My girls turn a year on Friday, and I just found out today I'm pregnant again. Needless to say, it wasn't planned. I know we are blessed, as we struggled to get our girls (5 yrs) but I am freaking out all the same! 2 babies is WORK, how is it going to be with 2 toddlers and an infant?? Goodness all I can think about is the financial aspect. I will have to quit, as we already pay more than a mortgage pymt in childcare, one more will kill us.... We planned on having another, but not for 2 more years. We wanted time to save some money, etc.... let the girls get out of diapers, you know... That, and the other thing I keep worrying about is that I don't think I'm that good of a mommy now, how am I going to be with THREE of them!?!??!?!? Oh, and I am SOOOO exhausted right now! With the girls i was able to sleep for 14 hours a day while I went through the exhaustion phase. Now, obviously that is not possible. Any ideas for coping?? I started my B-complex vitamins today (helped A LOT with the girls) I'm just waiitng for htem to kick in which takes about a week..... Anyways, here I am with you gals, like it or not!! (I will, after the shock wears off)
Congratulations and welcome! You will be amazed when you realize with this one that you ARE a good Mom and you do know what you are doing and I tell you, even though you'll have three...you won't beleive how easy it is with only one newborn! As for the surprise part...I feel your pain! I am "surprise" pg with #4 (nursing and on bc pill....hello???What happened to me having fertility issues???? apparently that kink was worked out!!!) I finally feel like I am coming out of the daze and starting to get excited...as for the money issues, etc. it will work out...you just have to get creative, and take it one day at a time. I won't lie, the Pg part is harder, but rest when you can and before you know it you'll be feeling better. Keep coming here, it really helps me to know I am not alone! Good luck and smile! What's a little more chaos????
Congratulations! Those are struggles that a lot of people face no matter how old their younger baby(ies) is. :hug99: Let it sink in! Sounds like another one was welcome! Take care of yourself! The girls will be at a good age when the new one is born.
Congrats! There seems to be a few of us here with little ones on the way that we weren't expecting. The only advice, nap when they do and forget about the cleaning. By the time you are over the sick part, you will feel a lot better.
Welcome and congratulations! I agree with the PP to nap when they do and forget about cleaning as much. You willneed energy for you and taking care of your twins. When your energy does come back then you can catch up. I love having this forum to come too, I know there is someone who relates to how I am feeling and encourage me when I need it! Congratulations again!!
Welcome and congrats. I think most of us went through the scared and unsure phase.......It will all work itself out.
We really should start a group of us that just got "unexpected surprises" after recently having twins. I think you are the fifth one? When I was pregnant with the twins I always said I couldn't see how people could be pregnant and have to chase after one toddler and here we all are going to be pregnant chasing after two. Then like you said add to it the financial aspect and it is sooooooo overwhelming. We will just have to support each other and thanks to all the wonderful people on this sight for their advice and well wishes we will somehow get through it. Not a day goes by that I don't think WTH are we going to do? I really want to be happy but am so worried but I just look on here and get encouragement especially hearing others stories. Hard to believe but it will work out it will have to. Then in hindsight we will be amazed at what we really are capable of. (boy that sounds good wish I could convince myself of it lol) I keep saying everything happens for a reason..then spend the rest of the day trying to figure out the reason. Why am I the chosen one? Guess eventually I'll find out. Well good luck I hope you have a healthy uneventful pregnancy!
Congratulations!!! We're in a similar situation. I got pregnant with #3 right around my girls' 1st b-day. This after 7 years of infertility!!! Only different it was intentional on my part- I wanted to get pregnant that soon, just didn't expect it would actually happen. It's been tiring to say the least but the way I see it there are many pros to this. The girls and the new baby boy will be closer in age so I'm hoping they will bond better than if they had some years between them. We haven't really gotten used to having older children yet so the sleepless nights etc will seem like a normal continuation for us rather than a new phase starting over again. They will all enjoy similar things while growing up rather than having two different sets of interests or activities. Like a 5yo and a 3 yo can play together better and enjoy a similar outing better than a 7yo and a 3yo. After this one when we're done having babies and they've all grown a little we can get back to building our carreers up again rather than having had time to start up again and then put things on hold all over again. Hope this helps to put things in a more positive perspective. As for the financial aspect of things... the universer provides all that is necessary. Take it easy, nap when you can and after the first trimester I'm sure you'll be feeling more energetic and strong. :hug99: :hug99: :hug99:
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! I do know about the concerns that you are feeling at this point, but let me assure you that it truly will work out. You will be amazed at how great of a mom you really are. Jax was born when the girls were only 19 months old and I worried about all of the things you are thinking about now. When I see how the girls and Jax play together and relate to each other, I wouldn't have it any other way. Yes, being pregnant is so different when you have children. You'll most likely feel better after the first trimester, but do the bare minimum until it passes. Nap when you can and clean later! As you can see in my ticker, we are expecting a little girl, #4, in April and she was a surprise. Yes, there were definitely a few (ok, about 100!) anxious moments when we found out, but it's amazing how excited we felt (and still feel) after it sunk in. I feel 100% confident that she completes our family, but as I look back I know that this is the family we were meant to have! You'll get there!
