Neighbors!

Ug!! So, my kids are playing this morning (just a few minutes ago) and our downstairs neighbor comes up and pounds on my door. Its 8:30 in the morning and he can't sleep. They're making too much noise. It's an old building and the floors make tons of noise. My kids are constantly being awakened by our upstairs neighbors. Noise is a part of apartment living! What on earth am I supposed to do with them until I can get out of this apartment?!? Right now I have them stuck infront of the tv to keep them from running -- they never walk. I'm on the verge of tears. I am at a complete loss. The floors are already almost fully covered between rugs and playmats. Help please!!!

Thanks for listening,

Jenny

 

I hope someone else can offer you some suggestions to make your life less stressful in your apartment. I just wanted to offer a :hug:. Trying to keep little ones quiet, especially when they walk (run!!) is really difficult. They don't understand!

Personally, I think 8:30 is a reasonable time to expect noises in an apartment, but then again I've been forced to be an early riser because of my career, so I rarely make it to 8 on my days off as my body is so used to getting up at 6.

Good luck and you have my empathy!

 

I understand how you feel. I live in a townhouse so I don't have neighbors above or below me just on each side and I have never had my neighbors knock on my door but once I was talking to one of them about one of my girls crying and being really fussy she replies Yah I know I can hear her what going on with her:0 I just replied she going through the terrible twos and teething. So from that point on I feel like I'm walking on eggshell catering to there every need and it shows My other neighbor isn't very friendly and in three years that I have lived here has never talked to me or even made eye contact with me but every now and then when my girls are acting up we will get a big thud on the wall.I try to have the who cares what they hear,think or say about us attitude like my husband but that's not me. I cant wait to get a house!!!

 

I really feel for you! We opted to rent a house this time but are considering an apartment with our next move... I will definitely keep this in mind. I can't imagine someone hearing everything that goes on in our house - tantrums, naptime resistance, etc., etc...!!

:hug: So sorry your neighbor is not more understanding!

 

Oh gosh, that sounds so stressful. Like the PPs, I think 8:30 is high time to be awake, and if your kids are making noise, that's just life. If they were yelling and screaming every morning at 5 and woke the neighbors that would be different. But if the noise is between 8am and 9pm or something like that, I think you just don't worry. Tell your neighbor you try to keep your kids quiet between 9pm and 8am and you're sorry if he's awoken but that they're kids.

 

I would say ditto to pp. If it is just normal kid noise and not at odd hours then I think your neighbor just has to deal with it. Like you said, it is part of apartment living.

 

I would try not to worry about it to much. As a pp said, as long as its not unreasonable times of the morning or night. If you really want to be a 'good' neighbor, you might try taking them outside for a while after breakfast if the weather permits. . but other than that, I'd say your complaining neighbor is out of luck.

Thanks to the pp who mentioned that townhouse neighbors can hear what goes on as well. I just moved into a townhouse, and Ive never heard any noises from them, so I guess I assumed they didnt hear us either. . unless of course someone is screaming very loud. :mellow:

 

Thank you so much for your responses! I thought 8/8:30 was reasonable. The building starts work at 7am. I was so taken aback by the pounding on my door while in my pj's with two babies in the house that I was at a complete loss for a response. Of course, several came to mind when my brain started functioning again. DH called our landlord and he asked us to put in a letter to him. I don't really want to escalate matters. But, now I feel completely uncomfortable in my own home. I called a couple realtors today. And, now I'll be certain not to look at any townhomes (thank you so much for the head's up!). I would be really miserable if I owned the place!!! Grrrrrr. . .

 

Jen,
You have every right in the world to live your life. You have KIds. That's life and I would tell that person to "blow it out their... you know whats!" Seriously! Try not to think about it. YOU and your kids cannot live like that. It would be one thing if you were up boozing and having keggers til 3 am. Not the case. OMG! I would be P*SSED!

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