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Hi! I am new here. I found out about 2 weeks ago that I am having twins. This is my second pregnancy and I am scared to death. I remember how hard one newborn was. I am also terrified because I know that this is a riskier pregnancy and there is so much unknown to factor in. The only person in my family that is unsure that I can do this is me. I work fulltime and have a 2 yr. old girl. I just feel so overwhelmed right now. Thanks for listening to my rant.

 

:welcome:

It can be very scary to learn you're having twins, and it can be challenging, but it's also so much fun! There are lots of mom here who have toddlers and twins, so I'm sure you can get lots of advice from them.
As for a twin pregnancy being riskier, there are things that factor into a twin pregnancy that don't in a singleton, but we have lots of moms who go through their pregnancy with no worries.

Good luck! This is the right place to be- lots of advice and support. Congrats on your twins!
(How far along are you?)

 

I am only 10 weeks along.

 

Hey TPowers! :welcome: Congrats on your twins! I am 25 weeks along with boy girl twins and have a 4 year old son. I too work full-time and wonder how I will manage. I truly believe God doesn't give us anything we cant handle. I hear that the first 6 months are the hardest but once a routine is established it gets easier. I am sure your 2 year old will be a great helper! Looking forward to getting to know u!

 

Welcome to TS! Im glad you found us. Having twins is a learning experience. It was scary (totally fun!) but you will get thru this just like the rest of us. and whats better that one little baby? 2!!!


Congrats and ask as many questions as you need!! We are here to help!

 

Hey there & :welcome:!
Your feelings are totally normal :hug:
It took me through my first trimester to get wrap my head around having twins.
Give yourself some time to adjust ~ I know you will find great advice on here (I know I did during my pregnancy)!
We look forward to getting to know you!

 

Congrats on the twins. They are truly a blessing. Mine are 5 months old and I cant imagine life any other way. I also have a 3 yr. old. Good luck

 

I found at at 11 weeks I was having twins. Until then I knew I was pregnant but was kind of in denial and finally went to the dr. and bam!! TWINS.
I was in shock. I have one other child-a 6 yr old. I was worried about having even one more b/c of $$, time, my relationship with my childrens father and then twins. But it did grow on me and I am finally getting excited at 6 months to meet my little girl and boy-I still cant beleive it. I still dont know what I am gonna do about work, I cant go back full time-I dont know how I will make enough $$ being on maternity leave and I am freaked out about handeling 2 babies at once but God wont give me what I cant handle and I trust It will work itself out.
Just have faith it will be okay, be positive, be healthy and start planning. You will be okay! Good luck!!!!

 

I understand the being scared part I walked around in a daze for a few days after they told me I was having twins. I didnt have this great place to come then but I went to the library and got every book out on twins they had. You will do great! The pregnancy wasnt wonderful for be but there were no complications and my babies were born at nearly 38 weeks and they never needed the nicu they were perfect, now they are nearly 2.5 and I cant imagine not having twins.

:welcome: and good luck with everything!

 

Hi I'm Brandi and I know how scary it can be...I was there once.....I have 2 month old b/g twins and I was terrifed the whole time I was pregnant I had 2 M/C before then and lost one baby that pregnancy.....but I promise it's so exciting the farther you get along to see how big your belly really can get and to feel two babies moving inside you and to watch them interact on u/s's......it's a true blessing and a gift only the really special lucky women get.

 

Welcome to TS!!

Its definitely daunting to know that you're having twins, or at least in the initial stage! Its probably mixed emotions and I definitely felt that way! But worry not, darling! TS can offer alot of advice and emotional support, so I'm glad you found us! I'm sure some sort of routine will set in once you get used to the twins, so, sit back and enjoy the pregnancy darling!!

 

:wavey: Congratulations on your twinsies! I was the exact opposite of you. When we first found out at 7 weeks, I was on cloud nine. Then my family started asking questions about working, caring for two babies and my 3 year old stepson (not in a mean way, just things I hadn't thought about). Then, I began to freak out. So, it's totally normal to have some anxiety, but the fact of the matter is there's two babies in there and they're coming!

You've come to the right place so ask all the questions you can think of. These ladies have seen it all and have great tips and advice on how to survive bed rest, double diaper duty and our dear husbands (DH) who just don't get it sometimes. :rofl:

 

Yay! Welcome to TS! This is the place to be. Congrats on your pregnancy!

 

Welcome!!!! :hug:

I know it can be alittle overwhelming... I wasnt trying to get pregnant, another baby was the FURTHEST thing from our minds. let alone, TWO! We have a 4yr old, and at first I wasnt sure how I was going to handle it. Seeing and hearing how the other Moms on here have done, has given me so much strength and confidence. This a the best place to talk, ask questions and rant . Im so glad I found TS!!!

Wishing you the best!!!

 

I am not too much ahead of you I am 13 weeks almost 14. I know that I have good days were I think its totally exciting and bad days were I really worry I won't be able to take care of twins, or carry twins. I am hoping that as time goes on the idea becomes less scary and more excitement!

 

welcome to TS!!

I know it's scary but give it a few weeks to sink in. I think it took about 6 weeks for my fear to dissipate and start to feel excited.

