Not always doing the same with both of them

We have been wanting to take the boys to Thomas the Train when it comes to town. W is really onto Thomas but G could take it or leave it. We are now thinking about splitting up for the day and W going on TT and finding another special event to do with G. I personally am not the type that everything has to be the same for both of them all the time (if you are, I am not trying offend, just never been a big deal for us) but for some reason I keep thinking that someday when they are older and look back on pictures G might say why didn't I get to go on TT? My other reservation is that a couple of weeks ago we went to a local wild animal park where they drive you around on a bus and G got sick - not sure if it was motion sickness or not, but now I am a bit concerned about taking him on the train for that reason as well. Curious what your thoughts are and if you have any suggestions for an alternative extra special thing I could take G to if we choose to go separate ways.
Thanks

 

I don't always do the same thing with both of mine. Ava is the girliest of girls her whole world revolves around pink, sparkles, nail polish and princesses ( with the exception of He Man the cartoon she LOVES He Man LOL!!) And Addison would totally LOVE the Thomas the Train thing! You will do things with Gavin too and he will have his own set of special pictures and then they will have pictures with both of them in! We had a cool dinosaur exhibit pass through our area last summer, maybe something different than TT will pass through your area soon and Gavin will be more interested in it than TT? Or maybe even a sports game? Or even just a day out with you maybe lunch and a special treat afterwards? Even a movie or jump house place?

 

I don't think it is a big deal to always do the same thing. I also think it is great to have some special time with one or the other. We do this often. Since ours are b/g twins, they have completely different interests. So, for us, it really is not a big deal to split them up. I would give them the choice. Come up with a few options that G could pick instead, but ultimately let him decide if he wants to see Thomas or go do X. AND...later on down the road if he asks question as to why he is not in the Thomas picture, you can tell him 'you opted to do this instead....see here you are in your special day picture'.

 

We actually make it a point these days to do a few things separately. I think it's important for them to get some one-on-one time with each parent. We have "dates" with each kid. It may only be that me and DD run out to the store and DS stays home or vice versa. The kids love it! They call it Mommy/Daddy & Rea time or Mommy/Daddy & J time.

 

haha... as for looking back at pictures, we keep saying my dd will wonder where she is in the pictures... b/c she never wants to look at the camera or smile... so we'll be saying "you chose not to get your picture take" a lot!

I say do what you want, and if only one is interested in the train... them maybe only one will enjoy it.

 

Do you know what's going to be at your Thomas?

The reason I'm asking is that we did Thomas twice, and the train ride is really such a minor part of it. We had bounce houses and inflatable slides. There was a regular park. There was a petting zoo and a little hay bale maze. There was coloring. They had tent with various different kinds of train tables. There was a tent that alternated movies and books. All of that was free. The only thing you needed the ticket to attend was the actual ride on Thomas.

My kids each do their own things sometimes. Today they happened to have a playdate with another brother and sister. But Timothy's playing soccer and Sarah's starting horseriding lessons.

I would find out what else there is other than the train ride. You might decide to go together or split up or just have totally different special days. The right answer is the one that works for you all.

And as to the picture thing. My kids each have their own set of scrapbooks that only feature them. They spend so much time with their sibling that they love that the books are only about them. If their sibling happens to make it in a group picture, it's great. But the books are all about them. Kids are egocentric.

Marissa