Oh oh...I'm shocked...

Well, to make a long story short, I think I am pregnant. I had a positve hpt today. So I have to confirm with my doctor, etc. but I am shocked. I am so busy with the girls that I'm not even sure when my last cycle started. Never mind that, I am suddenly totally overwhelmed. We were NOT trying and actually being quite cautious. We overcame the NICU, the craziness of these first two years, and had lots of plans for holidays, me going back to work, moving to another home...now we are both stunned. I'm sure, if the hpt was correct, it will sink in and we will adapt and adjust! Just somehow right now, I'm not so happy and feel very guilty about that.
Would love to hear from anyone in a similar boat.

 

I had a pregnancy scare a few days ago, and I felt the exact same way. I turned out to not be pregnant, but I was freaking out and sad, and so I can totally understand where you are coming from.

Like you, we were hoping to move, etc, and I was afraid all of that would go out the window. What helped me was to sit down and make a list of all the great things that would come of having another little one. We made the list together, and I realized that if I was pregnant everything was going to be okay. My husband had a great point---he said having another child that close to the twins would help the third child not feel so ostracized by the twins' bond. I thought that was a really excellent point. Keep us posted. Hugs to you.

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:grouphug: You'll make it work, you may have to re evaluate your plans... you'll still be able to do all those things, just maybe a bit later.

When I found out I was pg w twins I had that very same reaction. HOW were we going to make it work? I was going to have to take longer off of work than I'd hoped, could we do this financially etc. We have had more set backs than I can even imagine but I'd take them all and the ones I know are in the future for my boys! You'll come to terms w it, it just takes time!

 

Aww :wub: I agree that you WILL make things work, it'll just be different than you planned! We were trying for #3, and certainly didn't expect #3 and #4! But everything just kind of falls into place.

The twins will be 2.5 and old enough for you to engage them in "helping" you with the baby. My dd was 2.5 when the twins were born and she was fantastic. A little jealous but not hurtful to them at all. I wouldn't trade what happened for the world!

 

It does always work out in the end. It is very hard to get a false positive HPT (it can happen but it is hard). Congratulations!

 

I had a similar thing happen when the boys were just 9 months. I ended up miscarrying and I still feel guilty that I was relieved.

 

I am a few weeks away from having our 5th. Once it was confirmed we had to immediately start looking for a new home. Our house was already too small and here we were receiving this surprise, twins again, oh Lord we need to move... We ended up losing baby B,and I think maybe I had stressed out so badly over our "surprise" that I couldn't sustain both of them. We have since moved and are settling in and we are overwhelmed and excited and it's all good. Sometimes you just have to remember that things really do have a way of working themselves out :youcandoit:

 

:hug: I'm 6 1/2 months pg and this baby was planned but we didn't think it would happen so quickly because of the struggle to conceive and carry to term. So when, after only 3 months of ttc, I got a positive ... I freaked. Emotions were all over the place and I felt really guilty and confused as to why I was so shocked and than more guilt for feeling guilty. I still have my days but I'm adjusting and really can't wait to meet my daughter. It'll be an adjustment for everyone once she gets here but we'll manage. Just take it one day at a time!!! :youcandoit:

 

Congrats! We are expecting Baby #3 (a surprise) in 3 weeks. We were very surprised because we did IVF to conceive our twins. I think you will be in better shape than me since your kids are older. Mine will be 21 months apart. We did move into a new house but now we're under a lot of financial strain.

Keep us posted!

 

I am in the same boat. Although right about now I feel like jumping overboard!! LOL J/K

I agree with PP... it is very hard to have a false positive... so get ready!

It will all work out, but I know how you are feeling. We did IVF to conceive our boys. I went through a crazy few months of them being in the NICU, and didn't realize I was suffering from PPD until they were 9 months. I went to the doctor and got on meds, and within 2 weeks, surprise!! Apparently I didn't get the memo that it is common to conceive naturally after IVF.

I have went through every emotion possible throughout the pregancy, but I am so blessed to have my little girl. We had to move as well, but unforunately downsize due to the economy and DH's job. Thankfully I have a very supportive and helpful husband. I don't know how I would get through this without him.

 

Well it's nice to know I am not the only one. We didn't do IVF, but did use fertility drugs, and the twins outcome was a huge fluke. If I had more time
to think about myself I probably would have stopped and thought, oh better be extra careful!, but I didn't. For three days I cried my eyes out and had very negative feelings about all this, and then today when I woke up my whole attitude changed and we both feel better overall.
Yes it will be nuts! But oh well! Life is beautiful!