obsessed with mommy...

My DH is a GREAT dad. He works hard, 6 am to 6 pm daily, and still manages to come home eager to see the our 2 1/2 yr old DD's with energy and enthusiasm. He tries to make that time story time, tickle time, or just plain goof off time with them while I get a break and tidy up the kitchen after dinner. Unfortunatly, most of that time I can hear the kids in the playroom asking, "Mommy, come play in here" and if I do, poor DH gets the shaft and they ignore him. Then at bedtime, they are fighting over who gets to be changed by mommy, both charging for me and tantruming when it's not their turn, and again DH gets the shaft. Now, I'm 8 mo's pregnant with #3, and I don't know how to get them to be more open and enjoy their Daddy. He's going to need to be able to engage them more, change them without tears, etc, when baby comes, and I can't have them jumping all over me after my Csect. So I don't know how to get them to like Daddy more. Any suggestions?

 

We are experiencing the same thing and it really hasn't gotten any better as they've gotten older (sorry). They want mommy to do everything and sometimes, I'm just so darn tired, I don't have the energy anymore to do it. It really hurts DH's feelings when he tries to do something with them and they start yelling for mommy to come do it. I've told DH to just do it anyway and let them scream. I feel like they need to learn that DH is just as capable at helping them as mommy is.

 

:hug: My kids have always been mommy's kids, too. Until they are forced to be daddy's anyway. When the baby comes, he will naturally step up and do more for them, so it should just fall into place for them. My dh also tells me I need to stop rescuing them and let them HAVE to have him do it. I usually end up going and doing it if they are crying or whatever, but I've stopped doing that as much. Now they still come to me, but I say "go find daddy, he will do it" and they do and he does. Especially if I have him do the fun stuff more, like handing out fun snacks, or whatever.

 

Same here! I have not idea what to do. If it is just DH around the boys have no problem with him, but as soon as I walk in the door that is it.... all mommy all the time. Sometimes I think I am going to go crazy, but end up living through it