 

:wavey: and welcome to TS!! :Clap: Congrats on your twins! I'm sure you are scared right now, but twins are truely a blessing. You can do this Momma! :hug: You've come to a great place for support and friendship. TS is full of wonderful and smart ladies. :good: We look forward to getting to know you!

 

Knowing that you're fixing to have two is very overwhelming, and when they come reality sets in. However, there are so many positives that make all the work so worthwhile. For example, when my girls hug and kiss on each other just because. Or when they hold hands and dance and sing together. Having two sets of kisses at one time is pretty neat, too. I know you're anxious, but it's a fantastic experience that not everyone gets to share. You're in a special club now-- :welcome:

 

hi hun
i can tell you i felt the same way, and some days i still do,
however i know how lucky i am everytime my 4 & 2yr old rum over to my belly lift up my shirt and say hi to there sisters, i know it will be hard but worth every second,
i set the bassent and crib up right away so my boys new what was the babies and what was theres, i got 2 dolls that cry when hungry( not as much as a normal baby but thats ok)
i sit on the chair and feed the babies, when ever they cry, my boys know entertain themselfs were i can see them when they hear the dolls cry.
get yourself and you 2yr old comfortable. what more could you ask for than 2 little bundles of joy, ask for help when you need it,
good luck with your pregancy & congrats

 

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Hi! I am new here. I found out about 2 weeks ago that I am having twins. This is my second pregnancy and I am scared to death. I remember how hard one newborn was. I am also terrified because I know that this is a riskier pregnancy and there is so much unknown to factor in. The only person in my family that is unsure that I can do this is me. I work fulltime and have a 2 yr. old girl. I just feel so overwhelmed right now. Thanks for listening to my rant.


I know the feeling! I am 32 weeks pregnant with twins and my daughter was just 2 at the end of July. I also work full-time. The first couple of months I felt so overwhelmed inside. I tried not to let anyone else know I felt that way because they were all so busy lamenting about how hard it was going to be and poor me, how were we going to do it- that I consistently told all them them that it was going to be fine and it was going to be easy. When, deep down inside I was petrified! How were we going to afford babysitting for 3 kids? It meant I had to get a new vehicle-which costs money. How would my daugther take it? What about the complete loss of sleep with two of them getting up? The questions in my mind were endless. One day I had a super good cry about it on the phone with my sister and then came to the realization that I can't answer all the questions at this point. All you can do is take it day by day- don't worry about tomorrow or what you're going to do when they come home. Enjoy the experience of being pregnant with twins - it's a special thing that very few people get to experience. Everything will fall into place the way it's supposed to when they get here. At least that's what I tell myself!

Good luck!

 

I am new also and had boy girl twins on 5-15-08, I also have a 5 year old son. I too was very scared about having twins and I won't sugar coat it, it is the hardest thing I have ever done. I had PPD which made things worse, there were some dark days at first. Things are much better now and the best advise I can think of is take all help that is offered to you and ask for it when you need it. Once the babies are born if you feel overwhelmed and sad, call your doctor. Since it had been 5 years since I had my son I had forgotten how much you worry about newborns......they can't tell you what they want/need. I was so blessed to have either my mother or my mother-in-law stay with us for the first 8 weeks, we could not have done it without them!

I look back now and even though it's only been 4 months, it seems like a life time ago that I felt so scared and overwhelmed, it's just at the time I felt I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel, but there was one. I wish I had known about this site back then, I think just being able to communicate with other moms who have experienced or are experiencing what you are going through can be such a help. You might also look for a local twins group where you live, the twins group in my home town has a progam for new moms called a "sister" program which provides emothional support and advice and even make "house calls". If you belong to a church you may find a lot of support there also, my church brought us meals for 3 weeks after the twins were born.

My older son just loves "his babies", it is such a joy to watch him with them, he reads to them, talks to them, sings to them. If one or both is fussy I will ask him to talk to them and it's amazing how it calms them down.

You will be fine and you WILL be able to do this, take it one day at a time, be prepared as you think you can be and don't be afraid to ask for help! Do you have family near you?

 

Hey...this is Kim from DSM. I am glad you came here to check it out. It is a really great forum with lots of information. Good luck with your twins!!

 

Welcome to Twinstuff! You are in the right place!

I think that most of us were feeling a lot of the same things that you are when we first found out there were 2! It is scary and overwhelming. I think that one of the best things to help with this, aside from posting on TS, is to make sure that you have a doctor that you feel confident with and that answers all of your questions... I didn't have a good doctor in the beginning and finally swiched at 29 weeks and I kick myself for not doing it earlier! Also, I think it takes time for the initial shock to go. Life will definately be different with twins, but it will be worth the extra stress and worry during pregnacy once you meet your babies! I will say that there are times when I look at them even today and cannot believe that there are too... They are amazing and unlike anything you can ever imagine (in a good way)!

 

I'm new here too...first pregnancy, about 9 weeks along and also terrified. Fiance takes this to mean that I'm possibly not ready to be a mother, which is not true...but twin pregnancies are just so different, and so much harder. So much more can go wrong and I'm freaking out!