Nervous about 2nd set of twins

Hello Ladies,

I just found out I am pregnant... about 4wks. I have an almost 6yr old and almost 4yr old frat boys who were spontaneously conceived. This latest pregnancy is unplanned...we weren't trying, but honestly we weren't really NOT trying. So, I am excited to be pregnant although yesterday I walked around in a fog after I got my positive test.

I am feeling very nervous about the possibility of having twins again. I am 37yrs old and already have one set so I know I have a higher than normal chance of conceiving twins. I have done a bit of googling on the stats regarding a second set of spontaneous twins. The numbers are all over the place...all the way from one site saying I have a 60% chance of conceiving twins again to another site stating that conceiving twins twice without fertility assistance either time is 1:64,000. I am confused.

I have an appt in two weeks and I know my doc with give me an u/s so I will know for sure by then. But I am an obsessor and worry that I am not going to get any sleep for the next two weeks while I wait to see whats up in there.

Any words of wisdom, reliable statistics, real life stories? Thanks!

 

Congratulations on the baby and welcome to the group! I was nervous about having another set of twins. Not that I wouldn't have been thrilled, but it would have been harder then having a singleton. My Dr. told me that I would have a 1 in 50 chace of conceiving twins again. I think the normal rate is 1 in 80? You'll have to tell us how your appointment goes in two weeks

 

Hello! Twins DO NOT run in my family. My twins were IVF! BUT... I was breastfeeding & I am 38, so we were shocked when the ultrasound showed another set of twins. By the time that week was over, we were VERY excited about them. Unfortunately it was not meant to happen. :cray:
My advice... sit back and try not to think about it. If you are pregnant with twins again, look at all the experience you have. Try not to worry, although I know it is hard not to. These two weeks are going to crawl by. I can't wait to hear your update!

:hi: Welcome to Twinstuff!

 

Hello and Congratulations. Twins do run in my family, there have been 4 sets in the last 4 years. Now 2 of us are pregnant again and we are both having singletons. I can understand why you are anxious so were we. I hope time goes by fast for you and keep us updated!

 

Found a good Twinstuff link on this:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qi...07160803AAj1Akh

Looks like your chances of having a second set of fraternal twins is 1:5, the same as having twins on Clomid.

 

Hi

I want to thank each of you for taking the time to reply.

JicJac: I am sorry to hear of your loss. That must have been devestating. I hope the remainder of your pregnancy and delivery is problem free.

Joyful: I like those odds...1:50...I can deal with that.

TamSam: Those odds are a bit more frightening, but I have heard those numbers as well.

2IrishBlessings: Thanks for the support.

I do feel very selfish and whiny worrying about this. I have a dear friend struggling with infertility and to think that I am being picky about what we have seems so petty.

But to be honest, I am scared! The first year with our twins was so hard (as I am sure it was for all of you) and life has just now gotten fairly easy and fun again. I also just "know" that I will have a boy (or two) and the idea of having 5 boys....oh goodness!

Last night I had a panic attack worrying. I will try to remain calm for the next (longest) two weeks and pay even closer attention to how crazy in love I am with my children. Despite that hard year with the twins, I wouldn't change it for anything. I need to have faith that what is meant to be will be.

Thank you again for your words of support. I will check back and update when I know more.
Amy

 

Amy
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I can understand your being a bit overwhelmed right now. It sounds like you adore your family and I just know that when you see your baby or babies on the ultrasound screen in a couple weeks, you'll be too happy to worry about anything Everything will work out - either way!

 

Hello and congrats on this pregnancy!!! I do'nthave any words of advice, but we have all been there and done that with those "what-if" feelings. I'm only 29, but my twins were spontaneous and they are fraternal and there aren't any others in the family. We decided to take the odds and get pregnant again...a singleton this time around. Goodluck...I hope you get to find out soon.

 

Here's how I would think about it... your "best" odds of having frat twins again are 1 in 5...that's 20%. Yeah, that sounds high...but reverse those odds and you have an 80% chance or better of having just one. That's a pretty high chance that you won't be having twins again. But even if you do, I'm sure you will become warmed up to the idea quickly...and I'm sure another set of twins would appreciate having a sibling a little closer in age... you'll be fine! I was nervous over it happening again to us too, but I found that after my first u/s revealed just one that I was actually kind of disappointed. (Now my brain has kicked back in, and I'm looking forward to really enjoying just one baby this time.)

 

Congrats on your pregnancy!! I was going to say the same thing as Susanna, I've actually shared that logic with another friend of mine with twins who's husband is frightened of having another set of twins. I too have fraternal twins (and twins do not run in my family). We planned on getting prego again and would have been thrilled to have twins again, but we are expecting a singleton. We couldn't be happier just knowing that our family will grow with another loved child.

Hang in there, we have all had those 'two weeks' of wondering to go thru. Try not to worry too much about it and just focus on keeping yourself heathly and anxious free (I know, easier said then done).