Congratulations! FIrst of all, My girls were just turning one when I got pregnant. We weren't trying, infact, we were trying to NOT get pregnant. I went through the scared, overwhelmed stage too, it gets better. I just kept telling myself that someone that knows more than I do decided that I am strong enough and able to care for one more special little one. At first I wondered how we would afford it, just like I did with the twins, and I just remind myself that not only did it work out with the twins, it turned out better than I would have ever dreamed. I ended up being able to stay home. I work part time in the daycare of a gym which allows me to take my kids with me to work. Take it easy whenever you can. It was definately easier to work full time while pregnant with twins than to work part time with a singleton and already have twins. I felt better after the first trimester so I got a few things done then, but now I still feel fine, but everything is starting to hurt, so it look like I am going back to resting more. Welcome to our group, we are here for you.
My daughter is one of those with an unexpected pregnancy after twins. The boys are only 10 months old and she is two months pregnant. Fortunately, we are a close family. I keep the boys so she has no day care expense and I buy my own pampers, food, formula and clothes for the boys. It's just easier on me because I know what I want to feed them each day, and I don't want my daughter to be worrying about whether she's brought enough formula or diapers or clothes to put them in if I want to go out somewhere with them during the day. I just look at it as a blessing and that it is meant to be. We'll do whatever we need to do to adjust and I know that you will as well. Congratulations on the pregnancy and good wishes! You'll take it all in stride and handle it like a great mommy. Kathy
A huge congratulations to you!! Don't fret... its hard in the beginning... but really, having 2 already... you'll know what to do and be able to work things around... honestly, there hasn't been that much a difference for me.
Another grandma chiming in here! My DD is 21 weeks pregnant, due May 23rd. Her boys are just now nine months old. We found out just today that she is expecting another BOY! Count her in as another member of the "I-got-pregnant-while-on-birth-control" team. She's scared too, not so much about the pregnancy but about how she will physically be able to keep up with the demands of three babies. She was so wiped out during the first few months after the babies were born and I think she's already having bad flashbacks to that! And of course the financial issues are weighing heavily on her. She won't be able to afford day care once she has three, but her job helps tremendously and she carries the insurance for herself and the kids. That in itself will make a huge dent in the salary that her BF brings home. I don't know what they'll do. We're really hoping and praying that we can help them move closer to us so we can help out more. I don't know that I could do the 5-day-a-week babysitting thing for all three kids, but I could keep the twins a couple of days a week and the baby all week which would certainly help them out a great deal. As it is, we currently supply all their diapers, wipes, and clothes. I don't mind continuing that at all even though the diaper expense will shoot up shortly. And since she's having another boy, there won't be much needed for the new baby (darn it, I was so looking forward to buying pink, lol!), so that will help some of their stress as well. As Kathy said about her DD's pregnancy, you just do whatever needs to be done! In my opinion, babies are always blessings. And even if the timing isn't always what we would have preferred, a baby's arrival into this world is never at the WRONG time! Congratulations on your pregnancy! Hang on through this exhaustion phase and hopefully it will let us somewhat. Nap when you can, and get yourself in bed as soon after the twins are down for the night as often as possible. That has really helped my DD. She puts the boys down about 7:30 and she is in bed by 8:00 these days, whereas she would watch some television to unwind a while before bedtime. She rushes to do whatever tasks MUST be done before the next day and that's all, then she hits the sack. She said it's been helping her a lot, even though she feels like she has no "down" time because it's -- rush home from work, feed/play/bathe babies, do bedtime routine for them, then 1/2 hour of scurrying around to hurry to bed herself, and start all over the following day. She certainly counts the days and minutes until Saturday! It will be hard having three but she is really looking forward to enjoying those sweet newborn minutes with this newest baby that she was too stressed and overwhelmed to really enjoy when the twins were infants. That will be a blessing, she'll have a chance to have a special bond with her new son that she just couldn't manage with the twinners. I'm rambling ... better hit the hay myself ... good luck to you as you prepare for the new little life that will soon be joining your family!!!
