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I am almost 7 weeks preg with twins. I was completely shocked when I heard the news. My husband and I had been planning on one more child as our son just turned one. I am feeling guilty for not being super excited about the news. How did all of you accept the news of twins? I am terrified of having so many so close in age, not enough money, space, and time. Any advice would be great. Baby A had a hr of 126 and baby B was 127 I was told these were good numbers. I had PIH with my son and have read that the risk increases with multiples? How much weight are you supose to gain? I am only 5 feet tall. My dr told me the goal was to reach 36 weeks is that common?

Sorry for all the questions I really appreciate any guidance!

 

I found out at 8 weeks. I go to an OB in the "big city" - two hours away from where I live (80K people but a single, squirrely OB practice, in my opinion) - and found out at my first ultrasound. My husband was not with me and I told him over the phone. He is normally very laid back and calm and had to go home from the office and lie down. He had a board meeting the next day where he normally presents large quantities of financial information - again in a laid back and calm manner - and kept having to re-collect his thoughts, very out of character. It was surprising to both of us - we already had two children, the oldest would be four when the twins were born - and I was the one who pushed for three because I thought two was so ordinary. Ha!

Our twins just turned 16 months and I just keep reminding myself that others do well with much less money, space, time, resources than I do - surely I can make it, too. You can do it!

Oh - I'm taller than you, though - I made it to 38+5. I have a good friend in town who is pregnant with di-di twins who is 34 weeks and still going strong. I think 36 weeks is a good goal, but there are many, many on here who make it much further than that. Good luck with your pregnancy!

 

I found out at 7 weeks that I was having twins. I really wasnt all the surprised to be honest. Twins run in my family and I just had a feeling. I was super excited. My now ex however, wasnt all that thrilled. My oldest wasnt even 2 at the time. He turned two 2 weeks before the twins were born.

36-38 weeks is the norm for twins, although some do come earlier. I went into PTL at 24 weeks with my boys, but made it too 37 weeks.

Congrats and welcome to TS!

 

Thank you so much for your responses! My son will be around 20 months when they are born. LOL it will be insane as he is soo spoiled. First child and first grandchild. He does not like to share "his people" so I am worried that he will feel left out and it really bothers me. He is the love of my life. Any tips and tricks for two?

 

It will be an adjustment for him, but he'll get used to it. As far as tricks for two go. It's hard to say because what works for some, may not work for others. Get as much help as you can, if someone offers you help take it. Sleep as much as you can too, those first few months are hard. The ladies here are great and will answer any questions you have, encourage you and listen you you whine when you have a crappy day.

 

Congratualations on your twin pregnancy first of all, you are in the right place! The girls on here are wonderful and so supportive! My best advise is to not Google anything! Its the worst thing you can do. Trust your doctor and look to friends and family for support.

I found out at 6 weeks that I was expecting twins and my son was only 8 months old. I was a mixed bag of emotions. But I had a REALLY hard time conceiving (DP carried our first son) so I was just so thankful to be pregnant. I did feel bad that the kids were going to be so close in age, but I'm SOOOOO glad that they are! My DS1 is 2.5 and the twins are 13 months and they are the bestest of friends (with some issues of course, but thats kids for ya!). I'm just so thankful that they are so close in age and that they are going to grow up with each other as friends as well as being siblings.

The first few months were tough for me, but with the help of my SUPERDAD and my friends, we got through it all and we have never looked back! Its been an amazing experience and I'm so glad that I got to do it!!!

I delivered at 38 weeks 5 days via c-section after 21 hours of labour. My pregnancy was seamless and it was very enjoyable actually! I gained a total of 30lbs. A lot of women and websites and such suggest 24lbs by 24 weeks....but that is JUST a guideline, just like everything else when it comes to pregnancy and child rearing.

Its a big adjustment to your life, but you will soon start to get excited and you will start to prep your son for the arrival of his siblings!

 

Congrats and welcome! I found out at 8.5 weeks and was shocked...it took a VERY long time for me to accept the fact that we were going from 1 to 3. I wasn't sure I wanted even 1 more but agreed to try for #2 for my husband (who always wanted 3-4 and a minivan). I say he willed our girls, it was the only way he was getting more than 2! He was ecstatic! Now I can't imagine my life without my girls. I am still in awe when I look a them so the shock hasn't worn off and probably never will .

I am 5'7", so quite a bit taller than you, and made it to 38w3d...every extra day is a bonus for them so hopefully they'll stay in there a good long time!

Two of the things that I feel helped my son adjust the most were:
1. We didn't force him to accept his sisters. He literally ignored them for the first 4 months. We didn't pressure him to give them attention, hold them, kiss them, etc and he came around in his own time.
2. Whenever possible when he was around I had other people holding the babies or had them in bouncy chairs, PNP, etc. I figured he needed me more and they we sleeping most of them time anyway so I'm sure they didn't even notice .

You'll figure it out as you go and make adjustments as you need to! GL with your pregnancy!

