goes too deep?? Is it advised for most (I am 25 weeks) twin pregnancies to stop intercourse after a certain point?

What do you know about this or what are your thoughts? I should bring this up at my next appointment....

 

[SIZE=12pt]With my previous pregnancies (singletons), i was advised to have sex if i was overdue as orgasm brings on contractions. When we found out we were having twins at 11 weeks, my ob advised me to stop sex for this very reason, plus apparently it would be much more uncomfortable.[/SIZE]

 

My doctors have never advised me to not have sex, I asked at my 27 week appt and she said it was fine, as long as I was comfortable. I say ask your doctor...

 

At my first OB appointment he said that he allows me to have sex until 24 weeks. but mostly because he said that from 24 to 28 weeks is very tentative period and he said he doesn't want me to go to labot during that time so he said he want to take me off work and put on modify bedrest only to prevent PTL.
On Monday I will have discussion about leaving work. but OB said that because I am so far so good he probably will not take me off work. but I think he still will leave that restriction about sex. and to be honest I am 21 and it alreayd became more uncomfortable.

 

My docotor said that the danger is in woman's orgasm that makes uterus to contract, as well as sperm has some chemical that might trigger contractions.....

 

I was shut off with both pregnancies at around 24 weeks.

 

QUOTE(DoubleTrouble07N09 @ Mar 12 2009, 07:10 PM) [snapback]1225743[/snapback]
My doctors have never advised me to not have sex, I asked at my 27 week appt and she said it was fine, as long as I was comfortable. I say ask your doctor...

Ditto.. towards the end it is VERY uncomfortable and you have to be a little creative with positions, but no one has ever told me not to have sex while pregnant. (I had an ideal twin pregnancy.)

 

My Doc said, very bluntly, "Girlfriend, if you can get up on it, and it feels good, go for it!"
I'd never heard the thing about sperm having some chemical in it. That doesn't sound right to me, at all. The orgasm thing, I'd heard, but the sperm thing...nah.

 

Actually, sperm carries a chemical called prostaglandin that helps to soften the cervix.


32W5D mono/di boys

 

Went to the night before my c/s, although that was more because I knew DH would be waiting a long time after that. Mine were delivered at 37 wks, 1 day. I had an ideal pregnancy with no issues and my dr never advised me against it.

 

Sex....Whats that? between work and my three year old I don't remember the last time I had enough energy to think about it. Poor DH, before I was pregnant and even with my sons pregnancy we had a very active sex life but man this pregnancy has completely kicked my libido's a**! I admit there's a few times I get arosed and then the thought of actually doing it seems like so much work so I end up falling asleep before I act on my feelings.

But my Dr. hasn't mentioned sex at all so I assume if I ever get a burst of energy I good to go, but my cervix is still nice and long and closed, and I get my U/S every 2-4 weeks so if that changes I assume so will my restrictions..........But come 37 weeks if I'm not in labor DH will be a busy man!

 

My doctor is very laid back - as long as my cervical length and blood pressure are good, she says, with regard to all activity: "If it feels good, do it. If it hurts or is uncomfortable, don't."

We've been having sex about once a week, sometimes less. While I enjoy being close to my DH and knowing he still finds my body attractive...lets just say that orgasm is not a concern. ardon: It doesn't hurt (yet), and we have to be creative already since my belly's getting big and is sometimes tender. But for me it is better than going so many months without that closeness.

 

At my OB appt. yesterday I asked this very question. I wanted to know if there was a certain point we should stop having intercourse. The answer I received is "everything looks good at this point so we have no restrictions for you....just not on your back, you will have to find a different position." So, I would ask at your next appointment b/c they know your situation and will be able to determine if it is something you should stop.

GOOD LUCK!

 

QUOTE(MommaJ @ Mar 13 2009, 09:22 AM) [snapback]1226302[/snapback]
"just not on your back, you will have to find a different position."


Why? I mean my belly isn't huge yet so this could be a silly question but why not on your back?

 

We did IVF so I was put on "total pelvic rest" from the beginning. By the time (after the girls were born and I had recovered from my c-section) we could do it again was like a year we went without - dh joked that I was a virgin again LOL!!

 

QUOTE(kitkat72783 @ Mar 13 2009, 09:28 AM) [snapback]1226308[/snapback]
Why? I mean my belly isn't huge yet so this could be a silly question but why not on your back?


The weight of your uterus can compress blood vessels that return blood to your heart and ultimately oxygen to the babies. Even with my singleton pregnancies there was a point (not positive on what week) that the doc. said no more laying flat on your back (even for sleep).

 

At my 26wk check, I asked my Dr. and told him that it was getting uncomfortable, and he said that in my case, there was no medical reason to stop - no cramping, bleeding, etc, but to do what was comfortable. To be honest, we've not been as "active" because it's fairly uncomfortable. I just told my husband the other day, "I love being pregnant, but I really miss non-pregnant sex!"

 

My doctor hasn't said anything yet to me, 30 weeks today, but it's not very pleasuring PLUS I do freak out afterwards cause I do believe in the orgasm starting contractions and have also heard about when he finishes it does cause your cervix to weaken and don't want that. I just want to be held ya know?! I long for him intimately but want his closeness more than anything. I think that for the most part if it does feel good then go ahead and do it but I would caution about him finishing in you just my personal feeling about it.

 

I have been told no sex but I have a incompetent cervix and I am dilated 4 cm at 32 weeks. My husband however wont even discuss the idea of sex he thinks he will hurt the babies. I would feel strange too because my daughters head is very low and in my pelvis. The doctors can feel her head very easily. That kind of sealed the deal for my husband. It does suck because I am in the mood and I know we will not have any time once the twins are born.

 

My Dr. said sex was fine, but when we tried it, I was in a lot of pain and had a ton of pressure on my cervix. We stopped simply b/c it was too uncomfortable.

 

QUOTE(indisbelief @ Mar 13 2009, 04:45 AM) [snapback]1226074[/snapback]
Actually, sperm carries a chemical called prostaglandin that helps to soften the cervix.


32W5D mono/di boys



REALLY? I'll be durned. You'd think I'd know that, wouldn't ya? Huh. Learn somethin' new every day.

 

I asked my doc about it because my BS and I were having a discussion about it...she was told not to, I was told nothing. And my doc said as long as I was comfortable, no shorten cervix or any other complacations, I could keep on...I stopped because I just was not in a comfy position. And now that I'm in the hospital, guess I'll never do it, unless I find a broom closet! :lol:

 

I've had no complications and my Dr. said if you can do it, then do it!