New To Bedrest

unfortunately I have been put on bed rest, I am 30 weeks and had contractions on Friday. I went to L&D and was 1 cm dilated, I had to get two doses of terb and was sent home with orders to not push myself anymore I hope I can get through this and get the babies to a healthy weight before they are born.

because I am on bedrest now I have put work in a bind, I have to rely on friends to help me with simple things like laundry, and my husband has had to go to L&D twice with me, once for actual contractions and last night for a false alarm. I am just about devastated because I know this all came about becase I pushed myself too hard. This is my first pregnancy and I thought I could be superwoman and make it through the entire thing without having to change much about my routine...well I was WRONG

 

First of all here is a :love0028: please know that you have nothing to feel guilty about. Be thankful that you were able to work up to your 30 week milestone. ( I have been on bedrest since week 5, I will be 25 weeks tomorrow!) You have to accept help...and I know that it is hard! You and your DH are in this together so when you feel the need to go to L & D for contractions...he isn't going with you per say...you are both going to L & D to take care of your babies!....it's not like you are dragging him shoe shopping! As far as work goes....they knew you were pregnant right? if so ...then don't give that another thought....be there via phone to answer questions they may have...but just concentrate on whatever needs to be done for the upcoming arrival! make lists....and if anyone offers to help...look at your list and see what you want them to do off of it!!

Take care of you and those precious babies...and if you need to chat...feel free to PM me!

Missy
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April, sorry to hear you are on bedrest. I know it's not easy, I was there. Try not to feel guilty, I know it's easier said than done, but this is out of your control and you are doing the best thing right now for your babies. Hang in there, we are here for you. :hug99:

 

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I'll just ditto what everyone else has said. And it does suck to have to rely on so many other people. (I know!) But just think of those little babies and it's all worth it.

Hang in there! You CAN do this!

 

thanks guys, it really makes me feel better to hear the advice and encouragement! :friends:

 

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thanks guys, it really makes me feel better to hear the advice and encouragement! :friends:


That is what we are here for! :love0028:

 

Hang in there April. This is a tough time. I was on bedrest at home and then started with major pre-e so I was put on bedrest in the hospital. So there is no way to know that total bedrest would have stopped your contractions and such. Please dont feel guilty. Just get some rest and your babies will be here before you know it.

 

First of all, it is AWESOME that you have already made it to 30 weeks!! Secondly, you can't blame yourself. I felt the same way, my Dr wanted to take me out of work at 23 weeks, and I bargained to just let her shorten my days. At 25 weeks I was admitted to the hospital for bedrest. It is what it is, and there is nothing you can do about it. Everything really does have a way of working itself out.

My girls were born at 28 weeks, and are doing well. I know how hard it is to be on bedrest. Keep a journal or blog, it really helped me a lot! Not to mention when you have a blog, you don't have to repeat the same story a million times, people can update themselves. Keeping a schedule also helps, so you have something to look foward to, and there is still some structure left to your day so you are not just "killing time"

I wish you the best!! This will all be over sooner than you think...

 

:love0028: You can not blame yourself! You were feeling fine and just going about your life. Each and every one of us have been there, done that. For now, you need to take it easy and do what the doctor says. You need to accept the help of your friends and family and let them take care of you, you are taking care of those two beautiful little babies and that is the most important thing!! Work should be the least of your worries, they were okay before you got there right? They will survive (maybe a little busier ) without you. You've done great to be able to work that long. Take care of yourself!!!! :love0028:

 

I defintiely know what it's like to feel guilty! I've been on bedrest (thankfully, at home) since 18 weeks - I'm almost 34 weeks! Talk about needing help! The thing that helped me the most is letting a lot of things go. The house will be more dirty, not as much will be done, forget any "projects" you were thinking of doing. It will all be there when you have the babies anyway! Accept that your life will be chaotic. Focus on the basics, feeding yourself and growing babies - it's hard work! You are NOT doing nothing - you are an incubator for these babies.

Also, never turn down help. If people offer, they mean it, and take them up on it.

I owe my family and friends so much that I don't know that I'll ever be able to make it up to them. I feel guilty, but I'm planning on sending lots of thank you gifts/cards, etc. Spend your time getting things ready "online" for the babies. Pick out/order announcements - do all your xmas shopping - etc. Get a cleaning person if you can afford one.

It's ok - it's only temporary - let things go. do the necessities. it's like training for when you have two babies and can't do everything anyway!

hugs to you, you're in good company,
jenny

ETA: I also kep upi normal activity before - in fact with my DS, I did everything normal and didn't slow down at all until after my due date - anything can happen - it's not your fault!

 

Jenny, that is great advice!

Shannon