Nervous

Hi Everyone!

I was hoping I could get some reassurance on some worries I have. Before I got pregnant I was one of those people who thought I would "love" being pregant. When I got pregnant I was so happy, yet somehow I must have forgot that by nature I am the biggest worrier I've ever met in my life. So at my 12 weeks appointment with my doctor, I found out we were having identical twins. I cannot tell you how elated I was to hear this news. How amazing is this my husband and I both thought. And now....my worries are getting the best of me.

My current worries seem to always be about the same things: "are my babies still in there", "are they ok", " will they develope TTTS", "are they going to be healthy". Lately, since I've entered into my second tri-mester and don't have that nausiated feeling I'm almost worried b/c I don't "feel" pregnant anymore. I Know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true. My future worries fall under this topic -- I work 40 hours a week and so does my husband and financially we won't be able to quit so that means day care for the twins (this crushes me). What will we do?

I know so many people tell me not to worry b/c it's out of my hands, but how do I not? I did something crazy and out of character today...I bought a double stroller b/c it was the best deal I've seen. Why is this crazy you ask? B/c in the back of my mind I kept thinking, what if something happens and then I just bought this stroller....what will we do? And then the positive side of me said, your babies will be fine, buy the stroller and be happy.

I Hope I dont sound like a nut case as this is my first real post, but I guess I'd just like to know if there are other worries out there and if there are, how do you cope?

Thanks for listening/reading! Have a great week everyone!


Jenn

EDD - May 21st - Identical twins on the way!!!!

 

Hang in there. My twins were my 3rd pg & I was so worried when we found out it was twins. My husband has twin sisters & I have twin cousins that were born when I was 17, so we knew exactly what we were up against as far as pregnancy complications & just life with twins in general. I went into this strange "hunkered in" thing after we discovered the twins. Like my mission was to grow these babies.....Oh, did I mention I was 20 weeks along? I had a miscarriage 1 year before getting pg with the twins so that really added to my worries as well.
Anyway, I think that it is impossible for Mom's not to worry, but I do think you might want to relax a little. It will be better for you and the babies. I didn't have to worry about the TTS, but all the rest of the stuff, none of us are immune from.
Try to enjoy your pregnancy, as much as possible & enjoy your hubby, because you guys are going to need each other & building that relationship right now is the best thing you can do for your kiddos.

 

:sign0016: to TS 1st of all. and congrats on the twins!! im a 1st time mom and a very big worrier as well. So i completely know what you mean. After every Braxton hick or slight cramp I worry are my babies ok. then we also have the daycare situation to worry about we can financially have a stay at home parent. I also worry were buying all this double stuff but what if sometyhing does happen, wait i cant think like that. Same with TTTS because mine are identical as well. All i try to do is read the succes stories on here, and read up on anything and everything that can happen so i can be prepared. Im only 24wks and ive been to labor & delivery 2x in the last 2 1/2 wks because of mild contractions and a fall on my stairs. Im on modified bedrest which isnt fun but i know my babies are getting big and healthy in there. I think it is only natural to be worried, I think it just says more for you being a good mommy once those little twins are born. The TS website is also good on giving reassuance and help anytime you need it. I would be lost without these girls. Youll be fine hang in there, and if your already in 2nd trimester think u are about half way done lol good luck to you and hope to see more posts from u :hug99:

 

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you will get a lot of support and wonderful words of wisdom from TS. I just wanted to let you know I did the exact same thing with even my first singleton pregnancy… I think I worried myself into bed rest and later pre term labor (he was born at 35 weeks) BUT he turned out a perfectly healthy boy :a_smil09: (if I do say so myself). I had people say over and over to just relax and enjoy, its out of your hands… but no matter what I couldn’t… Maybe its because everything had turned out okay with my son, I am actually more relaxed with my identical twin pregnancy then I was with my singleton… because it is out of my hands… and I will worry when needed and only then… I don’t have my head in the sand, I read a lot on this site and know I may have a rocky road… but I have also read wonderful birth stories and in the end… that’s MY goal… i know all of this is easier said then done... and no matter what was said to me when i was pregnant with my son i couldnt stop worrying, just TRY to focus on ALL the positive stories you can... i am currently doing that with m/s stories... because it seems everytime i turned around some mom is telling me how hers lasted until 2 days before she delivered :shok:
By the way I’m jealous that your m/s is going away… I THINK mine is starting to go away, then again I threw up yesterday morning with no warning :bad: …

 

People are going to tell you not to worry, but you know what, you are going to worry. How can you not? I worry. If I could be in the doc's office having an u/s every day to check on them I would.

You don't sound like a nutcase at all.

Being pregnant brings on lots of worries...being pregnant with twin...well even more.

Talk to your doc about your worries. Talk to us about your worries. I have found the more info I have, I feel a little bit better.

Welcome to TS!! And a big congratulations on your pregnancy

Dianna

 

Congratulation on your pregnancy! There are so many things to worry about!! Sometimes the internet can make those worries worse! I am an identical twin and my mom didn't know she was having twins until she was 7 months long. The doctor was even giving her diet books because she had gained too much weight for a singleton! LOL Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!
:hi: Welcome to TS!

 

OH I know how you feel!! I have 3 sons so I felt like a pregnancy expert before I got pregnant with the girls!! I felt like I would know what was going on and be able to just enjoy if I found out I was pregnant again!

The minute I found out I was pregnant - I was the happiest, most worried person on Earth!!!! I tried to just relax and enjoy my pregnancy but it was hard - I had a easy twin pregnancy (compared to some ladies on here!) and still worried!! I think it is normal to worry - I don't think it is fair that an expecting mommy doesn't have a little window that she can peek in and check on her unborn baby!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!! twins are so amazing!!

 

Welcome to TS! Your concerns and worry sound totally normal! And the stroller purchase...that's called PREPARATION, girl! You are doing the right thing!

 

Hi there! You are totally normal, we all have our different worries with our twin pregnancies and it doesnt really stop.....you just have to stay positive,vent in this message board when you need to, ask for support from this message board. These ladies are amazing, so friendly, helpful, give great advice and we ALL understand how you feel.

I am 32 weeks tomorrow, praise GOD and my husband Bruce for putting up with me to make it this far! :lol: Something that has worked for me along the way.......I read it in Dr.Barbara Luke's book "When You Are Expecting Twins, Triplets or Quads"

Set milestones/goals for yourself:

-You are currently 12weeks? When you hit 13 weeks, the scary risks for miscarriage go way down

- Then make it 20 weeks-when for twins the risks are even LOWER!

-Then make it 24 weeks......WOW the LAND OF VIABILITY! Sigh of relief!

-Then make it 28 weeks......the babies are getting BIG and chances for survival are even BETTER!

-Then make it 32 weeks.....you will be in the home stretches!!


Hang in there, big hugs to you and your little sweet babies! The best thing you can do is talk about your stress, get it out and keep smiling! Good job on getting a great deal on your stroller and that you let yourself induldge a little. Be excited, you are doing something really amazing!!!

xoxoxox jillian in ct