oh oh pregnant again

Ok

somehow it happened. it wasn't meant to happen, at least not NOW. My boys turned 1 last week and i have just found out i am pregnant again. i dont know how many weeks, i dont know if it's 1 or twins, i don't know anything, just that my DH and I didnt plan for this NOW.

I need some advice, especially from others out there with twins and a 3rd or twins and another set of twins. How did you cope? I am still breast feeding the first set!!!! i have almost got my body shape back from the first pregnancy (apart from alot of skin) and as of 1 week ago, my boys are finally sleeping through the night.

The thought of spending another 6 months stuck on the ocuch feeding and no sleep and loosing my body and my mind again is very terrifying.

I am not a vain person, but through the pregnancy and first year of my twins i completely lost myself. My social life, my mental health, my body ... you know what it's like .... the thoguht of doing it all again so soon is .....

Until now, my DH said, NO WAY to a third. I thought he would be really angry, but he is completely overjoyed. He will support my decision but i dont know what to do.

It comes down to timing but im not working anyway, so maybe getting it all out of the way quicker may have benefits.

what to do?????

 

Ok

somehow it happened. it wasn't meant to happen, at least not NOW. My boys turned 1 last week and i have just found out i am pregnant again. i dont know how many weeks, i dont know if it's 1 or twins, i don't know anything, just that my DH and I didnt plan for this NOW.

I need some advice, especially from others out there with twins and a 3rd or twins and another set of twins. How did you cope? I am still breast feeding the first set!!!! i have almost got my body shape back from the first pregnancy (apart from alot of skin) and as of 1 week ago, my boys are finally sleeping through the night.

The thought of spending another 6 months stuck on the ocuch feeding and no sleep and loosing my body and my mind again is very terrifying.

I am not a vain person, but through the pregnancy and first year of my twins i completely lost myself. My social life, my mental health, my body ... you know what it's like .... the thoguht of doing it all again so soon is .....

Until now, my DH said, NO WAY to a third. I thought he would be really angry, but he is completely overjoyed. He will support my decision but i dont know what to do.

It comes down to timing but im not working anyway, so maybe getting it all out of the way quicker may have benefits.

what to do?????

 

I just wanted to say "congratulations"

I don't have any advice as I just have my twins, but I really wish I would have had more when they were still that age and just stayed in the thick of it. Now, they're out of diapers going to school in september and it seems a harder decision to me.

Good luck, keep us posted


amanda (jorja and jessica 3)

 

I have soooo been there, but it was DS who was 7mos and I discovered I was pg again. Imagine my surprise to find out that I was already 10 wks along with twins no less. Then, even taking all the precautions we thought we needed to take, I got pg again in August (though we lost it at 8 weeks). I was completely freaked. In the 5 years that I have been married, that made 4 pregnancies (having lost 2 before DS)and only 1 period in 3 of those years, so the idea of being pg again was terrifying. All I wanted was my body and chemicals to be back to normal again.

Needless to say, I am thrilled with my life. DH and I have never been closer. I am working out again and have made some decision regarding work that should, if they work out, make our lives alot less stressfull next year.

The good news it your DH is thrilled, even if right now you are less than. Chances are its just 1 one this time and the weight gain will not be as dramatic. The social life will take work no matter if its 2 or 4. It is a struggle to find other women in the same stage of life, and with similar interests. I am struggling with that now too.

I can say that after you've had twins, and survived the 1st year with them, you have it down. Your routine will adjust, and you know what to expect from the hormones etc..and yeah, getting it all done at once has its benefits.

So, I will say congrats because, judging by how you ended your post you sounded like you were on the tail end of the freakout. Cry it out, pray over it, have dinner with your DH. Good luck and PM me if you need to.

 

Congratulations!! Just to let you know, I was just thinking today kuddos to all those out there having another one after twins. Your twins will be a few months older than my boys are now when their sibling arrives. I have my six year old and 20 month old twins. Right now I am taking care of my neighbor's 4 month old. She is sleeping through the night. Honestly, on the positive side, one baby compared to two is no big deal at all. Feeding her a bottle while the boys run around is no big deal. Also, the boys have sippy cups (no bottles) and can feed themselves. We do a lot of finger food around here during the day when the baby is here. They are also starting to communicate now, which really helps things out. They are much more "independent" at 20 months old than they were at 12 months. Keep that in mind when you start panicking. The tough part though is getting out. Trying to push the double stroller while either having her in a front carrier (or worse in her infant carrier because she is asleep) is a lot to ask the body for. I know other moms out there have met this challenge and embraced it. I'm just lucky because I get to return this beautiful little baby right to their parents at 5 pm Everyone around here thought I was crazy taking on an infant, but overall, it's more work, but I seem to have adjusted fine. It is funny though...before I was taking care of the baby, I thought the boys were a lot and I could never add more to my load. Well, here I am adding more...it is tougher, but it is doable.

 

No advice, but just wnated to say CONGRATS!

 

Congrats, enjoy this pregnancy.
Having been there, doing that...it isn't to bad. I had #3 when my twins were 17 months. Some days are hard, but over all I love having all 3 of my babies. Chloe is such an easy baby. I do bf her, but since almost 2 months old she had been sleeping for 7 hour streches. I have also lost almost all the baby weight (still have twinskin). It's okay. Life is good
Sue

 

Just wanted to give you 's and say congratulations! What you are feeling right now is so normal!!!

I wish you best of luck with your new little blessing!

 

Congratulations! My twins will be 4 when our baby is born next month. We actually planned this and worked to get pregnant. Finally, after 2 miscarriages and 2-3 months of "not pregnant", we gave our decision up to God. The next month we were pregnant. I had a hard time with this decision for many reasons including the ones you mentioned. I just want to tell you that planned or not, having another child after all you went through with twins in their first year is scary. I will also mention that when my twins were about 3, I realized how fast it all went and how much I missed. Your twins will get easier now and you know that you handled twins. So, you can definitely handle one. Chances are it will be one. But either way, you know you made it through the first year with twins so you can do it again if necessary. God will help you through this. He knows what he is doing and through him, you will too!

Your friend,
Kathleen

 

Congratulations! You will be fine!

 

Congrats! I don't have any advice- but I know there are a lot of mommies out there and on this board that are in the same shoes as you and DH! I have been seeing a lot of moms with a baby on the way and their twins were just hitting one! YOu can do it! Keep us posted!!

 

You'll be just fine... you have a head start since your dh is excited... having him on the positive side will help a lot. As for your issues... weight loss...look at it this way...instead of working it off now and again later you'll only have to work it off later...just once instead of twice!! Odds are that you will have one... and for social life...well, my twins are turning 2 in March and my social life has not gotten any better in the last year... we had a record this month..we actually got together with two different couples whom we hadn't met with socially for 2 years!!! But I don't anticipate that happening again soon... And if it's any consolation... I was crying a little this morning b/c AF showed up... we started TTC last month and have never had any problems conceiving right away... so while you are crying over getting pg, I am crying over not getting pg.... It'll all balance itself out somehow!!

 

Congratulations! I know it must have been a huge surprise and it's normal to be a little worried about how a new baby is going to change the balance at home. Everything will be okay though and you'll be happy to have that 3rd little blessing.