new annoying comment

So is it just me, or is this annoying? Now that I'm almost done being pregnant and tell people that I'm due in just a few days, lots of people have said comments to the effect of "wow, this pregnancy has really flown by!". I have been responding "for you, maybe". Secretly I'm thinking - WTF! No it hasn't! It has been the 9 longest months of my life!! What are you TALKING about.

Anyways, I can't determine what it is exactly about the comment that annoys me. Maybe it makes me feel like they are minimizing what I have been through over the past 9 months by saying it just flew by. Or maybe it's just that once again, people need to say SOMETHING as filler to conversation which is starting to bug me. Or maybe... just maybe.. I'm irrational b/c of the hormones and that is a perfectly pleasant thing to say.

Opinions? Anyone else get this or other annoying comments?

 

I don't think I would let it bother me. Maybe for other people time has flown by, the perspective is all relative. I have to say though, it may be a good idea to get used to the "filler" questions, as they happen constantly when you have twins. I think Twins peak an interest in many people, and they say something just to break the ice, or to explain their staring! Try not to let it get to you!! :hug:

 

I think it is probably about the minimizing that makes it hurtful. I know with me, I have been really sensitive when people minimize...it's like they don't understand about a twin pregnancy and they don't really want to understand. I have a SIL who seems to want to minimize everything...she'll ask how I'm doing and I'll tell her and of course she had it much worse with her singleton pregnancies and "totally understands" what I'm going through because she was much bigger than I am now (i'm not really sure how that works since her morning sickness was also "much worse" but somehow she gained 30 lbs more than me). And of course, we all know that the majority of twin pregnancies are MUCH different than singleton pregnancies.

And just yesterday, I was trying to pin down a schedule with family members who keep telling me not to worry...I will have so much help when the babies come (but funny how no one has helped me yet despite being given various restrictions since week 11), she tells me..."you're not the first person to have twins you know...other women do it all the time". I wanted to scream...and some are successful and others end up having to give up breastfeeeding or suffer from postpartum because they don't have the help they need. The one universal thing that twin moms tell me is get as much help as you can get...which is just what I'm trying to pin down as people's committment levels keep changing. Like my mom originally said she would stay for 2weeks and now is saying 2-3 days.

So screw the minimizing...where are our medals!? I guess they take the form of 2 beautiful babies...this is our reward.

 

OMG - That's one of those comments that you have to laugh at or else you will cry! Rediculous!

 

I agree. I actually think its hilarious. People have no idea . . . .

 

I get, "It's going to fly by," all the time from friends who have had two singletons. Well...so far it sure hasn't!

 

OMG I KNOW!!! My ILs decided to take vacation the week I am being induced and my mom can't make it and on and on ugh! Seriously it's not like I'm just pulling a bacon lettuce tomato sandwich out of my arm sleeve here people!

I know I would be sensitive to that comment too but yeah I see how we should get prepared for silly comments. I feel the way you do....it CERTAINLY HAS NOT FLOWN BY!!! Longest 8 months I remember so far LOL. :hug: momma, we feel your pain and know how hard it really can be emotionally and physically and are here to support you at least in cyberspace.