No afternoon nap and overtired....

OMG!! I am pulling my hair out these past few weeks...they both are crawling everywhere and with that seems to have come not wanting to sleep...ever! They both do not take a afternoon nap - they cry and cry until I cannot stand it anymore and they are both randomly getting up at 3am-ish and staying up intermittently after that "wake-up" call...HELP ME!

What am I do wrong?? They usually take two naps and sleep 10-12 hours straight at night. What is going on? Thanks so much!

jen

 

I don't have any good advice, but I sympathize! I hope things turn around and it's just a quick phase!

 

We did a little bit of that, although not nearly as much, when they got really good at crawling. Hopefully that is all, and they'll be back to sleeping well soon for you!

 

Hi Jen,
As far as waking up at night...around 9 months, my guys started to do that too. They would scream and cry and now that they were older, it was so much harder for me to handle. I believe it was possible separation anxiety. I started to go in and try to calm them down which I think made matters worse for me. It lasted for about a month. I hope you all get more sleep soon!

 

Thank you, Everyone! It does seem harder after weeks are real sleep not to have any again!? I am praying this phase is almost over. thanks so much!

jen

 

Probably a combination of separation anxiety and maybe a developmental growth spurt. Crawling?

 

This happened to us too at 9 months, although not as bad as what you are describing. I too felt like I was going to pull my hair out but I don't think it lasted anymore than like two weeks and after that my girls started taking marathon a.m. and p.m. naps for another several weeks.

 

This has been happening to us lately. I feel for you; wish I had some advise!
It was suggested to me that perhaps they're on a growth spurt and are just plain hungry. This seems rational to me at 8Pm, but by 4am I have a hard time buying it! LOL, groan

Um, wow, that smilie just inserted itself there!

I typed 8 p.m. or at least I meant to!!

 

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Um, wow, that smilie just inserted itself there!

I typed 8 p.m. or at least I meant to!!


That always tickles me! That smiley depicts how I feel at that time of night! :lol:

 

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This has been happening to us lately. I feel for you; wish I had some advise!
It was suggested to me that perhaps they're on a growth spurt and are just plain hungry. This seems rational to me at 8Pm, but by 4am I have a hard time buying it! LOL, groan

Um, wow, that smilie just inserted itself there!

I typed 8 p.m. or at least I meant to!!



ha ha lol...
OK, do you feed them at 4am?? I finally fed one of them at 3am after awhile of crying!?!??! What do you guys think?

 

now i'm confused. do you normally feed them in the middle of the night?? or did they usually sleep through before their sleep pattern got messed up? if you weren't feeding them before, i wouldn't start now. are you still giving them a bottle before bed? i remember my babies going through this horrible and frustrating phase as well at that time. as for the 3 am wake ups, unless someone is hysterically crying and seems to be in pain, i would just let them fuss and get themselves back to sleep? i guess it's a little cio and i'm not sure if you are comfortable with cio or not but i think they could easily get into a habit of waking if they know you are going to come to them. my dd Lorien would wake up every night at around 2 or 3 am and i used to always go in there and check on her which i later came to realize that had i not done that, she would have slept through the night sooner. my bad. could it be teething??? maybe they are teething?? ok, now i'm rambling and i don't know if this helped any. i'm going to bed

 

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now i'm confused. do you normally feed them in the middle of the night?? or did they usually sleep through before their sleep pattern got messed up? if you weren't feeding them before, i wouldn't start now. are you still giving them a bottle before bed? i remember my babies going through this horrible and frustrating phase as well at that time. as for the 3 am wake ups, unless someone is hysterically crying and seems to be in pain, i would just let them fuss and get themselves back to sleep? i guess it's a little cio and i'm not sure if you are comfortable with cio or not but i think they could easily get into a habit of waking if they know you are going to come to them. my dd Lorien would wake up every night at around 2 or 3 am and i used to always go in there and check on her which i later came to realize that had i not done that, she would have slept through the night sooner. my bad. could it be teething??? maybe they are teething?? ok, now i'm rambling and i don't know if this helped any. i'm going to bed


No, I was not feeding them throughout the night. I would give them their last bottle about 7:30pm and they would sleep from about 8/8:30-7:30ish am...now, it is a hodge podge of wake ups throughout the night!? SO, what should I do?

 

I would not feed them. Especially since you know they have been sleeping through. Have you ever given teething tablets? Something about those have always calmed my boys. It could be starting a bad thing though if you go in to pick them up but if they are teething, this could be good. Figuring them out is so so hard. If they are not teething, I would try to let them fall back asleep on their own.

 

It is such a guessing game but I agree, I wouldn't get them. It's all in what you are comfortable with. I always have the 5 minute rule. If they cry more than 5 minutes I go in to see what's up, most times it's not even 5 and they are back to sleep. And of course I go in there if they are simply flipping out.

We initially did CIO to sleep train so I went back to that when we went through this phase. It wasn't horrible though, just tough to try and ignore it.

 

Like Michelle said, it's a guessing game at this point. It could very well be teething but hard to say for sure. Perhaps they have learned a new major skill or are about to and they are anxious to practice it (which I read about in some book). They could just have gotten into a sort of wake up pattern but that most likely will be a phase IF you don't give into it the second they start stirring or crying. I think the 5 minute rule is a good suggestion. I DEFFINATELY wouldn't feed them for these middle of the night wake ups. They didn't need it before and I doubt that's why they are waking up. I often found myself laying them down and trying to rub them back to sleep. In the beginning, I would always take them out and try to rock them and most times it didn't work. They wouldn't fall back asleep. They would just lay there in my arms and then finally I would just put them back in the crib. I have to say that I have often resorted to giving them tylenol, figuring that they were probably teething (which really kicked in around 9 months for us) and that usually got them back to sleep nice and soundly. GL and keep us posted on how you are all doing.

 

Mine seem to be getting up during the night too and ds is very hard to put down for a nap. We give them their last bottle at 9pm. So if you don't feed them when they wake up at 3am but they are uspet and wide awake for more than 5 minutes, what do you do with them?

 

WOW!! Thank you so much, Everyone!! You answered my question!! I will NOT feed them in the middle of the night. I think I can only handle the 5 minute rule of crying at this point (I am such a WUSS!). OK, I will let you know what happens! Wish me luck!

Thanks again!!

jen

 

Jen, good luck! I have to say, we went through a rough patch at about 9 months when they were first standing etc. It kinda went away when they got used to being so mobile. :hug99: I hope you get some sleep soon.

 

HI,

I would try to get them down a little earlier -- with the crawling, they get tired quicker. I napped my boys a little earlier each day for a few weeks and it helped them stay on schedule -- then all of a sudden they were back to their normal schedule.

Now, at 1 we're having another hiccup -- but this too shall pass!!

Good Luck

Teri