Nursery School anxiety

My girls will be started school next month two mornings a week. I took them on a tour of the school a while back and they have been to there a few times because it's located at our synogogue. Anyway, last night during bath, I tell the girls that this weekend we can go out shopping to pick out lunchboxes and backpacks. I thought they would be so excited and that it would be a fun activity to do (since Daddy will be out of town). Well, Rachel started freaking out and crying hysterically about how she doesn't want to go to school and wants to stay home with the nanny. She wouldn't even stop long enough to let me explain to her that the nanny will still be here to get her ready for school and will be here when she gets home. What am I going to do? Of course this encouraged Danielle to say she didn't want to go either. Our school does a slow transition which I thought was unnecessary at first, but now I think they are doing it for a good reason. How do I get her to be excited about it? I know she will love it.

 

My two started going to a daycare 2 days a week a few months ago. They finally don't cry anymore when I drop them off, well occasionally they do. But their teacher said that they stop crying within a few minutes after I leave and they are fine the rest of the day. I know it is very hard to leave with your children crying. It just tugs at my heart all day long. There were times where I wondered if I was doing the right thing by taking them there, but it has really helped them. They get to interact with other kids instead of fighting with each other all day! They also seem to mind more. Do you know any other parents that take their kids there? My older neices go to the same daycare during the summer so the twins get to see familiar faces, and I think that helps alot. I can also call them to see how they were doing at school that day. And when I do, it always turns out they were having fun! So, there may not be anything that gets her excited about it at first. It is a change for her, and it will probably just take time getting adjusted.

 

Thanks. So, I just have to try not to let it get to me so much? I know they will love it and have a great time. They love other kids and playing with them. Aren't most things harder for the parents? Unfortunately, everyone we know who is going to the nursery school will be in the three day class so they won't be with them. But, I assume they will make friends quickly with the ones in their class. They are very social.

 

I was a wreck when my oldest started preschool. She walked in and we hung her tote bag up, got settled, and she said "bye Mommy". :icon_eek: :cray: I walked out and stood outside and watched her through the window. She had only been there a few minutes and was having so much fun. I on the other hand went in the car and cried. All day K, last August was much harder for me. The teacher saw me tearing up and said "she'll be fine". I knew she would, but I wasn't, my baby was going to kindergarten.

It's always much harder on the parents.

 

My girls started this summer at 2-12. The first week was awful - lots of crying, lack of eating and lack of sleep - on all our parts. One of them stopped crying after the first week and the other took two weeks. Now they go skipping into school and I have to beg them for a goodbye kiss.

Best,
Mia

 

Ugh...so I just have to go through a couple of weeks of heartache? I can hardly wait...

 

It'll be ok and when you see them thriving and learning new things you'll be happy!! :hug99:

 

My girls have been going to "school" since I work from early on. The bad news - some days they will still have a melt down even after they are in the swing of things. (normally when she is tired, or has a fav. teacher on vacation) The good news - my 3 year old complains some days when we don't go to school because she likes it so much.

One thing that helped me get ready, even though it was a different situation, is we did a couple of dry runs. We got ready for school, even went by to get excited about it (with a 12 week old - I'm sure people thought I was loony) but then went out to a park or somewhere fun. It made me feel more comfortable, which was worth something.

Good luck!

 

Last year mine went for 3 hours a day, one day a week. The first week they went for 1 hour, the second week 2 hours and the third week for 3 hours. I think it did help them to get used to being there and by the 3rd or 4th week they didn't even say goodbye to me when I dropped them off! I always reassured them that I would come back to pick them up and gave them a kiss goodbye. Try not to worry too much, they will do great! Good luck to you

 

We talked about it a lot with our son. We knew he would love it but be shy and miss me. He was very nervous the first day he was alone but he did well. I think we did a good job preparing him by talking about it a lot and also going with him on the first open house day.

 

Mine are starting preschool in Sept and I'm nervous about it too. Looking forward to it, but also nervous. I haven't brought it up to them yet, because when things are far off (like, farther than tomorrow) I don't think they have any concept of the future and it would confuse them to talk about it. They do have an orientation the week before, so I guess that will be a good time to introduce the concept.