 

YAY!! Congratulations to you! I found out around 11.5 weeks....although I just "knew" it was twins ya know? I was too big and too sick. I had the girls at 36w 2d and they both weighed 5lb 15oz. They are now 5 months old and this is the funnest, most challenging thing ever!!!! The first few months were a real trial, but still it was amazing at the same time. Now??? Piece of cake! Every since they were born, they eat at the same time NO MATTER WHAT! If one is sleeping, I wake her up to feed her too. Other people look at me like I'm crazy, but those are the ones who have never had twins. Since 6 weeks they have been on a schedule and now take naps regularly (loooong naps) and sleep 12 hours at night (since 11 weeks). They giggle all the time.....oh, it's just the best!

You'll be able to do this. When I found out, my hubby & mom were with me and I just started crying..no bawling!!! I have a VERY small house and we just don't make much money. Well, these things have been worries here and there since they were born, but nothing to stress about. God provides everything we need. I didn't feel real happy at first. Found myself questioning, "why me?". It just seemed crazy! I didn't wanna go from 2 kids to 4! hehe I am 5ft 9in. tall, but the pregnancy was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. Before I got preggers I weighed 125 and afterwards I had gained 27 pounds. I lost the weight and more within a week of their birth (breastfeeding helped tremendously). But, since you will be pregnant in the summer my advice to you is....BUY A POOL MEMBERSHIP! Take your other little one and go to the pool. Go like crazy! This is the only way I survived. I went about 4 days/week. Just floated there like a beached whale-hahah~~ The weightless feeling was amazing! Also, my girls at 33 weeks were still butt-down so the doctor told me to stand on my hands in the pool often...guess what? When I went back at 34 weeks, they had flipped to head-down.!! ayaya!!!

Good luck to you...you'll do find. just enlist a lot of help after they gethere.

 

i got shock in the beginning, too! My first U/S didn't show almost nothing, 1 week after, I went make another one and my husband went with me. When they ask me if we wer prepare for a surprise, I never thought it could be twins! I couldn't believe, they have to call the doctor to make sure they were seeing right.
I got scare because I have to stop working since I work full time, and I never have a schedule to leave, I could leave work at 3 but sometimes I leave at 7pm!!!! It's crazy, and with twins, it's impossible working like this!!!!
I am 27 weeks, the things going ok but probably i will let go my work next week, since they say that I am dilated already!

 

I'm a weird one who was excited from the get-go that they were twins. But when I found out I was pregnant (unplanned) I was very shocked and bewildered.

I really liked Dr. Barbara Luke's When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets & Quads. She does a good job with scientific analysis of weight gain and food choices. It's an overwhelming diet at first, but you get used to it.

You are normal for being concerned with the logistics of caring for 3 babies (including your son). I think if you weren't concerned at all, then I'd be worried. You'll do it because you have to. It won't be easy but few things that are worth it in the end are. :youcandoit: :youcandoit: :youcandoit:

 

Thank you all so much for the congratulations and words of encouragement. There are no twins in my family so I really have do not have anyone to get useful information from. I am very grateful that I found this site!!

 

Just wanted to say congrats! My twins weren't much of a surprise as my husband and I had sought medical assistance (Clomid+IUI) - but, that being said, it's still been an adjustment getting used to the idea. We're still not used to it - and they'll be here soon!

 

Do to some new "plumbing issues", my husband and I thought it would be really hard to have another. It took 6 months of trying to have my son. So I was still digesting the shock of getting pregnant the first month of trying when we found out at 8 weeks. Here I was thinking OMG are we really ready for two, and then we found out there were three!!! It was a huge shock. Since then I have totally come around and accepted it and gotten really excited but it took me a while to wrap my brain around it. My husband actually took the news a lot better than me and was my rock those first few days in a daze. You and your husband will get there, It is a lot of news to digest and sometimes it just takes a bit to absorb. Congratulations on your twins.

 

:welcome: to Twinstuff!!

 

I found out at 9 weeks and was completely shocked. DH was out of the state doing training so I had to tell him over the phone. I adjusted to the idea rather quickly but DH flipped out and was going to leave his job (I'm still not sure why he thought this would help). Everyone handles the shock differently. I'm sure your son will adjust to the babies. My girls (17 months) have recently started loving my friends' babies and understand now to be gentle and quiet (for the most part) with the babies. 36 weeks is a great goal! My OB wouldn't let me go past 37 weeks, but I only made it to 36 weeks 5 days. I'm significantly taller than you (5'11") and I gained around 25-28lbs.

You can do this! It's completely normal to be shocked and apprehensie! Good luck with your pregnancy!

 

Congrats! I found out at 7.5 weeks and everyone around us was excited, we were scared and in shock. I am just under 4'10" and was recently diagnosed with ulcerative colitis so my body was still healing from the damage that happened before I got on medication. So far at 22 weeks I had gained 16 pounds, I'm just trying to get as much protein as I can to help the babies grow big and strong.

Do yours share a sac? I have heard that twins in one sac usually try to go to 36 weeks instead of further due to space restriction. My doctor says 37-38 would be good, my size means that they will run out of room sooner.

 

Whaaa...?? What the heck is your secret? Mine do about 10 hours a night if I'm lucky and they are a year old!