New, and need some advice!

Hi All,

I am new to Twinstuff and so happy a site like this exist!

I am 26 wks pregnant w/twin girls and have a 12 month old to chase after. Is/was anyone in the same situation while they were expecting their twins? I could sure use some advice on how to get through the day. I am utterly exhausted and already as big as I was when I delivered my first. I find it hard to meet basic needs. Any advice??

 

I am 31 weeks with an almost 2 year old. My OB insisted on me organizing some sort of child care for him by the time I was 28 weeks - but I really could have done with it sooner. I have my mother-in-law staying now until my due date (she has traveled to the US from England!) If you could organize some help I would recommend it.

Before she arrived I would let him watch cartoons on TV whilst I rested on the sofa, I would have friends with similar ages kids come over to play, let him play in the bath whilst I sat on the bathroom floor (he would last 45 mins!), we would snuggle on the sofa with one of his favorite books, etc. I also have some good friends that would take him out to the park for a few hours - which was a blessing. I would also get my husband to get him up and dressed in the morning, and then feed him breakfast before he went to work. Then my husband would try to get home in time to help with the bedtime routine.

Not sure if any of this helps - but I feel your pain - it is hard work growing those babies whilst looking after a toddler.

 

My son is 3 /12 and full of energy enough to make his mommy crazy infact lol im not sure if i can be of much help my husband only works part time in the morning so hes home by 12 everyday i let my son watch tv or play in his room quietly !!

 

I have a six week old twins and a 14 month old! I totally understand how you feel and how you are going to feel. Do you have a routine that helps? two nap times or one? If you need advice, PM me. Hang out on the couch and buy some gates!

 

I wish I had some advice for you but since I'm going crazy myself! I have an almost 5yo, a 2yo on Sunday, and I'm in school full time getting ready to graduate in May. But, somehow I manage and you will, too Congrats on the twins and welcome to the board!

 

I am new too! I am a mother to a 6, 4, and 9 month old fraternal twin girls. I read your post and thought I could help. I too became scared to death when I reached the half way point to my twin pregnancy and felt just as big as I did with the first two by the time I was 9 months along. Yes by the end I was bigger than my wildest dreams. I went 39 weeks and had two very healthy girls. Abby 5 lbs 14 oz. and Ava 6 lbs. 10 oz. They are now 9 1/2 months old and 50 percentile for weight and height. Now, to your concerns. I found that with my first born Jacob 5 who at the time was in PreK and Emma 3 at home with me it was all I could do to meet basic needs some days. However, my best advice would be do a lot of games while you are resting on the couch or in bed. My daughter and I would do lots of fun stuff just in my room and without her knowing it I had my feet propped up and rested my big belly. Kids don't necessarily care where you are or what your doing just so long as it is quality time with them. Read lots of books and puzzles, too. You'll get through it and when the babies come you'll have an extra pair of hands even if they are little hands! They can still pick up a diaper when you can't reach one or get a burp cloth. Let me know if this helps.

 

Well, I'll be honest my 7 yr old does an amazing job of entertaining my 2.5 yr old, so that's at least part off my shoulders. But we watch a LOT of tv right now. Lots! :lol: I simply don't have the energy to do a whole lot anymore!

 

I've been on bedrest since 24 weeks and have a 4 year old son... it is HARD but we are managing! My husband feeds us both before he leaves for work but he doesn't get home until 8 (early night) to sometimes 11 pm! My goal every day is to make it until 4 pm before the TV goes on, then dinner at 6, bathtime at 6:30, books and singing at 7 and bedtime at 7:30!

 

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Hi All,

I am new to Twinstuff and so happy a site like this exist!

I am 26 wks pregnant w/twin girls and have a 12 month old to chase after. Is/was anyone in the same situation while they were expecting their twins? I could sure use some advice on how to get through the day. I am utterly exhausted and already as big as I was when I delivered my first. I find it hard to meet basic needs. Any advice??


I am in the same boat as you. I am 29 weeks pregnant and have a 14 month old that doesn't walk very much right now. I am now bigger than I was with my pregnancy at full term and get so exhausted as well. The only thing that really gets me through the day is my awesome husband. When I get tired, he plays with her in her playroom. I basically sleep when she does so that means one mid-morning nap and one afternoon nap and we both go to bed around 6:30 or 7:00. I just recently had to stop giving her baths because it was killing my back bending over the tub so he took that duty as well. I should mention that I work right now so my toddler goes to day care so I am not sure if you are a SAHM or if you work. If you are a SAHM, maybe you could have someone come in for a couple of hours a day to help out. Maybe a college student or a neighbor.

 

When my twins were born, my son was just 13 months old. I got pregnant when he was 6 months old and of course needed me for everything. He was an active baby and learned to walk a week after his first b-day. He watched a lot of tv, since I was never on bedrest I could take him places and such still. I took a nap whenever he took a nap (which he was taking a nice 3 hour nap)